How do you talk to your grandparents??

[MysticWitch]

My grand mother is 77 years old. She owns a home that she doesnt live in because she lives out of state. My aunts and uncles are already talking about how they want to sell the home when she dies and split the profits. (I think she is giving the house to them). I want the house to stay in the family. I would love to take care of it and pass it on to children and grandchildren. The house is an older home but its in excellent shape. Its been in the family for 2 generations. I really want to discuss this with my grandmother.

I guess my question is HOW do I talk to my grandmother about this issue? How do you talk to your grandparents?

I have to bring up that her kids want to sell the house and that they are already talking about her death and she is very much alive and in good health.

I have to convince her that I will keep my promise and take care of the home and not go and sell it for money like her children want to.

This issue is making me toss and turn at night. At 77 she is getting older and if something happens to her (God forbid) I will have lost all chances to keep the home in the family because my aunts and uncles would NEVER let me keep the house. :ggrief:

[Zoritsa_Nepenthe]

Why not talk to your Aunts and Uncles first? Or have you tried that yet? Maybe hearing that your serious about wanting the house,they can work something out with you.And if not,then go to your Grandma and talk to her about it.

[KaidaMidnight]

I'm not sure how to approach the subject with her, but once you do, you said that you "have to convince her that I will keep my promise". If she puts it in her will that you take care of the house and it stays in the family, it has to be done. :) Just a thought.

As to approaching her about it... just bring it up over tea (or coffee or something). Say "Hey, you know your house in 'such and such state'? What were your plans for it, cause I'd really love to keep it in the family..." Tell her your plans and dreams and see what she says. The worst that she could say is that your aunt and uncle get it (which you are already thinking anyway...) If she doesn't say they get it, and that she likes your idea.. then Yay! :D Good luck hun! :hugz: Hope it turns out the way you want it too.

[WillowsMuse]

I think Kaida has a good idea.

I have to bring up that her kids want to sell the house and that they are already talking about her death and she is very much alive and in good health.
I wouldn't mention that her kids are talking about her death, however. That would most likely make her feel terrible and perhaps cause unnecessary friction in the family.

I understand your desire to keep the home in the family, I think it's a lovely idea. I hope your Gram does, too.

[Tanya]

Where is your father or mother in this? I would start with them.

[Shanti]

I personally never butt into another adult relatives life unlesss I am invited to share opinion. Someone who has made it to old age probably knows whats going on and even if they dont, they're a grown up. They can make there own choices, despite what I wish. Its just not my business.

Property is material, I only give a hoot about where hearts are.

I'm not sentimental either.

My 2 cents.

[MysticWitch]

I personally never butt into another adult relatives life unlesss I am invited to share opinion. Someone who has made it to old age probably knows whats going on and even if they dont, they're a grown up. They can make there own choices, despite what I wish. Its just not my business.

Property is material, I only give a hoot about where hearts are.

I'm not sentimental either.

My 2 cents.

:D

[Ziana]

is anyone currently living in the house, renters or something? Otherwise you can always ask if you and your family can move into it and take care of it, possibly having her sell you the house.