Gaining confidence

[David19]

Hi, Does anyone here know of any magical ways to be more confident, i really need to be more confident (for many reasons), but i never can, so are there any talismans or amulets that i can make or rituals or spells that i can do. I've always been kind of shy, even though i do have great friends, i need to stop being become more confident, but i have no idea how to go about it.

Thanks for any help you can give me :).

[CelticMoon11]

Blue stone, begins with S :lol: I carry one with me as it improves communication and thus my confidence, umm, damnit mind blank sodalite? Arg I give up sorry!

[Harmony Aurore]

Hi, Does anyone here know of any magical ways to be more confident, i really need to be more confident (for many reasons), but i never can, so are there any talismans or amulets that i can make or rituals or spells that i can do. I've always been kind of shy, even though i do have great friends, i need to stop being become more confident, but i have no idea how to go about it.

Thanks for any help you can give me :).

heck with magic! Do it the old fashion way! Act confidant to become confidant! I know it seems sort of like a bs answer, but it's true! You have to pretend until you feel it. Square your shoulders, control you breathing and hold your head high. Before you say anything, think of what you want to say and how you say it. Don't rush your speech, take your time. Carefully formulate what you need to say. It's as easy as that and confidance will come your way. THAT is the spell for confidence... coming from a girl who USED to be uber shy.

[David19]

heck with magic! Do it the old fashion way! Act confidant to become confidant! I know it seems sort of like a bs answer, but it's true! You have to pretend until you feel it. Square your shoulders, control you breathing and hold your head high. Before you say anything, think of what you want to say and how you say it. Don't rush your speech, take your time. Carefully formulate what you need to say. It's as easy as that and confidance will come your way. THAT is the spell for confidence... coming from a girl who USED to be uber shy.

Thanks for that, i think i'm going to use that, since i really need to stop being so shy (it's stopping me asking out a guy i like among other things), so again thanks for you advice.

[Sage Rainsong]

Usually I do the whole fake it until you make it approach to confidence. I pretend really well lol. That being said I got this exercise from Starhawks book The Earth Path. Basically you imagine that there is a yellow light comming from your solar plexus. This can help. Also I like a certain meditation that I got from Deb Lipp. All you need is a candle. Now relax and get comfortable. Then imagine that the candle flame is enveloping you byut not buring you. Kepps saying to yourself, "I am confident in all areas of my life, as you are visualizing. Do this for fifteen min a day or until your instincts tell you too stop. The goal is to feel almost like you are, the element of fire. Oh the Book is the Way of Four if you are interested. Good luck.

[Vigdisdotter]

Hi, Does anyone here know of any magical ways to be more confident

Try making yourself a mojo bag. Pick a stone, one or more herbs (I like three) and some object that that represents courage to you. Charge each item as you put it in and then declare the bags intent as you tie it shut. Then carry it with you and touch it as you feel you need it's help.

note: tie up your herbs in some cheese cloth before putting them in or it'll get messy :P

[Vigdisdotter]

Blue stone, begins with S :lol: I carry one with me as it improves communication and thus my confidence, umm, damnit mind blank sodalite? Arg I give up sorry!

Yes, sodalite, though it's more of a cognitive stone then a confidence stone.

I would depend where the OPs lack of confidence stems from.

[Dio]

heck with magic! Do it the old fashion way! Act confidant to become confidant! I know it seems sort of like a bs answer, but it's true! You have to pretend until you feel it. Square your shoulders, control you breathing and hold your head high. Before you say anything, think of what you want to say and how you say it. Don't rush your speech, take your time. Carefully formulate what you need to say. It's as easy as that and confidance will come your way. THAT is the spell for confidence... coming from a girl who USED to be uber shy.

Yep. This is exactly how you overcome a lack of confidence. Pretend or act like you're not shy. Soon you won't be pretending anymore and the confidence will come naturally.

[David19]

Try making yourself a mojo bag. Pick a stone, one or more herbs (I like three) and some object that that represents courage to you. Charge each item as you put it in and then declare the bags intent as you tie it shut. Then carry it with you and touch it as you feel you need it's help.

note: tie up your herbs in some cheese cloth before putting them in or it'll get messy :P

Thanks for that, it sounds really great, but i've got a question, how do you charge items?.

Thanks.

[Vigdisdotter]

how do you charge items?.

Charge=putting energy/intention into an item.

[CelticMoon11]

Yes, sodalite, though it's more of a cognitive stone then a confidence stone.

I would depend where the OPs lack of confidence stems from.

I had problems getting thought to speach and expressing myself properly which stumped my confidence :). I had verbal dyslexia :lol:

[Vigdisdotter]

I had problems getting thought to speach and expressing myself properly which stumped my confidence :). I had verbal dyslexia :lol:

Sounds like a good use for Sodalite :)