Loving A Friend Too Much...

[Alphyna]

Okay here's a question....
How can you get over a loved one... Ummm...in the sense that I am married, love my husband dearly, but was in love with a woman at one time thru out our marriage. I was never unfaithful. It's just that we were best friends, and went for coffee all the time did everything together, but she is a lesbian, and I am bisexual, so obviously we fell for eachother. We did not totally realize it until people started asking us if we were dating, how long we had been together...etc...That's when I kinda freaked!! So we laid off a bit on the time we spent together, then it kinda got weird, and uncomfortable (we all lived together) SO we drifted apart. At the time we moved out I became pregnant, and did not think of her anymore. I was directed towards my family and my husband. Now that I have had the babe, I find my thoughts wandering to her again. Not in a bad way, but I miss her. I will always love her on some level, that can't really go away, but it's the friendship that I long for now. What should I do?
Brightest Blessings, Alphyna

[Myst]

There's nothing wrong with loving your friend in a platonic way.

However you need to decide if you can keep it platonic, and if not, whether being around her again is worth putting your current relationship in jeopardy. It is up to you to decide what you can handle and what your priorities are, and until you do that I'd recommend if you do contact her you only do so through email or the phone, and not face to face.

[GingerBurkley]

You need to think long and hard before contacting her. Think about all the things it could lead to. Does your hubby know about her? Will he be aware that you're communicating w/her? I know you don't want to hurt him. Also, is it possible that she could have contacted you before now and hasn't? These things can be hurtful and/or dangerous. Just think about it first!

[ANUR36]

My situation is different...
A man.. my first adult love... broke my heart again.... betrayed my love, loyalty, and respect... made me cry... He is my friend above the rest and.....
dunno'....

[Alphyna]

anur 36 are you okay? If you need a friend to listen I am here for you.

My husband is fully aware of everything! We have an extremely honest and open relationship. I would never do anything to betray him. Well, I ended talking to her. She works at a store I go to often. It turns out I don't feel the same about her. I think it was the life she represented. I chose to be with Dustin in the beginning, and she has the life I gave up. When she came into our lives, I was at a point in my life where I was questioning my choice. It has been a year since we had gone different ways now, and I am aware now of how happy and satisfied I am with my husband and our life we have built. I am very confident in the choice I made, and feel blessed to have found my true love. Thanks for listening!
Brightest Blessings, Alphyna

[Myst]

*Or* you could just ignore everyone's advice and go see her and hope nothing happens.

*walks away*

[ANUR36]

Congrats on your happiness and your ture love Alphyna... I hope that I will find mine, if not sooner, than later will do....