Frightened...

[Sleeping Ghost]

i am very scared that i got my g/f pregnant.. i did not "go" inside her but, i didn't use a condom... damn me for not having one.
she has 1-3 days till her period, but i am still very frightened... 16 years old and having a kid isnt something i look forward to, and i wont even START to go into what she will go through emotionally, physically, and psychologically. Is there any type of prayer/ritual/spell that i can do to calm myself down? i am fearing the worst (but i would be a fool to not worry at all). PLEASE HELP!!!


just FYI.. i use condoms religiously now, and im going to try to see if she can go on the pill.

[Danustouch]

Relax. Until she takes a test, there is no use driving yourself nuts over it. It sounds like you've learned a valuable lesson though.

Spells to calm yourself? Just drink a couple of cups of chamomile tea, and try to do some peaceful meditations. Try visualizing your life the way you WANT it to be...

And most of all...BREATHE.

Let us know what happens, though:)

[Myst]

How long ago did that happen?

[Danustouch]

Okay..I have a few questions for you too.

A) you said you didn't GO inside her. Do you mean you did not ejaculate? I hate to get technichal..but...do you tend to release ejaculatory fluid before actually acheiving orgasm?

B)When was the date of her last period (the start date),

C) When did you have intercourse?

These are important questions.

A womans ovulation schedule is typically 14 days after the FIRST day of her last mesntruation. So..knowing exactly when her last period was, will tell you whether or not she was ovulating at the time you had intercourse.

If you have premature ejaculatory fluid, it of course increases your chance of having impregnated her. However, if she wasn't ovulating..then..it's not really an issue.

Anyway...please keep us posted.

[Sleeping Ghost]

her period started on christmas...
no i did not ejaculate at all inside of her... except for a very small amount of pre-ejaculatory fluid.
i did wait for 10 days after her period ended before we did it.. b/c my dad said that that would be safe.
im not going to worry until she is late for her period... but i will take your advice on the tea and stuff, and i will tell you what happens...

[Myst]

10 days after her period started or after it ended?

Ya gotta remember, a woman can get pregnant at any time of the month really especially when she's younger because her cycle isn't perfectly regular all the time.

[Sleeping Ghost]

after it ended... my dad told me that if i was going to have sex... wait for 5-6 days after it ended.. so i waited 10 just to be safe...

[Angelwulfe]

even if her period is a little late it might be due to the fact that she's worrying about it so much that the stress throws off cycle. try to stay calm in the mean time. good luck.

[Sleeping Ghost]

thank you all soooo much... im still trying to be very calm about this whole deal, and you guys/girls are helping me alot... thank you all again.. ill tell you what happens...

[Myst]

Originally posted by Sleeping Ghost
after it ended... my dad told me that if i was going to have sex... wait for 5-6 days after it ended.. so i waited 10 just to be safe...

A woman usually ovulates on day 14 of her cycle. The day her period starts is day 1. Therefore, if her period was 4 days long you had sex the day she ovulated. If it was 5 or 6 you may be safe. But then the day she ovulates changes from month to month.

Your dad is wrong.

But as someone said there's no good in worrying about it till she can test!

Next time I know you will use a condom :)

[Danustouch]

Yeah...and you've also learned that even parents, are fallible. Smack your dad with a wet noodle for us. ;)

[flar7]

you do release sperm prior to ejaculation. also it can live longer
inside the body than outside.
A few things that my friend found out the hard way! Early withdrawal is not an option! And counting days is like russian
roullette, you can play it if you want to!

Despite all of the above, dont worry;) the odds are still in your
favor.

[Imagi]

Early withdrawal is not an option! And counting days is like russian roullette, you can play it if you want to!

Yep. These things are only an option if you can afford to have a baby (and I'm not just talking "afford" in the money sense). At your age, it is obvious that you shouldn't. I think you've learned a valuable lesson from this scare, one that will keep you on your toes when it comes to ensuring birth control (any method) everytime you have sex.

I counted days . . . and now I'm due this coming August with my first child. However, my situation is a bit different . . . I'm 25, married, and my husband and I, while not exactly planning a pregnancy just yet, we were not exactly being very careful, either.

Try not to worry until there is really something to worry about (her period being more than 5 days late). If she is stressing about her period being late, that can actually cause her period to be late, thus freaking you both out needlessly. If after 5 days, she still hasn't gotten her period, then it's time to take a test. Just don't stress yourself out until then (I had a couple of late periods when I was 17/18 because of this same situation).

Keep us posted!

[Lavender]

This isn't a good option to using proper birth control methods, but does your hospital have the Morning After Pill? It's a pill that can start a woman's period almost immediately. But not sure if this will help you at this time. Good luck!

[Danustouch]

If I remember correctly, the morning after pill isn't effective after 48 hours of the incident in question.

[Sleeping Ghost]

my girlfriend just got on her period today!!! YAY!!!
:D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
soryy.. im just too happy to have any sense.. she is going to start going on BC pill, and i am going to continue to use condoms every time...
thanks all for you support... :D sry had to do it again...
thanks again.. i will remember you advice forever

[Myst]

Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!

[Lavender]

Heh! Someday, when you're a dad, pass on your knowledge. :D I'm really happy for you & your GF. It's great to get a second chance.

[Danustouch]

wooooooohooooooooo!

[Danustouch]

By the way, I'd just like to say that even though your father gave you a bit of misinformation this time around, I think it is reallllllly cool that you can feel comfortable enough to talk about things like this with your father, and that you remembered what he said, and didn't just blow it off. Parents should always be open to their kids questions, and kids should always be willing to listen to Parents' advice (even though sometimes, it would be wise to double check that advice, in these situations). :)