What do they want from me!!!!!

[MysticWitch]

Well I got chewed out this weekend for working today by family. I need the money. I am 13,000.00 in debt. I need a new washer machine and dehumidifier which is 300.00 for both. I need a new car cause its breaking down.. which for a car is 1000-3000.oo for a running one.. like wtf do people want from me. I work 7 days a week for a reason :shaker: I just want to cry... really.

[JamieL]

:hugz: I understand. My husband quit his job so I'm working double the amount of hours I used to and we're barely making it. Its hard, but you can get through it. And to heck what you're family thinks. If you're handling it well and this is what you want to do, then do it. But remember, take some time for yourself otherwise you'll lose it. Like I did today. 8O

I hope everything gets better for you!

[Cindlady2]

You could try explaining that you just aren't making enough to get everything you need right now and you need the overtime. When you can get thins squared away or make more per hour, you won't have to work as many hours.
Although.... some people who haven't lived it... just won't get it!

[MysticWitch]

Thank's for the replies. I was almost crying last night. I know family is the most important thing, but this is the year I need to get caught up on bills. It wont always be this way, yet everyone makes me feel bad. I am not going to stop working. I just cant survive if I did that. I just dont know what everyone wants from me. Its not like I can tell my family to stop working, they would look at me like I was on crack and tell me to get a life... how unrealistic to ask for such thing really :ggrief:
Thank's for letting me vent :wave:

[Yvonne Belisle]

Hugs hun vent all you want many of us have been there or are there.

[maphdet]

(((((((((hugs))))))))))

Your family will just have to understand, if not they will just have to deal with it. Paying the bills is what is going to allow you to raise and sustain your family.

Hang in there!
The rat race sucks, sorry to hear its rough now, but as with all things, this will pass with time.

Wishing lots of ways for you to get more $ coming in!!

((((hugs))))

[MoonDragn]

Thank's for the replies. I was almost crying last night. I know family is the most important thing, but this is the year I need to get caught up on bills. It wont always be this way, yet everyone makes me feel bad. I am not going to stop working. I just cant survive if I did that. I just dont know what everyone wants from me. Its not like I can tell my family to stop working, they would look at me like I was on crack and tell me to get a life... how unrealistic to ask for such thing really :ggrief:
Thank's for letting me vent :wave:

No, survival is the most important thing. This is why I am not moving anywhere near my family who are all on the west coast.

If they have a problem with you working, ask them how else you gonna pay your bills? Will they give you money?

[WillowsMuse]

:hugz: :hugz: :hugz:

[DixieWitch]

We're kinda in the same boat as far as needing money goes...but it's my hubby working, not I. While I hate it that he works to damn much, but with no overtime, I know it's for the best. I often wonder how I'm going to make it when the baby gets here. He's trying desperately to hold on to his job that pays him $16 an hour. If he should lose it, he knows he can get one that pays $11 an hour, but that's an $800 pay cut a month and there is no way we will make it on that. And what makes it worse is that there is no way I can get out there and work because of the kids. Daycare is like $200-$300 a week here!! Good luck!! :hugz:

[Astara Seague]

That happens to me sometimes,
as far as the finaces I would throw the bills and the money at them and say "here you figure it out and if you cant then mind your own business!!!"
but back in the real world when I was raising my kids and working 2 full time jobs I thought it would never end, it is so frusterating ..just know this to will pass! I promise :hugz:

[MysticWitch]

:hugz:

[ladyalpha]

I just wanted to post and let your know your not alone. I don't know how to do the hug smilie..but a big hug to you.

My family is acting the same way right now. I am in the process of getting my husband a job back in Wisconsin (where we just moved from a year ago). But it is good money and way better insurance than we have ever had. With three kids and medical problems of my own..we would be insane to not take the opportunity. But, I am a bad kid that needs to learn to stay in one place for the rest of my life. And horrible for moving back where it is cold and my mother can't get to.
(I'm doing it anyway, because until a very friendly money fairy moves into my house..I have to do what I have to do. LOL).

I liked the idea of showing the bills and a pay stub to the family, and let them figure out how to do it all. lol
I found this weekend when I didn't go to my mother's and was questioned why I wasn't there. That asking if she was going to pay for my gas to get there ended that conversation. lol

Sometimes people just want so much for us to be with them, they forget why we aren't. It is frustrating. Especially if they are tight on money too, and then can't fathom why others are. But, perhaps if you try to take a little extra time with them, they will back off a little.
It doesn't have to be a lot of time, but quality time. (If possible).

Blessings and strength to you,
ladyalpha

[Kalika]

:hugz:

Hang in there. Money sucks... not having money sucks more. :awilly:

But, you'll figure it out, and things will work out.