Faithful?

[flar7]

Have you ever been unfaithful, in a carnal way, to you significant
other?

It should be obvious on this poll that if you post, you dont need
to say how you voted.

Also, if you are going to post and vote, look at the poll results
because you may change your idea about posting if you are the
only yes or the only no vote.

This question has many sides and permutations, I have never
cheated on someone whom I was having a relationship with, but
when single I have been the other man... Not my best moment.

[AradiaSupernova]

heya :)

I fall into the "no, even though they did" category. I'm not a very trusting person, but once someone gains my respect and my trust, I'm VERY loyal to them, friend or significant other. I don't think I'd ever cheat. I know how much it hurts to have that happen to someone.

[Kaylara]

On past boyfriends, yes. On my present one, nope, and never will.

Kaylara

[Danustouch]

Nope...never have cheated on my husband. Never cheated on anyone in the past, either. There were times of temptation, in the past, with other boyfriends. But I never acted out on the temptation. And usually, wound up breaking up with the boyfriend, because I knew there had to be something wrong in the relationship, if I was being tempted to cheat.

So...nope. Never cheated :)

[crystal_night]

I haven't ever cheated on my husband. I've been tempted I will admit. Our first year of marriage was very rocky and at times I think we even hated each other (as much as two people who still love each other can). But events drew us closer than I could ever have imagined being with another person and I couldn't think of cheating on him. He is my soul mate and the only person I could even imagine myself being with. :heartthro

[Myst]

I did when I was younger and couldn't break up with the guy coz he "couldn't live without me", then broke up with him anyway and dated the other guy for awhile, then broke up with him and got back together with the first one for another few years (tho looking back that was dumb - obviously I cheated and wanted to be with someone else for a reason, and when someone more compatible came along I broke up with the first guy again and that was it).

[Faery-Wings]

Nope. The guy I married, I knew I was going to marry the minute I saw him. And we both said from the very beginning, that cheating would break our trust in each other. We had both had some shi*** relationships before we met and I knew I wouldn't tolerate it. Now I couldn't even imagine really kissing another guy- we have been together almost 12 years too.

I also told him that he better not go back to drugs- he was very addicited to just about everything except heroin before we met. I also went out with a bunch of alcoholics and addiucts and didn't want to go that way either.

So far so good!

Chris

[JuNiPeR]

I made some mistakes at the very beginning of the relationship, but we talked about it and worked past it. But I will won't cheat on my boyfriend again, I love him to much to lose him.

[Myst]

I should add that in my current relationship we've both agreed to break up or at least discuss a problem when it arises instead of cheating, since I really think that cheating is a sign of a deep seated relationship problem, and that if you can't face it and handle it the relationship needs to be fixed anyway.

I think if I did cheat he'd probably go to jail for severely maiming the other person.

[Ravensnest]

Never cheated, past or present.. boyfriends or husbands. I grew up with a father who cheated on my mother it's one of those absolute no nos to me. I was cheated on by my ex and eventually he left me for someone else but, I never cheated on him. After we split up I dated lots but, they all knew about each other. I was very open and honest even invited them all to my birthday party so they would KNOW I was serious about NOT getting serious. They were each told I would date others and what I did with others was none of their business they had a choice either they could deal with that and we would continue seeing each other or they couldn't deal with it and we could remain friends or not either way was fine with me. I had so many dates I had to have date book to keep them straight. I met my now hubby at that time and even dated a friend of his before I dated him. Once we started dating it was all over.. I didn't want to see anyone else and we've been together ever since. Dated for 2 years and then got married. We'll celebrate our 8th wedding anniversary this year. I told him he doesn't have to ever worry about me cheating he saw how I dated.. he KNOWS I would tell him. Besides, if I ever decided to cheat I'd just leave because that's the only reason I'd be cheating anyway.

I just see no justification for hurting someone you love that way. And the worst thing anyone ever said to me "it didn't mean anything" Okay, so let me get this straight.. you hurt me this badly over NOTHING!!?!!?!?!?!?! If you want to cheat.. leave. That's how I feel about it anyway. If I wanted to sleep with others I wouldn't be married!

[WolfWoman]

I went thru a period in my early 20's where cheating on boyfriends was the norm; probably because it kept me from getting too close. Now on the other hand I'm about as faithful as an old dog - not to mention that now as I'm getting older I'm a little too honest for my own good and I have a conscience (I have no idea where THAT came from)!!!

[faeriedust]

i could never do that to anyone. it hurts way too much. i have been cheated on more than i would like to admit and it has permantly affected my trust in relationships and that makes it extremely hard for the good one that may come along.

[amberlaine]

my husband and i both did a lot of stupid things early in our marriage. the upside to it all is that we have a stronger marriage now for it, and the trust is stronger now than it ever was.

[bawoozel]

So why am I so tempted now?!?!? I love my husband
I knew we would be together from the first time our eyes met. I could use a good talking to.
We have been married for four years and have four beautiful children. (Two from a previous marriage) I have never thought of cheating on him. But lately I have found myself drawn to this other man. But I love my husband so much and could never imagine hurting him. I feel guilty ya know? But I haven't done anything, but fantasize.
He fantasizes about other women all the time and it doesn't bother me. I think its normal. Why does this worry me so much?

[Angelwulfe]

no, i've never cheated*and i*don't*plan to either. my fiancee and i are so in love. i could never do that to him. besides i don't want any one else. we knew we'd be together as soon as we saw each other the first time, heck i even knew i'd some day have his kid. i'm not going to ruin a great thing while i have it.

[Old Witch]

Never cheated in 29 yrs. Never will!

[manstranger]

Yes, i have. I don't think it was a mistake. I don't regret it. But nor do i think they deserved it.

[Danustouch]

Myst, something you said earlier reminded me of a conversation I had with my husband a while ago. I told him that if he ever felt the urge to cheat, or if I did, we would discuss the problem before we actually did it. Because then we could discuss our options. Whether or not we wanted to separate for a while, try an open relationship (which is not something i'm overly comfortable with..but..it's an option that could be discussed), or whether there were a serious problem in our relationship that we needed to work on.

But the truth is, at this point in my life, I think cheating would be a rather immature move on my part, or his for that matter. IMO...two mature adults, do not have to lie and sneak around. They don't need to run away from their problems. They can be open, honest, and straightfoward with eachother.

[Myst]

Originally posted by Danustouch
IMO...two mature adults, do not have to lie and sneak around. They don't need to run away from their problems. They can be open, honest, and straightfoward with eachother.

I agree wholeheartedly with your entire post. We made the same agreement.

[MammaStar]

Well, I guess I'm the lone, "yes, but they did first". Before I met Eshallet, who I would NEVER EVER NEVER cheat on. EVER. I was with a guy, who I was madly in love with, or so i thought. We had known each other for YEARS, back when we were in school. When I was pregnant, my son's dad and I were not together, Paul would come around and we just kind of "fell" into a relationship. But, he could never stay faithful to me. After about 6 years of this, I had a fling, and that's all it was, a fling, with another guy. And of course, he threw that in my face, knowing he cheated on me countless times. It's amazing when you live in a "small town" and you cheat on your significant other, they find out and he never understood that. :rolleyes:

Of course, I finally broke it off with him. About a year later, I met Eshallet and well, I guess i grew up as well. Because for one, I know for a FACT that Eshallet would NEVER EVER cheat on me. Told me early on how much he despises that in a relationship and secondly, I LOVE him, completely. My whole heart is his and his alone (okay, my son shares too. :D ) I'm happy, and like Myst and Danustouch have said, in a mature adult relationship, there's not need for cheating. :cool:

[Alphyna]

Well, I have never physically cheated on my husband, but emotionally, and mentally I have. I am not proud of this, but he is aware of it. We believe in full honesty in our marriage, which can be painful at times, but its best to know and trust eachother, than be in ignorance.
I am bisexual, and there came a time in my life, after 2 yrs of marriage to my husband, when I started to fall for another person, a female who came into my life, I believe not by chance. We fell in love, and it was trying on all of us. Some people judge me and say it was all my fault, but if 2 people feel a certain way, there is no fault. It just is. We never crossed into a physical relationship, I would not even hug her, it was too painful to be that close. Eventually, we got to a point that we started to resent our relationship, even though we were good friends, we went our separate ways. I still think of her too often, but someday we will heal. I don't regret meeting her, and I love the time we spent together, for I learned so much about my life, and she, hers.
It was not easy for my husband, but I appreciate soo much his understanding and patience. We have a lifetime together, and now I am fully ready to continue the journey with him!
Many Blessings To All, Alphyna

[Twilight Garden]

I could never cheat. I never have in all my past and never will. My husband is entirely faithful. He has never cheated in his past either and I know he just doesn't have it in him to cheat. :hearteyes

I have never had a boyfriend actually "go all the way" cheating on me, but one kissed another girl. My husband's ex cheated on him for the entire duration of their "marriage" and before they were even married. He knew about a few times and they "tried to work it out." She even tried to tell me that she did it so much because she was trying to get his attention. I believe she was trying to get the attention of her male friends a little more. :nyah:

[Haedis]

never have and i could never bring myself to do it. if i wanted to fool around with someone other than who i was with...i would just break up with my boyfriend. but i'm very much in love...so i wouldnt do that either.

[SimplyStrange]

Crap, I voted no, although I meant to post "No, even though they did."

Because I was cheated on, but have never cheated myself.

[flar7]

I changed your vote for you!:spidey:

[Pagecrd]

cheated before. i do regret it but i wouldnt change the past because ima firm believer that everything happens for a reason. i meant to vote yes but he did it first but didnt get to change it. i could go on and on about this all day but then id cry and then id take up so much space :(

[flar7]

would you like your vote corrected?

[Pagecrd]

please :)

[Kiya]

...but... I did meet someone when I was married that I fell in love with. I hadn't been happy in my marriage for a long time, so I left to be with the man I fell in love with. Trouble is, he wasn't the right guy for me anyway!!

Oh well, I'm single again, and there isn't anyone in my romantic life now.

I'm going to stay stubbornly single for quite a while!!!

[Danustouch]

Okay...here's another question then. Have you fantasized about cheating on your spouse, or about being with another person?

I mean..I think that's a normal biological thing. Fantasy life is normal. Just as long as you don't act on it, and it doesn't become an escape for problems in your relationship.

I have personally fantasized about differen't men than my husband. Men I was with in the past, or men that I've met since marrying him. But...it's not as if I would discuss this with him. Fantasy life is healthy, and normal. And it's not as if I've spoken to the men i've fantasized about, regarding it. It's just my own private get away, mentally.

What are your thoughts on this? Is it normal and healthy? Or do you believe that it is wrong?

[manstranger]

I don't think I ever could act out on my fantasies.... mmmm on jenifer lopez, aniston, and bruce willis.

And ps, i think its normal to fantasise both in and out of intercourse. And perfectly fine. It might hurt your partners ego that your thinking about somebody else while you'r engaging in intercourse, though, so you might not want to tell them.

[Shy Hawk]

I fall into the "no, even though she cheated on me" catagory...pathetic enough, however, I'm over it. I'm no cheat.
Hawk

[Myst]

Originally posted by Danustouch
What are your thoughts on this? Is it normal and healthy? Or do you believe that it is wrong?

I tend to think your thoughts and feelings are never "wrong" unless you act on them and hurt someone. So no I don't feel fantasizing is wrong at all; I think it's natural to think what it would be like to have something you don't. I know who my mate has fantasized about and he knows who I have fantasized about; we both know nothing will ever come of it and that we still love eachother more then anything (like he said one day, "yeah I could spin her a few times but damn I wouldn't to speak to her before, during, or after")

[Pagecrd]

i think its very normal and healthy to fantasize about other people. i know i do and so does my boyfriend

[Happydog]

Fantasies are perfectly normal in a marriage. I think there'd be trouble if someone DIDN'T fantasize a little bit.

I never bother worrying too much about the fantasies, I just let them float in and out of my mind as they will.

[Psyche Ague]

I cheated on my last serious boyfriend...3 times. I think he was cheating on me, too. He also lied to me...a LOT. But that's not why I did it. I'm not proud of it at all, but I've learned from my mistakes and I have my priorities straight now. I haven't cheated on my current boyfriend at all nor do I plan on it. :)

And everyone fantasizes. How do you think I get through psychology? (I have the WORST teacher in the world...) ;)

[Lucidia]

yeah i've done it. no i don't regret it, because it was a signal that there was something wrong in my current relationship, and so it ended.

i would NEVER cheat on my husband. i love him. fully.

if you cheat on someone, it probably means that your feelings aren't quite what you may have thought they were.

i don't think it's always a bad thing. yeah it hurts the other person, but wouldn't it hurt just as much to find out later that you didn't really love them? either way the relationship isn't working.

however, i do know some people that have worked out their relationships after a cheating episode.

all in all though, i dont' agree with it. if you really need to sleep with other people then have an open relationship, or come to some kind of polyamourous situation, and ALWAYS be HONEST.

[Danustouch]

Myst...lol..actually when John talks about some women on the Television that he thinks is hot, he says something like that too. Always assures me that it's just a physical lusting thing, and nothing compared to what he and I have. Even though I don't ask for the assurance. So..that's pretty nice.

The only time I evvvvvvvvvver told John who I fantasized about, was while he and I were just dating. He called, and woke me out of a deep sleep. I'd been dreaming of making out with Ricky Martin. EWWWW! In real life, I can't STAND Ricky Martin. But..I guess my dream life has a mind of its' own. LOL.

Anyway..now it's a common joke between me and John whenever Ricki comes on the Radio, or television. "honey..there's your lover". LMAO.

[Lucidia]

i think fantasies can be fine, but keeping in mind that they aren't fantasies that NEED to be acted upon. and that you don't NEED to fantasize about other people to enjoy being intimate with your partner. animals we are, and so we think about stuff, BUT... i think there is a line to be drawn... and it's important to analyze why you are having these thoughts, and make sure it's not because of some inadequacy in your current situation.

and it would kill my ego if my hubby was thinking about someone else while we were.. being intimate. i'd probably kill myself. i'm already way insecure. and i dont' need to fantasize about other men to be sexually fulfilled.. so why would he?

[Danustouch]

Well....yeah..that's not exactly something I do..lol. When I fantasize, its' certainly not while i am WITH him. lol. If he fantasizes about someone else while he's with me, i certainly don't want to know about it. lol.

Oh...incidentally, MUTUAL fantasies can be a load of fun. lol.

[Haedis]

Two words....Angelina Jolie. Of COURSE I fantasize about other people. My boyfriend denies that he ever fantasizes about anyone except for me, which makes me feel really stupid for thinking the way I do sometimes. I dont think theres anything wrong with it unless your partner makes you feel guilty for it (like mine does). But he never gets upset about it...he just gets this little puppy dog face and mopes for a while. Such a mature guy. I love him...but he's driving me nuts!

[Crystal_Raye]

I had an internet boyfriend if that counts. I sorts got close to another person online while I was with my first "boyfriend". I felt kinda bad but after the lie he told me I have no regrets.

[samiaminsane]

I've only ever been in one other long-term 'real' relationship and I never cheated on him, hell, I ended up ending it because someone else kissed me.
Have never, will never cheat on my SO, he is everything I'll ever need.
I had been the 'other woman' many a time in my wild days though.

[MerrisHawk]

Can't say I haven't had the opportunity, but in my mind a promise is a promise, in a marriage or a relationship. You don't go back on your word for sex.

This is what fits me, I can't throw rocks at anyone, we each have different lives and situations. For someone else, in another situation, cheating might be the only thing to do.

[zakzekezedd]

I don't know if the guy would count as a "significant other", we had been engaged and at the time I was desperately trying to end the relationship because I knew it was going to be a monumental mistake to let things go any farther than they already had. It's not something I'm particularly proud of.....but in all truth, letting myself get "railroaded" into an engagement when I wasn't certain I wanted to make that kind of committment is probably the more grievious error in the long run.

[Aine of the Fae]

Nope never cheated. Of course I'm allowed to play and so is he....

[Kalika]

In the past, yes. In the present, no. :p

[soilsigh aingeal]

I've never cheated.

[DixieWitch]

I've actually cheated only once...and they guy I cheated with is now my husband!! With the exception of him and my very first boyfrind, I've been cheated on, but never did the cheating.

[Sylvan]

I did, but the relationship was broken down past the point of no return at that time anyway.
Turns out that the day after I did, he decided that we needed "some time apart".. and I found out that he'd cheated on me numerous times with different people. :rolleyes:

So we got divorced, and I am fully happy with my current hubby and would never cheat on him. This relationship isn't as screwed up as the first one was.

[frigga]

Never cheated on my Hubby and never will! The guilt alone would be the worst Karmic debt ever!

[Mab]

on my ex, yes....out of starvation & neglect. No excuse, but I did. My current was the other man, and I was his other woman. We both made mistakes marrying the ppl we did, and are trying desparately to get everything cleaned up at present. Not something I'm proud of, but......there ya go. At least I'm honest about it, right? *shrug*

(Just please don't lecture me. I'm already troubled enough by it.)

[Romani Vixen]

I broke the rules of an open relationship. At the time, my thinking was totally out of wack... and I didn't even think that I was doing anything wrong... until the fates smacked me and I realized all at once what I did. He forgave me. I don't know how long, or even if, I'll ever forgive myself.

[djmixon]

I have been the other woman and have had another man. . .my current was my partner as both. . .

We were both stuck in bad and loveless marriages and found solace first as best friends and then as lovers. Only after we had individually decided to leave our marriages did we pursue a physical relationship. Not that it makes it better, but that is how it was done.

As for did if I cheated with anyone else. . .well there was a time when my then lover/now husband and I decided we needed a break to see if what we had was real or just lust. . .I had a fling with a couple of other men. . .he had a fling with another woman. . . We realized we couldn't do that to each other. . .and got back together.

We both divorced our respective spouses and married each other. No intentions of doing anything different either. . .we are soul mates and blissfully happy with each other, even when things are not the greatest. . .we are friends before we are lovers.

D

[Terestai]

I've never cheated... but my fiance of five years cheated on me at least once that I knew of (I suspected others though). I know the last one definitely happened, because she left me for him.

I'd never be able to cheat on anyone after some of the things I've seen in my life, as well as things that I've been told... :sniffsnif

[Boogins]

Nope.

[Tea Leaf]

I totally agree with Ravensnest! 100%

[sincerebliss]

I personally could never cheat on anyone. I am still young but I wouldn't want anyone to have a pain in their heart because of me. I would be somewhat responsible if someone cheated on me because I would be the one who dated that person. I definitely wouldn't say it's all my fault..or even half..just a tiny bit on my decision making. I think everyone is meant to go through ups and downs in life. The most important part is how you handle them.......................:)

[Sleet]

We have a monogamous relationship and I have lived up to that.

[djmixon]

Well, I never thought I would cheat either. My first cheated on me (with his ex-wife no less). And my second husband had a stash of kiddie porn. . .so we didn't indulge (or at least I didn't - I was working out an escape plan - like turning him in to the police/or just moving one day while he was at work). . .

Ah well. . .I wouldn't recommend it for anyone because you always have that thought in the back of your head. . .once a cheater, always a cheater. . .but I know my hubby pretty dang well and I keep tabs on him. . .just like he keeps tabs on me. Not really a trust issue, more of a self esteem issue - like self worth. . .

IMNSHO
Donna

[aluokaloo]

On past boyfriends, I have, but I knew in the back of mind they were doing the same thing. I never cheated on the father of my child much to my surprise. But now when it comes to my relationships, I have friends who know that I will be with other guys and I know that they have their little pieces of action, so that right there isn't typically cheating since everyone knows and agrees! Remember The Jungle Book, One man two women, lucky man! Well, not all at one time but one woman, five men Reeaaalllyy lucky woman! :hmmmmm: :drool: :drinking: :smoochypo :bothsides

[aluokaloo]

Myst...lol..actually when John talks about some women on the Television that he thinks is hot, he says something like that too. Always assures me that it's just a physical lusting thing, and nothing compared to what he and I have. Even though I don't ask for the assurance. So..that's pretty nice.

The only time I evvvvvvvvvver told John who I fantasized about, was while he and I were just dating. He called, and woke me out of a deep sleep. I'd been dreaming of making out with Ricky Martin. EWWWW! In real life, I can't STAND Ricky Martin. But..I guess my dream life has a mind of its' own. LOL.

Anyway..now it's a common joke between me and John whenever Ricki comes on the Radio, or television. "honey..there's your lover". LMAO.


I understand I had a dream when I was about 4 months pregnant with Shannon that I was um getting it on with David Lee Roth in his younger days, and my then fiance heard the whole thing because I was pretty vocal about it! WQhen hementioned it too me I was so embarrassed! :goodgrief :whatgives

[djmixon]

One man two women, lucky man! Well, not all at one time but one woman, five men Reeaaalllyy lucky woman! :hmmmmm: :drool: :drinking: :smoochypo :bothsides
Okay. . .if one man, two women doesn't make the woman lucky. . .then you aren't doing it right. . .

As for one woman, five men. . .hmmmmm as long as there is a little bi action going. . .I might watch. . .(there is something strangely erotic about that, I don't know what, though)

[djmixon]

I understand I had a dream when I was about 4 months pregnant with Shannon that I was um getting it on with David Lee Roth in his younger days, and my then fiance heard the whole thing because I was pretty vocal about it! WQhen hementioned it too me I was so embarrassed! :goodgrief :whatgives
Maybe not DLR, but Antonio Banderas. . . . . . . .HUBBA HUBBA HUBBA

*reaches over and turns the fan on HI. . .fans self. . .*
I need some water. . .

[Mab]

Okay. . .if one man, two women doesn't make the woman lucky. . .then you aren't doing it right. . .

As for one woman, five men. . .hmmmmm as long as there is a little bi action going. . .I might watch. . .(there is something strangely erotic about that, I don't know what, though)

wow...dj....I had no idea. You pretty much took the words right out of my mouth! :hehehe:

[djmixon]

My inner freak was speaking. . .remember I am a preacher's kid. . .:devil:

[djmixon]

Never cheated, past or present.. boyfriends or husbands. I grew up with a father who cheated on my mother it's one of those absolute no nos to me. I was cheated on by my ex and eventually he left me for someone else but, I never cheated on him. After we split up I dated lots but, they all knew about each other. I was very open and honest even invited them all to my birthday party so they would KNOW I was serious about NOT getting serious. They were each told I would date others and what I did with others was none of their business they had a choice either they could deal with that and we would continue seeing each other or they couldn't deal with it and we could remain friends or not either way was fine with me. I had so many dates I had to have date book to keep them straight. I met my now hubby at that time and even dated a friend of his before I dated him. Once we started dating it was all over.. I didn't want to see anyone else and we've been together ever since. Dated for 2 years and then got married. We'll celebrate our 8th wedding anniversary this year. I told him he doesn't have to ever worry about me cheating he saw how I dated.. he KNOWS I would tell him. Besides, if I ever decided to cheat I'd just leave because that's the only reason I'd be cheating anyway.

I just see no justification for hurting someone you love that way. And the worst thing anyone ever said to me "it didn't mean anything" Okay, so let me get this straight.. you hurt me this badly over NOTHING!!?!!?!?!?!?! If you want to cheat.. leave. That's how I feel about it anyway. If I wanted to sleep with others I wouldn't be married!
I agree with you. . . and I did leave . . . of course I cheated before I could leave. I moved him into an apartment. . . furnished it for him. . .paid his first and last. . .gave him money and a new checking acct. . .gave him a car (it was kine before we married and we did not buy another while married. . .I got al his utilities turned on. . . etc. . .

I wanted to just move one day while he was at work. I even had a movbing company on standby. It was all mine from before we met, so he didn't have any claim anyway. . . but I decided to take a higher road. . .I let him keep his kiddie porn stash and didn't turn him over to the sheriff

[Kadynas]

I cheated on an ex once... It was more of a last-ditch effort for attention then anything else... Once we got engaged, he like /totally/ ignored me... sexually, emotionally, you name it. Talking didn't work, lingerie didn't work, my genuine tears of hurt made no difference... in the end, cheating didn't work either, but it did help me realize that I was never going to get what I wanted from him, and that there were others who could love me. What can I say? I was young and stupid! :lol: Even though the guy was a jerk, I still felt guilty for doing it.

My current guy though? Never have and never will... he really is the right guy for me and I don't even feel the need to be with anyone else. He fulfills me in so many areas that I finally feel I've got all the things I want in one guy. :D

[Muireannach]

Monogamous to death. If you cheat on someone it's obvious you aren't in love.

[Mab]

I cheated on an ex once... It was more of a last-ditch effort for attention then anything else... Once we got engaged, he like /totally/ ignored me... sexually, emotionally, you name it. Talking didn't work, lingerie didn't work, my genuine tears of hurt made no difference... in the end, cheating didn't work either, but it did help me realize that I was never going to get what I wanted from him, and that there were others who could love me. What can I say? I was young and stupid! :lol: Even though the guy was a jerk, I still felt guilty for doing it.

My current guy though? Never have and never will... he really is the right guy for me and I don't even feel the need to be with anyone else. He fulfills me in so many areas that I finally feel I've got all the things I want in one guy. :D

Yep. Same here. That's what happened to me. My ex ignored me right around the end of our first year of marriage, and nothing I did helped. That's how I feel about my current, too. He's my soul mate, and the thought of anyone else touching me makes me physically ill. I didn't want to hurt my ex, it just sort of happened. The connection with my current, though......well, I'd do anything in the world to protect him from anyone or anything that might hurt him, including me.

[HorseCrow]

No, never have.... and don't think I ever could, the guilt would eat me up.

[FaerieGothMommy]

Nope, never will!

[flar7]

Its a good idea to say, "I will try not to," not "never"

That is the hardest thing to accept when you "fall" from what you thought of yourself. Allow that you are human, and then strive to be faithful. Try as hard as you can, but dont make a blanket statement that will crush you if you fail. :doh2:

I have fallen to that. I swore I would "never" cheat with a married woman......
*newsflash* life can make you eat your words. very hard to accept.

[misschief]

i've cheated.. been cheated on... been the 'other' woman... yeah.

[misschief]

My inner freak was speaking. . .remember I am a preacher's kid. . .:devil:*sigh*.. so am i. lmao, funny how we are so different from the rest..

[RelicRavenEye]

I went with no because I have never cheasted on my current signifigant other.

Now past ones.....

[OriginalWacky]

I had to say no, not because I've never been with another man, say, while I was married... but because at the time I had left the ex, and was moved halfway across the country, and the ex knew it was over. That's the closest I ever came to cheating, and I still don't think it was.

Even though my ex cheated on me (regularly, though he claimed he didn't...I had emails and IMS logged, and he was certainly talking about it as if he had), I never went out to get even or anything like that. I met The Mate after I had left and moved (although I'd known him online as a friend for several years), and since The Mate was married (poly type- his wife was thrilled that he was going off to see me and set it up a lot), I also semi-dated another man (he musta been the rebound one or something). Since they both knew I was dating the other, that isn't cheating.

I'd like to be able to say that I will never cheat, but I think I'll word it as thus: At this point in time, I can't imagine any situation which would cause me to cheat. I can't even imagine a situation that I would be secure enough in, or have the need to have an open relationship with The Mate. Lucky for me, he feels the same way now, and we both know that honesty is key in our relationship, so nothing is going to happen without discussion first. As he puts it, "I"ve already lived nearly every fantasy a man can have, and now al I want is to be with you." Talk about making my heart melt. ::big sigh::

I don't condemn anybody who does cheat, though I feel it's wrong, I can't expect others to live up to MY ethics. I certainly have no problem with those who lead a poly lifestyle, I sort of tried it and found that it wasn't really workable for me. But I know several people who are blissfully happy, and have been that way for years in poly love.

Wow, I could probably write for hours on this alone, but we're going to have to start getting our picnic together, and having FUN.

[aluokaloo]

Okay. . .if one man, two women doesn't make the woman lucky. . .then you aren't doing it right. . .

As for one woman, five men. . .hmmmmm as long as there is a little bi action going. . .I might watch. . .(there is something strangely erotic about that, I don't know what, though)


DJ! :nonono: :rotfl:

[savannahrose44]

No, I'm a loyalist. Although they have cheated on me I have never stooped so low. :bigblue:

[Black RiverWolf]

i have never cheated been cheated on and been with a guy who did not know what her wanted in life but.. right now im with a guy that i love dearly and to do anything to hurt him would eat me up inside totally

[Gwenhwyfar]

I could never cheat, being cheated on is one of my worst nightmares (literly), I dont know how many times Iv ended relationships due to being cheated on....IT SUCKS!!