My sister

[rantnraven]

I started a thread that has, unfortunately, vanished. So, I am starting it again.

My sister wouldn't talk to me for ten years. She wouldn't allow me to visit, and she didn't tell me when her youngest was born. Any news had to come through my mother - I thought my sister was using her, and she was.

When I got married, I guess my sister decided that I was pretty okay. However, the jibbing didn't stop. Every time I went to her house she would ask, "Hey, you want to buy my house?". Then she would say something like, "Oops, you can't afford my house" and would snicker in jest.

It was really annoying. Never mind that I could afford her house three-fold and told her she was stupid to even consider buying where they did. They did anyway.

I love my sister but, now that I am going through a divorce, she appears to be reverting to the same way she was prior to my marriage.

Any advice??

RnR

[adrian]

It's funny how you think you're the only one with this kind of problem and then one day a complete stranger tells you a story that hits home...i rise above, ignore, and forgive. I also don't go around them.
But that's my solution, you'll have to find your own.

[reanna]

I just went a looking and couldn't find it either...
Odd.
Too bad too.. some of those posts were excellent advice.
I am of the mind that people need to accept people for who they are, not who they want them to become.
I know how painful it can be to be estranged from a loved one, but if you haven't fit into what she considers the "mold" for her expectations of you, then you probably never will. You have found happiness with who you are and what you are doing, so why should she judge?
If you are truly happy, you wouldn't make any changes unless they were going to increase your own happiness and mind frame.. People will love you for your light inside and the joy you spread in your actions. If you feel good about yourself, then you truly have found your perfect mold. That is all that matters.

Just my 2 cents.

[rantnraven]

...were great. Yes, we all seem to have our own very special problems but, when we have a chance to really look at it, it doesn't appear so special (or individual). Much of what we go through, many have been there. It is through this that we can find the advise to make it through the tough times.

Thank you all for your input.

RNr

[adrian]

yes, and it is one of our greatest gifts to each other.
sometimes i hate it when people say " i don't share my business with strangers" and i think...what a loss.
we are all connected and without each other we are less, i share myself fully with everyone but i tell those close to me to be careful what they ask me because the truth hurts sometimes.

[rantnraven]

Originally posted by adrian
yes, and it is one of our greatest gifts to each other.
sometimes i hate it when people say " i don't share my business with strangers" and i think...what a loss.
we are all connected and without each other we are less, i share myself fully with everyone but i tell those close to me to be careful what they ask me because the truth hurts sometimes.

Yes, the truth does hurt and thus, is the truth. It is this pain by which we learn and grow.

I will not pass judgment but I know I am far better off then my sister because I keep the mind open and alert. With knowledge comes pain but, with pain comes understanding and self-worth. In this is expansion and growth.

RnR

[Earth Walker]

We all have problems with family and friends, as well
as personal problems...and it is wonderful to have
this family for sharing and caring. :D :heartthro

[rantnraven]

This is turning out to be a WONDERFUL family.

*tears down cheek*

I lobe it here.

RnR

[Dextra]

Originally posted by rantnraven
This is turning out to be a WONDERFUL family.

*tears down cheek*

I lobe it here.

RnR

I lobe it here too! :D

Here, have a hug sweetie. :bigredgri Share the love, yub yub!

[rantnraven]

Fat-Fingered the keyboard again.

I meant

I LOVE - that's L. O. V. E. - IT HERE.

Besides, the "B" is right next to the "V" - and they rhyme.

Sheesh.

RnR

[adrian]

It's ok to be a little choked-up, when we're blabbering in emotional expression or words do get mixed up....
I've been teary eyed sence this whole thing started.

Can you supply me with Dextra&carmelos address? i need to do something for them.

[adrian]

It doesn't matter what you have faith in, just as long as you have faith...Dextra.

[rantnraven]

Originally posted by adrian
It's ok to be a little choked-up, when we're blabbering in emotional expression or words do get mixed up....
I've been teary eyed sence this whole thing started.

Can you supply me with Dextra&carmelos address? i need to do something for them.

Choked up we are. However, I am not at liberty to give out the address. She may be willing if you send her a PM though.

RnR

[adrian]

I've spoken to her, thanks for the assist.

[Semele]

Family can hurt us more than anyone. I like to think that they aren't doing it out of spite, just reacting from some source of pain in their life that really has nothing to do with you. If you need another sister I am always availiable!!! Keep your head up. There are plenty of folks here that know and love you!! And I promise I will never ask if you wanna buy my house!!

Semele

[rantnraven]

I have a new sissy.

Thank you, Semele

And it's okay, no offense but, I don't want to buy your house 'cause then I would have to move to OK.

[Dextra]

I'll be your new sister too! But then, we're all family here, so you have more brothers and sisters than you'd ever need! :D

[rantnraven]

Originally posted by Dextra
I'll be your new sister too! But then, we're all family here, so you have more brothers and sisters than you'd ever need! :D

LOOK!!

TWINS!

I have twin sissy's. And other brothers and sissy's.

Maybe I should buy my "real" sisters house and we could all move in!?!

RnR

[adrian]

Thank you for your kind words, i am at the gate and i must make a major decision concerning my life; and while i do not like to inflict pain i feel that in this situation i must do so to protect myself. This decision isn't entirely selfish because what has stopped me so far is the knowledge that when i do choose for me, it will cause pain and also bring upon debt pain that was accumilated over the years and it is this pain i am afraid of....not for me but the others.
I ramble, i apologize, but this mind is always dealing with the possible/probable courses and the ones i see may be very damaging in nature to people i love. So back to square one...do i choose for me now or do i make the sacrifice of continueing to give my guidance and love.
In Peace In Love...out of mind!!!!lol

[rantnraven]

Of what do you speak?

RnR

[adrian]

Oh just striking out on my own, starting over, rebirth.
I feel like i'm being strangled and loosing contact with...
me.

[rantnraven]

That can be a strange place. Do you wish to talk a while? I have the really good ear that hears all.

There is no need to strike out on your own. This community is chalk-full of great people that will listen. What is bothering you right now, my friend?

Starting over and rebirth can be quality but, if it is too much, at one time, that can spell confussion. Baby steps - I always say. If you need to, call me. Should you choose to call, send a PM and I will respond with a number where I can be reached.

Birth was bad enough. Rebirth is a bear.

Blessed are the children of the Mother,
Thoma

[Earth Walker]

Originally posted by rantnraven


LOOK!!

TWINS!

I have twin sissy's. And other brothers and sissy's.

Maybe I should buy my "real" sisters house and we could all move in!?!

RnR

:D I'm blond, cute & cuddly. Can I be your sister
too? :bigredgri

[rantnraven]

Originally posted by Mystique


:D I'm blond, cute & cuddly. Can I be your sister
too? :bigredgri

So long as you're cuddly, heck yeah. I mean..uh...not that I would cuddle with my sister.
*blush*

RnR

[Mariposa De La Luna]

Brothers & sisters can cuddle, they just can't do other .... ummm..... things. But I'm sure she meant sister in spirit ;) Can I join the cuddling? *blush*

[Kaylara]

Rantraven~
I wanna join in the group hug!!! Can I be your sister too?

Kaylara

[rantnraven]

I just hope you all have no expectations around Yule. This could get costly.

(HUUUUUGGGGGSSS)

I love you guys, you're the greatest.

Any other volunteer sissy's.

And I haven't heard from any brothers????

What's up with THAT?


RnR

[rantnraven]

Originally posted by SAHM
Brothers & sisters can cuddle, they just can't do other .... ummm..... things. But I'm sure she meant sister in spirit ;) Can I join the cuddling? *blush*

Depends on the state they are from actually.

Hehe

RnR

[Earth Walker]

Originally posted by SAHM
Brothers & sisters can cuddle, they just can't do other .... ummm..... things. But I'm sure she meant sister in spirit ;) Can I join the cuddling? *blush*

:D Yes, I meant a nice hug. :)
rantnraven is so cute when he blushes. :bigredgri
Thank you all for being wonderful sisters & brothers.
:sunny:

[rantnraven]

I'm lighting a candle.

It's color shall be White for purity and understanding.

Heck, I might as well light another.

Red - for Love and of the Goddess, a tribute to my new sisters.
Green - for the brothers of this community.


Okay, so three shall burn tonight.

Blessings to All.

Mystique, Do you really think I'm cute when I blush?
*blushes for all to see*
*Turns so you can have a good look*
Maybe I should pose for GQ - Sears won't take me.

RnR

[Earth Walker]

I think it is wonderful that a man can blush. :)
Of course, I am good at making men blush. :bigredgri

I appreciate men that are not afraid to show their
emotions...it's a nice change from dealing with men
who have that "macho mentality."

A hug and kiss from your Sister.

[rantnraven]

*blushes a little more*
*Flexes*
*Scratches Butt*

I've never been one to hide emotion.

We Gemini's

Sheesh!

*Smiles and hugs back*

[lynx]

It truly is a sad thing when blood can not enjoy each other with out the differences stepping in the way. One may not know it but I too, have a sibling of which I am unable to reach. I can see, hear, and even touch. But when it is all in vien, it is worthless. Our problems may be somewhat the same.

Maybe in time all will correct itself. With help, of course. Help from each other. I can only say, always be there, for one day will come when all is over and done. And there will be no time left to say what was felt and what was left. All the love and joy in the world can't and will never bring back a chance that one missed whole-heartedly.

I only wish I were able to do as I say. But pride of another, is hard to watch it decay. My sibling fears that they will be nothing without thier pride. If only they knew that pribe is a murderer in descise. Some, however, have to learn from first hand experience. To bad many don't survive. 8O

Lynx