Wedding Invite Ettiquette

[RubyRose]

I'm curious. My mother has virtually taken the creation of the invitations out of my hands, because the ones I put together weren't good enough.

Yeah according to both my mother and sister, I was supposed to met at my parents place, in order to put them together.

Strange thing is, that my life solely doesn't evolve around them, as I have a house, fiancee and small child to look after. Along with working 2 days a week.

Counter in any family emergencies, like we had last week, and well everything get's shot to hell.

So there's 3 months and counting until the wedding. The invites haven't gone out yet. I don't see that happening for at least another two weeks, around June 28th.

My big concern is that that's not leaving the guests with enough time to respond. As far as I know, you need at least 6 weeks before the wedding to get place cards and seating arrangments organised. Well at least that's what I've put it down to ...

So what is the ettiquette surrounding invites and the subsequent arrangements that come afterwards...

Can this be pulled off?

[Morr]

Our Israeli Wedding is September 15th, and we're sending the invitations in August.

We only have about 60 guests, and they all know already. The invitations thing is done for formality only.

Usually, invitations are sent out about 2 months in advance, so I think you have some time :)

[Caitrin SilverWolf]

depends also on if any people are coming from overseas or not. they need extra time to book flights and all that stuff. I'd get it done asap, but then, i'm not in your position so i really cab't say. hope it goes well tho!

[RubyRose]

There's only one person that will be making a flight from New Zealand. It happens to be Rhyce's great grandmother, she's 90 years old so, she may not make the trip...

[Suzette]

According to my wedding planning book, at least 6 weeks in advance the invites should go out.

We are preparing a 'save the date' card as we have guests coming in from the East Coast, London and Australia, so for those needing to make travel arrangements, they'll have plenty of advance notice...

*Gods, now we have to shop for invites...*

[starfire]

Yes usually 6 weeks is the time frame. I avoided some of the stuff you are going through by having a limit on the number of guest (100), I then told my parents they had 25 guest they could invite, my in-laws to be had 25, my husband had 25 and I had 25. That way everyone was able to invite the most important people, and as we got back NOs, I had alternative guests that could be invited at that time. I know the parents pay for the wedding or so the story goes, but it is your wedding, you have the right to make it special for you, not your mom or sister. On the other hand once you know who is on the list, why not have mom and sis help with addressing them. Same with favors, get your girlfiends and all to help so you are not bogged down with the entire stress. That way you can relax a little more.

Good luck on a wonderful day

[Annyka]

Your invitations were lovely, and I was suprised at how early you got them out, and how early you wanted the RSVP...

I sent my invites out a fair way in advance (like 2 months or so) but had RSVP 4 weeks before the wedding, not 6.

Makes you look organised!