what do you think?

[nautia]

What do you think the most painful thing in the world is? I'm not talking physically either, just what you think is the hardest thing to deal with emotionally. Things like.. love, loss, whatever you feel.

[Danustouch]

Well..besides the death of a loved one, which I would guess most of us would rank at #1...

I would say Marriage. Marriage is one of the most difficult things to deal with, at least for me. And it bugs me when I see those...umm.."perfect" couples. You know..the kind that are glued together at the hip, and almost never have a fight or a problem.

Marriage is difficult. Because, when you marry someone, you form a whole differen't entity. That of a couple. And yet, you maintain your individuality. At least...one would hope. Since each individual has their own issues, baggage, goals, passions, likes, dislikes, beliefs, urges, etc, etc, etc, there are bound to be problems which arise here and there along the way. And sometimes, those problems can be quite overwhelming. And yet..you need to try to overcome them, because you recognize that the two of you are a "Team".

So...you have to try to reach compromises. You have to try to come to agreements, and you have to be willing to do a whole lot of sacrifice, and tongue biting.

None of this is easy. I guess it makes it easier, if you marry someone with a similar personality, or similar belief system. But no two people are exactly alike. So no matter what, there will always be something to disagree about.

So..I happen to think that marriage is one of the most difficult things to deal with in life.

But..I suppose that with the right person, it can also be the greatest gift :)

[NeoPhoenix]

I would have to say that the loss of a love one is the most difficult to deal with.


Heh we posted at the same time. :lol:

[Old Witch]

Watching a loved one waste away due to a terminal disease. Especially when there's a lot of pain involved. My Mom died a long painful death from cancer( Dr.s worried about meds being addictive?). Death was not a bad thing! I did my mourning while she was alive.

[GingerBurkley]

seeing a child (especially mine) suffer, whether it's physical suffering, like a kid with cancer, or a kid who's hungry, or emotional , like when my daughter gets her feelings hurt at school or something. I want to protect her all the time, but I can't. I hate when she's not happy, especially when I can't do anything about it. The most painful thing is helplessness.

[manstranger]

I would say knowing that doing something before would have saved someone now.

[Myst]

The most painful thing in my entire life was realizing my dad wasn't invincible and wouldn't live forever. Every day that's still devastating.

[Haedis]

I hear people say "watching someone die/suffer" alot. Of course that would be devastating, but in my mind thats not the worst. For me, the worst thing would be waking up only to realize that my life has no meaning. If I knew my life had meaning, I could overcome every other obstacle (it wouldnt be easy, but I could). But just knowing that I have no purpose for being alive...I would have no reason to continue on. To me, it would be the end of the world. Luckily...my life has meaning (or atleast I can convince myself that it does!), so everything is spiffy. Wow, cheery topic nautia! are you gonna follow this up with a "whats the best thing in the world?" thread, to balance it out?

[Flaire-FireStar]

Well... I'm not a very expressive person, so I'd have to say...the thought of my own death, and not telling people how much I care for them before I go.

[Laiste]

I am not sure about this one. My thinking is that pain is pain no matter what the source or cause. In my opinion it really feels the same and ultimately has the same effect. Lessened or enhanced perhaps with diverse situations. I'm not saying that certain emotions pains are not felt more than others just that they are delt with the same way. For instance when you are mourning the loss of a loved one you have to go through the cycle of mourning . Inevetably we all (most) survive this pain and go on with our lives however changed they may be.

[flar7]

I have never had a child, so I cannot answer for that department.
But I have lost many family members to wasting illnesses and
some to sudden death. These hurt, and yet carried pleasant
memories to soothe the passage.

For me the most painful thing is hope. When my wife left, I clung
to the hope that she would return. This hope was repeatedly
dashed and torn, but somehow left intact to re-injure my soul.
Finaly when she remarried I thought that hope destroyed but am
not positive. The memories of that time only rekindle the feelings
of hope and pain. Hope can be the most painful, because it
carries the greatest risk and consequences of failure. Your loved
one is sick, you hope it isnt cancer, hope crushed, you hope they
recover, they die...etc. I will not give up on hope, but it is the
hardest thing to carry and to have. It can save you or lay your
soul to waste.

[GingerBurkley]

Really

[Garnet]

When my mother made it plain that she had a favorite daughter, & it wasn't me.

[TheTheologin]

I would have to say that (even though I've never experienced it personally) having your child kidnapped and never found (dead or alive). If someone dies you know they're gone but if they are never found you don't know WTF is going on.

[~**foxglove**~]

Loving someone and not having that feeling returned. The thought of it frightens me... strange, but I can't explain.

[WolfWoman]

For me the most painful thing is betrayal. If I've put my trust in someone it means I think you're pretty special (I can count the people I trust with my life on one hand, minus some fingers), to destroy that rips my heart out. I've only lost so far one person whom I was really close to due to breast cancer and that was really hard, but knowing that she'd be free from the pain and suffering made it easier to deal with. I guess my lack of exposure to death makes me feel differently at the moment.

[MagickHLHgurl]

I think the most painful thing s not knowing what is wrong with someone you love...wether it be physically or emotionally....right now im going through that with my grandmothe...we don't know if she has cancer or not and the doctors are taking their sweet a$$ time finding out...grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[WolfWoman]

I'm so sorry to hear that MagickH, I'm sure it's terribly frustrating. Well wishes for you and your family.

[MagickHLHgurl]

Thanks...i just hope these stupid doctors stat movin otherwise they are gonna experience something very painful...like my foot! ok im just kidding but i do feel like kicking themm.....sorry that tat was inda off topic