Long Distance Relationship Support Thread

[BrigidMoon]

Here is the thread, anyone that has a long distance relationship - POST AWAY!

:hugz:

If you have questions, feel free to ask!

We all need help with relationships, everyone is free to share.

[Morr]

I GET TO SEE SEMI IN 15 DAYS!!

YAY ME!



I miss him terribly though.
But believe you me, when I have to leave him to come back here, after the 10 days I'll be spending with him, I'll NEED this thread....

Meh!

[BrigidMoon]

It's so much fun to go visit and the excitement before the visit. After the visit though it generally really sucks. Major withdraw symptoms. BUT.......

It also makes you cherish the relationship even more and that person, don't you think???

[BrigidMoon]

I GET TO SEE SEMI IN 15 DAYS!!

YAY ME!



I miss him terribly though.
But believe you me, when I have to leave him to come back here, after the 10 days I'll be spending with him, I'll NEED this thread....

Meh!

Should this be a sticky yet? Maybe?

[Poledra]

I just finished a visit. My Sweety left yesterday. I miss him, but on the other hand I always enjoy getting my bed back to myself!

Poledra

[Vox Draconis]

I've not seen my other half for a good month now. Come July I'm being packed off to sea for six months, last time I checked I was bound for Antarctica, destination may change, time spent at sea might....just found out it my stint might be extended to 10 months before seeing home again. *sighs*

[Heart of Isis]

I just wish I had a long distance relationship. I don't exactly why, but I like the idea.
Oh well, I realize that it's not going to be in this life.

Heart of Isis

[AineDanu]

Does it count if its strictly online so far because we are over 8000 miles away and he wants me to be the one to come to him which I financially cannot do yet? I figure when the time is right the money will be there - sound right to anyone else or am I just fooling myself?

[Heart of Isis]

Does it count if its strictly online so far because we are over 8000 miles away and he wants me to be the one to come to him which I financially cannot do yet? I figure when the time is right the money will be there - sound right to anyone else or am I just fooling myself?


Seems to me that it would count. After all, is not the internet the very tool and vehicle that makes long distance relationships possible and often times successful if the two parties are adaptable and settled on the relationship?
It would certainly work for me.

Heart of Isis

[Morr]

*dances around*

I'm going to see semi in 10 days!!!!

[Tabby]

*dances around*

I'm going to see semi in 10 days!!!!


Yay! You two are so unbelievably cute together!

[Morr]

HeeHee

Thank you Tabby :)

[Cynyr]

I just finished a visit. My Sweety left yesterday. I miss him, but on the other hand I always enjoy getting my bed back to myself!

Poledra

Have you told "My Sweety" this bit of interesting news?

[The Lady]

How does one maintain a long-distant relationship?

I am asking to see what others do to keep it going.

My one and only experience, was difficult to keep because of the distance, another country! Mind you we are still friends and funny enough still single!

So share please. I might learn something I didn't think of at the time.

[Morr]

Well, we have MW, YIM, phone and snail mail.

Then there's meeting every few months.

We were together last Feb. Semi visited me here. Now I am going to visit him for 10 days over in the US -- YAY!

It takes a lot of communication, trust, honesty and commitment.

[Vox Draconis]

I don't know how me and my hunney keep our relationship together, maybe because we both know that its my job that keeps us apart for long stretches at a time and nothing else and there isn't much we can do about that. Absence makes the heart grow fonder they say...and I find it's very true.

I also agree with Morr, it takes a lot of comunication (no matter how large the sat C phone bill is), commitment, honesty and trust.

[WiccanGoddess]

*joins group*

6 months with first ever girlfriend. Had to be online, and she had to live in Canada. *I live in Louisiana* We're trying. We're not exclusive, but we're doing the best we can.

[Poledra]

Have you told "My Sweety" this bit of interesting news?


Indeed! In fact, I think it's a mark of a healthy relationship. LDR's are a study in extremes. You see nothing of each other for weeks. Then, when you do get to see each other, I find that you tend to shut your life off for the duration of the visit. In a healthy relationship, the partner should be one facet of your life, not your whole life. The fact that you recognize your need for space, in my opinion, shows that when the LDR finally transitions to a normal relationship, both partners will be able sustain lives themselves and know how to go about separate activities.

So, yes, he knows I like having my space in bed, just as I know he likes his :)

Poledra

[BrigidMoon]

How do you feel about internet communcation?

I feel that not seeing each other and having the physical aspect taken out of the communication equation that I learn a lot more about the other person and they learn a lot more about me. Especially the future and dreams and things that I may not normally feel comfortable telling a stranger face to face.

[Morr]

Meh.

Stupid Earth is too big.

Cant North America and the Middle East continents shift next to each other? That way i can make a short drive over too semi and thats it.

*whines*

I miss my Shmoopie!

[yarrow_elfglow]

my sweetheart comes down to see me for a whole 2 days this month. im planing on taking a week off of work and flying up to see him in august

[johenn123]

ick, someone has asked me to be in a relationship with him but he's in MEXICO 0_0 what do I do?

[WokeUpDead]

I'd say go for it. Unless you don't want to. Or if he doesn't speak English. Unless you speak Spanish. I know somebody that always ends up getting crushes on Mexican guys but their English isn't very good and her Spanish is even worse.

[johenn123]

yeah, he speaks english. I'm not sure tho because I havent quite gotten over this other person yet.

[Azul]

Hmmmm weeelllll

i leave for naval bootcamp august 31st, then after 4 monthes im deployed for 4 years, 30 days of leave each year. I also plan on going into college right after i get back for 4 years. Now...

I dont have anyone in mind right now, but if someone comes along before i leave i dont want to miss a chance to be with someone who i might like alot because i wont be here... but it would also be a long distance relationship with someone who i might not have known all that long...

i dont know where i was going with this, think i should avoid it if i get to close to someone, or just take my chances and make sure anyone i get close to is aware of what their getting into?

[Poledra]

*sigh*

My lovely other half is currently gallivanting around Japan while I slog through going to work day after day. I will be meeting him in Asia in July, but I'm missing him much more than usual (ours is ldr normally) since he's 14 hrs ahead and we have much less contact than normal.

No real point, just unloading.

As for Azul, my advice would be to live your life. The emphasis in that sentence should first be on live, and then on your.

You should LIVE your life.

Now until you leave, have fun, and do what comes naturally and worry about a long distance situation if and when it comes up. It is no use worrying about things before they happen.

You should live YOUR life.

If and when you find someone special before you leave, all I can say is make sure you follow your dreams.

Poledra

[Morr]

*hugs* Poledra

I know how you're feeling, even with just 7 hours difference, sometimes semi and I go through days without being able to speak because of our schedules.

I miss him very much.

He will be here in September.

3 months from now.

*sigh*

That kinda upsets me. It seems like forever!

[semi]

Time and distance are just minor obstacles to overcome.

[Sowelu]

Long distance relationships are hard! It takes 2 special people to make these types of relationships work. Kinda like a "Standing the test of time" type of thing.
Imagine what it was like for two people in love and thousands of miles apart back when there were no phones and the only communication were to write letters and hope they got to their destinations safely.
:) http://www.mysticwicks.com/images/icons/icon12.gif

[Morr]

I'd be lost if semi and I didnt have the internet or phones!

[semi]

Long distance relationships are hard! It takes 2 special people to make these types of relationships work. Kinda like a "Standing the test of time" type of thing.
Imagine what it was like for two people in love and thousands of miles apart back when there were no phones and the only communication were to write letters and hope they got to their destinations safely.
:) http://www.mysticwicks.com/images/icons/icon12.gif


Special, yes. I'm riding the short bus all the way. I'm very fortunate to have found someone willing to tolerate me. She is worth the wait.

[Gwenhwyfar]

LOL @ riding the short bus!

Morr & Semi...has anyone ever told you guys you make the bestest lookin couple?? You really do!

[semi]

LOL @ riding the short bus!

Morr & Semi...has anyone ever told you guys you make the bestest lookin couple?? You really do!


Thanks! We have a Beauty and the Beast thing going on. Guess which one I am!

[Sowelu]

LOL @ riding the short bus!

Morr & Semi...has anyone ever told you guys you make the bestest lookin couple?? You really do!

I agree!!!!

[Sowelu]

Thanks! We have a Beauty and the Beast thing going on. Guess which one I am!

:lol:

[Morr]

Heh

Thank you ladies.

[StarEyedShelly]

I'm glad I found this thread :)

I'm going to enter a long-distance relationship in August. My lovely boyfriend goes to college in my hometown. I just graduated, and am going to college in another state. It's about a 10 hour drive, but only a one-hour flight, I guess. :-/ I'm so worried that we're going to grow apart. Part of it is, we're both very physical people. We're always all over each other, and we see each other almost every day (now that we're both out of school) and if I don't see him, I at least call him to see how he's doing. When I go off to college, I know it's going to be a huge shock not having him around just to hug and kiss, you know? I don't want to lose him. I'm closer to him than I've been with any other guy...I know it's going to hurt so much to be apart. Part of me knows that we'll get through it, like so many others have done, but then again, I feel as though my time with him is just running out, and that the day I leave for college will be the end of all this happiness I've experienced with him by my side :(

Well, thanks for reading. Any advice? Or maybe just hugs? If anybody had or is having a similar experience at my age, I'd love to hear how you coped. Thanks :)

[Duwayitheru]

My fiance and I met online about 5 years ago. He lived in Colorado, I lived in New Hampshire. We were able to fly to eachother every few months for a week or two, school and such kept us apart for most of the year. The best feeling in the world is when we were apart for months, and finally got to hug or hold hands again. Of course, leaving was one of the worst feelings..

Last summer he moved alone to Washington, for college. I was finally able to join him, and move into his appartment, a few months after he moved (surgery kept me from it). We actually get to do things like go out and be a normal couple, we even got to spend our anneversay together for the first time. Our birthdays as well. The long distance thing was so hard, but it was also so worth it. I can't imagine being with any other guy.

I've been visiting home for the last month, I get to see him again in 8 days. I miss him a lot, I am excited for that first hug. :)

[Morr]

<whine-fest>

I miss semi!!!

I dont want to wait another 2 months till I see him!

Meh.

Is it September yet?

*sigh*

*tears*

Meh!

</whine-fest>

[Bluewillow]

I understand what a long-distance relationship can be like. My husband and I met online over three years ago. He lived here in England, and I in Oregon. After a little bit of time, we just knew "This is it". We had a relationship of letters, phone calls, IM's, emails, care packages, you name it. I can't really explain how we knew that we'd found our respective other halves; we just did, through and through. And it was very, very difficult to deal with the distance. There were many teary phone calls. This went on for nearly two years before we were able to meet in person, and then we had a week before he had to go back home. During that time, he asked me to marry him. Of course, I accepted. When he left, both of us were positively crushed. We truly learned how wonderful and alive we felt together, and when he was a world away again, it was as though life had paled immeasurably. Nine months later, he came back, and we had a small, simple, lovely wedding in a wooded park in the next town over. We went for my spouse visa and I moved here to England. We get along beautifully, and know each other inside out. I guess I just wanted to let you know that someone else out there understands how difficult a long distance relationship can be. I hope you don't mind my rambling, and I wish you the very best in your future together. :D

[Morr]

*hugs*

Thanks Bluewillow :)

Just a couple more months we have, then we will be married here in Israel. However, since the marriage will not be recognized/legal in Israel (there are no civil ceremonies here, it must be an Orthodox Jewish ceremony, since semi isnt Jewish that is not possible for us), so it wont be recognized in the US. We are going for the Fianc&#233; visa in the US. We handed in all the papers, and hoping we will be approved by Sepetember-October at the latest.

Then, we hope to be able to have a civil ceremony in the US on October 31st.

So... Just a few more months *crosses fingers*


Thank you for your support :) I know quite a few more people know what we're going through. The internet has opened a huge opportunity for people to meet, fall in love and create a wonderful relationship.

[Bluewillow]

You guys are really a cute couple. :) I hope everything goes really well with your visa and all! That process can be really nervewracking. lol I'm so thankful for the internet, too. So many people have found the love of their life online, not to mention lasting friendships. It truly builds a bridge across the world. lol Anyway, again, very best of luck with all your plans!! :D

[Morr]

I agree!

And thank you for the good wishes! I appriciate it :)

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