need some advice on guy issue

[satyana]

so i have this weird ass problem kay i have known this guy since high school and have been very in love with him since then kay nad just latley he got in touch with me and we have started fooling around with each other ( as we live in different towns ) but i really liek him and would like in the future to havea relationship with him but he has already told me he can't offer me a relationship but stillwants to fool around and hes super nice he even introduced me to his gramma and stuff and yeah ia m very confused on what to do because the reason he can;t offer me a relationship is because his life is to busy and so is mine but i want to stay frineds and stuff with imi to see if we can try in the future can someone help me and t4el lme if i am thinking right about this cause i am very into him and need an outside opinion on what to do

[CheshireEyes]

Do you mean he wants to be "friends with benefits". If that's it, I'd say hold off unless that's what you want too, although it doesn't sound like it. As for "not having time for a relationship"? That sounds like crap to me. I've worked 18 hour days six, seven days aweek and I still managed to squeeze in a relationship. Granted we didn't always see alot of each other but we still did. And you said he still wants to see you? That may be either he is too scared to get into a relationship b/c he likes you as a friend or just may not know what to do. So you gotta decide if the "friends with benefits" thing is what you want b/c I don't know anyone that made the transition to a relationship.

[satyana]

okay well the time thing is he lives about two hours from me and as it is we only wsee each other every two months becasue i work a 12 to 13 hour a day job six days a week and he goes to school and works everyday so theres not much time for travel or talking or so and even then its only f for liek two hours unless i can get to the city and stay with him and as far as i know its one of his first relationship s cause he has never really dated much as he told me hes not used to anyone except his mom and sister liking him i am confused

[CheshireEyes]

Hmm, I'd be confused too. How long would you be planning on waiting around for him. Ideally, how do you see this as working out if he wanted to make a go of it? It sounds to me like he may be a little scared b/c u said u believe this is one of his first relationships. Also, how did the two of you see each other anyway if both of your schedules are this difficult? Maybe u r moving things too quickly for him and he's just not ready for how fast things are developing.

[satyana]

yeah i am thinking i will cool it for the summer and then see what happens when he is finished with school and i can move to the city but anyway thank you very much for the advice and i hope you had a wicked may long

[satyana]

so i stillneed moreadvice sorry