Oldest virgin?

[gurlygurl2004]

In this modern era of rampant teen pregnancies, and 13-year-olds engaging in oral sex, etc(my alma mater, high school I've recently heard had 1/2 the teen girls pregnant in the past couple of years, I personally know one of them) who is the oldest virgin you know or ever heard of? Unfortunately I'm a 22 year old virgin and sometimes I feel like I missed out:( Anyway, I know there was a similar question not too long ago on here and some 24 year olds claimed to be virgins.

[zionwood]

well, you've beaten me...i'm a just a 21-year-old virgin.

[gurlygurl2004]

Have you ever heard of a 30 year old or 40 year old virgin (not the movie and celebate preists and nuns don't count)?

[Infinite Grey]

I've known a 40 year old virgin... he said it was his choice... I somehow doubt that, he was one arrogant tosser... I think it was more likely he gave up trying

[Merrilyn]

My cousin Dennis is a 33 year old virgin, by choice.

[Rowan Darkmoon]

I knew a girl who was a virgin until she was 29. I don't see why it really matters though, when you're ready, you're ready, if you're not, then you're not.

Don't let it depress you! I think a lot of people just rush into things, and then regret it when it's all said and done with. :)

[zionwood]

I agree with Rowan Moonstone.

[Merrilyn]

BTW... I was a virgin until I was 24. :hahugh:

[Rowan Darkmoon]

BTW... I was a virgin until I was 24. :hahugh:

I was 20, and I remember it stressing me out at the time. However, from my present perspective, I'm glad I waited until when I did.

My sister's all lost their virginity in high school, and they thoroughly regretted the circumstances under which it happened. For me, I've never had any regrets about it. :hahugh:

[gurlygurl2004]

Thanks, knowing that there are "normal people" who wait until they 33 or 40 or even 29, makes me feel better:)

[Chibi-Fallon]

Also the 13 year-old oral sex party thing was proven to be more or less BS (the book on that is not dissimilar to another Oprah fave, A Million Little Pieces).
Really I think it's more perceived than reality. Teen pregnancy is going down and has been for years.
http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/factsheets/teenpreg.pdf

[Ahautenites]

I just turned 29 on June 21st. And I've never had a sexual partner. :)

[Agaliha]

I'm a 20 year old (soon to be 21) virgin. Don't plan on losing it anytime soon.

I'm way too OCD about diseases (plus I have slight hypochondria) and things. Having sex with some guy just icks me out. STDs. HIV. ::shuders::
If/when I do have sex...it'll be with a husband most likely, even then I'd be worried. :awilly:
Plus right now...I don't think I'm emotionally ready for a relationship and sex. Scratch that, I know I'm not.

So yeah, I'll be a virgin for a while. I'm not ashamed or bothered by it.

ETA: I just wanted to add that there have been countless times when I was 11 (yes 11) when I could have lost my virginity, when I was 13, when I was 19 (and totally drunk). Never did. Never wanted to.
And now I find out my old frends when I was 11 that did have sex have 2 kids, some STDs and god knows what. Heh. I'm glad I made my decision.

[Arion]

I'm almost 18 and a virgin. For me its more about self-consciousness about my body. I don't know if I'd feel comfortable getting naked with somebody unless I could really trust them. I don't see having sex as a big deal as long as protection is used, though. i think people have too many hang-ups about it. It's just a natural body function, yet people seem to attach a lot of useless morals and judgements on it.

Also, my parents were almost 30 when they lost their virginty (on their wedding night no less :p). It was a choice on my mom's part, being raised a strong presbyterian. I highly doubt it was a choice on my dad's part... he's a nerd lol. I don't know how I emerged from these people, hehe. I have no intention of waiting until marriage or whatnot. But to each his/her own.

[MysticWitch]

I was an almost 19 yeard old virgin. I had sex 1 week before I turned 19. I don't think there is anything wrong with being 22 and still a virgin. You will find a compatable person someday. Dont worry about what people think. Its better to find somebody nice to have your first time with than to sleep with someone just for the fact of no longer being a virgin and it has no meaning. :)

[fangedeshana]

I was an almost 18 year old virgin. I didn't start having relationships til I was 17 because I wasnt looking for anything superficial like many people I knew has been having on an off throughout high school.

I do know people who started young (one at 13, the rest were about 14-16 and were all females who were dating older guys), and I saw the emotional trampling they went through with each short lived relationship they had, and pregnacy scares. One of them had a baby at 15. I didn't want that, so I chose to wait for something that was going to be stable and have more meaning.

I also don't like the idea of my children one day having sex at 13-16 years of age, and would hate to be a hypocrite on the subject :P

[Starlight*Rains]

I knew a 43 year old virgin. He said it was what he chose. He never wanted to have sex. I wanted to wait for marriage but alas....I gave into peer pressure! :hehehehe:

[WiccanGoddess]

I'm an 18 year old virgin, and at the risk of getting pregnant during college, I plan to remain that way until I get my degree and have some money on me.

[MoonKnight]

One of my closest friends is 27 and he's still a virgin.

[Childof_theMorrigan]

my roommate is 27 and a virgin

[halfwaynowhere]

i don't know many people outside of my age group, so i really can't say who the oldest virgin i've met is... i'm 18, and still a virgin... its not so much that i've decided to wait til marriage, or anything, although its not like i'm just going to give it up to anyone, but i just haven't had the opportunity. i'm a romantic, though, so its got to be the right person anyways... but i see nothing wrong with not having sex. it doesn't make you a freak, or anything.. i know people who've lost it a lot younger, and i just think thats weird...

[MysticWitch]

I've never met a hot or even a slightly attractive male virgin but there is nothing wrong with waiting for sex.

[Sage Rainsong]

My friend is going to be 26 next month and she is a virgin.

[The High Queen of Faerie]

Age is just a number. It means nothing.

[Silverfire Darkmoon]

uh....hi? *waves hand* 22, male, virgin, and apparently handsome, so there goes your theory, MysticWitch :P I get 42 year old ladies and 35 year-old lesbians hitting on me all the time.
I lived in the middle of absolute nowhere when I was growing up and getting rides to friends' houses was always an enormous problem because the parents didn't want to drive *anywhere*. Of course, it probably helped that I wasn't the most attractive of teenagers (who is?) and antisocial as Hell, to boot. And I just wasn't that interested. I'm rather vaguely glad I wasn't, because most of the girls at my high school were idiots and having worked at an AIDS and other terminal disease centre, I'm rather paranoid :P
At least now I've got a vague idea of what I want in a woman, and besides, I regard the whole relationship thing in much more of a spiritual way now than I did back then.

[CelticMoon11]

I kick started my career early lol jks, seriously though the oldest virgin I think I know is 21 at the moment.I don't regret losing mine it was a learning experience and didn't really mean that much to me (losing it not the circumstances)

[sybba_leigh]

i lost it at 16. i know that sounds really young and skanky, but we loved each other-- so no regrets. :-)

eta: the oldest virgin i know is 25.

[MysticWitch]

uh....hi? *waves hand* 22, male, virgin, and apparently handsome, so there goes your theory, MysticWitch :P

8O

[Silver Nightfire]

The oldest virgin I know is 24.

[Shanti]

Ok, I know of no females over 18, but males:

My cousin was a virgin till 32. He really wanted to wait till marriage, and he did!

My friend, at 86 was a virgin. I asked him once why. He said he just never met the right lady to be his partner. He had friends that were ladies, still does, but he never believed it right to have sex with a friend. He truly believed it should be for love, love of a mate.

Both were happy with their choices too. They were true to themselves and that made a difference for them.

[richardgoldfinch064]

i know a person who is in her nighties who was a virgin so you are still young:lol:

[WiccanGoddess]

Sadly enough, the oldest virgin I know other than myself is 14. (Many of my 'friends' started early. And I mean around 13, just as their hormones first kicked in. *sigh*.)

[Anyanka]

My cousin's best friend is 33 and is still a virgin, by choice.

[Crysiira]

The oldest virgin I personally knew was my fiance, at 21. I was 17. Honestly, this is going to sound really wierd, but I never saw myself being sexually devoted to one man. My plans were to travel the world and have lovers in every country... Strange dream for a child to have when most of her counterparts are planning their weddings.... But upon being with my fiance, my dreams have changed rather drastically.
A friend of mine did have that white-wedding one-person-only-and-forever dream, and that didn't quite work for her. I almost wish to trade places with her so that we can have our dreams-come-true... almost, but definitely not enough, I like very much what I have. I just wish her dream had worked for her better.
And I don't really think age matters much, it's when you're ready, for the most part. I think 13 is much too young, hell, anything below say 16 or even 17 (yes, I know I'm bordering on hipocracy) is too young to make a permanent decision like that. I'm very lucky mine worked out. I almost made mistakes I would have regretted, and somehow I managed not to. It's almost shocking.

[gurlygurl2004]

i lost it at 16. i know that sounds really young and skanky, but we loved each other-- so no regrets. :-)

eta: the oldest virgin i know is 25.

Age 16-17 is supposed to be the average age, so not exactly young, and in your situation not skanky.

Also (this is a reply to an older post) I have heard that teen pregnancies are down, but teenagers are adding different ideas and elements to their sexual practices such as oral and anal sex that doesn't exactly get you pregnant:lol: But anyway, I have heard that in my small town's public high school most of the girls have gotten pregnant. I only know one of them so I'm not sure how accurate this information was. Anyway, just something that made me wonder.

[gurlygurl2004]

i know a person who is in her nighties who was a virgin so you are still young:lol:

Oh my god:lol: did she die a virgin? Was she a nun?:lol:

[WokeUpDead]

Why is this in Just Pagan?

I'm 19 and not at all interested in relationships or anything like that

[gurlygurl2004]

Why is this in Just Pagan?

I'm 19 and not at all interested in relationships or anything like that


Um, I just meant to put it in Just Talk.

touchy, touchy, touchy:yayah: :nuhuh:

[Cynyr]

i think people have too many hang-ups about it. It's just a natural body function, yet people seem to attach a lot of useless morals and judgements on it.



Cynyr totally agrees with this point. :cheers:

[KEishin]

My "friends" made fun of me for waiting - slatternly, wanton wenches the lot of 'em. It was not by choice mind you. I prefer *quality* over quantity anyday. I was waiting for the people my age to just grow up - I don't date children.

I was a virgin for a long time - 26 years. Nothing to be ashamed of!
(But I'm of the opinion that any non-virgins who don't like sex just didn't do it right. :hehehehe: )

[Seasaidh]

But anyway, I have heard that in my small town's public high school most of the girls have gotten pregnant. I only know one of them so I'm not sure how accurate this information was.

I live in a small town as well, and I know of four girls in my school who were pregnant this past school year. One of them I know personally. Of course, those are just the ones I know of. I think it is somewhat harder for small town teens because there is practically nothing to do but each other.

Anyway, to answer the original question:

My uncle is 28 and is still a virgin. I greatly respect him for it because I know it must take a lot of self control. My grandparents waited until they were married (at least that's what they told me)... but, considering they got married at the ages of 17 and 18, I believe them.

I myself am waiting until I'm in a committed relationship (which, to me means a couple years in). No random hookups for me. :awilly:

[Eryck]

I was 21 when I finally caved in-and this was after performing in several rock bands since I was 16. The chances were there-I just didn't feel right about it morally. I think that if someone can wait-then it's a beautiful thing. And even if they don't-that's up to the individual (and I am referring to consentual situations here).

I agree that there has been WAY too much guilt/pressure/emphasis/attention put on sex in general. It is a completely natural thing that also happens to be a truly bonding experience in the right situation. But if one decides to wait, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

[Ron]

My SO was 19 when he ceased to be a virgin, to my hand débille. His chastity was something that I was looking for in a mate, because I didn't want to be used and abused yet again.

To say truth, I probably would not have dated him had he not have been (ironically, he just walked in the door) a virigin at the time.

Yay mature virgins! Virigins are the force that power this world.

Godes blesseth dem chasties.

Point final: Besides, all of those nuns are probably alleged virgins.

[TaysatWesir]

I was 21 when I lost mine I could of waited a while longer this guy wasn't the right one.

[gurlygurl2004]

I was 21 when I finally caved in-and this was after performing in several rock bands since I was 16. The chances were there-I just didn't feel right about it morally. I think that if someone can wait-then it's a beautiful thing. And even if they don't-that's up to the individual (and I am referring to consentual situations here).

I agree that there has been WAY too much guilt/pressure/emphasis/attention put on sex in general. It is a completely natural thing that also happens to be a truly bonding experience in the right situation. But if one decides to wait, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.


All the pressures and guilts from all sides is the reason I would have any hangups. If I wasn't raised the way I was and if I didn't have to deal with prepubescent girls picking on me about not having a boyfriend at the beginning of puberty I probably wouldn't be a virgin now. I wouldn't have issues with being in relationships. I know lots of people say it's your choice (speaking of when you lose your virginity) but it seems like society mores will decide for you. I've been told anything from wait until marriage to wait until you are 18 or don't sleep with a guy who decides not to wear a condom, etc.

[Eryck]

I know lots of people say it's your choice (speaking of when you lose your virginity) but it seems like society mores will decide for you. I've been told anything from wait until marriage to wait until you are 18 or don't sleep with a guy who decides not to wear a condom, etc.

You have touched upon a real problem with society in general-the fact that so many of our supposed choices of free will are actually decided for us through pressure/intimidation/guilt/expectations, etc. Ultimately-it is up the to individual to decide what is right or wrong for them-and not society's decision. People that care can offer guidence and advice-and not every decision we make will be the right one-but-it is still up to the individual to make the final call, period. This is one of the strongest issues for me personally-and actually has a lot to do with me being a Pagan now.

You should give yourself in that way only when you are ready to.

[Mama J]

I lost my virginity at a very young age (I do mean young like 4 or 5), its a long story but let me just say that my father spent sometime in prison. I was pissed for along time that I lost it that way, it should've been my choice.

I do have an ex boyfriend thats still a virgin and he's 27. He claims its by choice and that he's waiting for marriage. Something about religious beliefs he said. Yeah, weird I know, but I am still friends with my ex. Even weirder is that I just realized that he wanted to marry me and I wasn't a virgin when we were together. Hum....

[gurlygurl2004]

I lost my virginity at a very young age (I do mean young like 4 or 5), its a long story but let me just say that my father spent sometime in prison. I was pissed for along time that I lost it that way, it should've been my choice.

I do have an ex boyfriend thats still a virgin and he's 27. He claims its by choice and that he's waiting for marriage. Something about religious beliefs he said. Yeah, weird I know, but I am still friends with my ex. Even weirder is that I just realized that he wanted to marry me and I wasn't a virgin when we were together. Hum....


I personally would refer your lost of virginity to the first time you personally chose to have sex with someone. I feel that victims of molestion or rape prior to making their own choice to have sex as virgins, even though they aren't psychical ones. They are virgins in the mind or in spirit.

[bbnflpn]

i was always a sexual person, and i might have lost it around 5, but i do not remember. i remember simulating the act with another kid but i do not remember anything about penatration. the actual act was at 16. i never wanted to be with one person, and i knew i wasnt going to be.

i know 2 older virgins now, both not nessisarly by choice. one who tried but couldnt handle the pressure (a few times as a matter of fact) hes 28. and the other is such a soical outcast i doubt he will find someone soon. hes 26.

one of my friends daughter called me up one day to talk to her daughter about having sex earlier. (i use to baby sit her and they lived with is for a short time, you would think that she would pick up on some of my traits lol) her mom was worried that she was doing the wrong thing, cause she wanted to get married so she could have sex. i guess the guy was really religous, needless to say she didnt listen and they got divorced a few months later.

[Mama J]

Thank you gurlygurl2004, I always thought that too, however it didn't change anything when it came to meeting guys. Every guy I dated I told what had happened because I thought they had the right to know before making the choice to stay with me or not. The man I married just looked at me and said so whats your point we all got stuff from our past no big deal. I stated back to him that I thought I was broken for some unknown reason and he said that I looked just fine to him. Hehe! This August will have been married for three years and been together for 6. Hehe!

[Virago]

I know at least 2 women who are virgins by choice. one is about 35 the other is 40.

the first would like to find a guy, but hasn't had any luck, the other is a business owner with no time to herself or anything else.

Just for the record:
I married the first guy. I was his first too.

[Amythyst]

That would probably be my ex-sister-in-law. She hates sex, thinks it's "dirty". I told her I like to play in the dirt. :) She finally got married when she was 40. Well, no, she's probably not a virgin anymore, but I'll bet she didn't give it up without a fight.

[CheshireEyes]

If you haven't had sex in a few months, do you get your virgin status back? :shift: That's what I've heard..... If so, then... *raises hand*_inabox_ :confused:

[gurlygurl2004]

If you haven't had sex in a few months, do you get your virgin status back? :shift: That's what I've heard..... If so, then... *raises hand*_inabox_ :confused:


To my knowledge the skin doesn't grow back in most women but I'm sure if you go a few months, or even years you feel like a virgin:)

"Like a vir-gin, touched for the very first time.":lol:

[Amythyst]

If you haven't had sex in a few months, do you get your virgin status back? :shift: That's what I've heard..... If so, then... *raises hand*_inabox_ :confused:

You only lose it once, honey. :)

[Marcasite]

I have such a fantasy about seducing an innocent male virgin *ahem*

er what I meant to say was 22 and still a virgin is not unusual and you're much less likely to regret your first time if you wait. I was with my high school sweetheart for two years when a few months before I turned 18 we decided to lose it. But I sorta regret not waiting for my fiance even though he certainly didn't for me :P

[Mysty Moon]

well now i don't feel so bad being 17 almost 18 and still being a virgin

[WokeUpDead]

I have such a fantasy about seducing an innocent male virgin *ahem*
Hello there :hahugh:

[CheshireEyes]

Hello there :hahugh:
:yayah:

You go boy!!!:lol: _inabox_

[Silverfire Darkmoon]

I have such a fantasy about seducing an innocent male virgin *ahem*
Eeep.

[bbnflpn]

as my boyfreind would say

the best thing in the world is a human sacrifice,

a virgin sacrifice.

i have to agree, its wonderful to see the look on the guys face as hes experienceing it for the first time.

and then you can teach them how to be the best lover they can be. i was always good at that.

[MankyCat]

I have a friend who's a 27 year old virgin and has never been kissed. Her choice and I totally respect her for that. Trust me, she's had the chance for both.

[Ahautenites]

<----- **grins** I still retain my status. (Though, I'm not sure if I'm IMpressed or DEpressed about it.)

[LordHelmet]

I kinda have a different view on the sex thing. I was ready for it around 13 but my religous beliefs and a little hard time with women prevented it until I was 20. I grew up in a christian community where dating was generaly frowned upon, especialy among highschoolers and younger.

I've realized that I really didn't gain anythng by waiting, on the other hand I was ready. I do think however that some people are ready for sex at a different time in life.

I would say that in the US the school systems spend to much time trying to promote abstinance and were a little more serious about making sure birth and STD control were well covered, these things would be less of a problem.

I also think that it's important for parents to recognize that they're kids may not stay virgin past 15 or 16, and be there for them with their choices, ready to help make sure they have proper birth and STD control without them feeling unable to come foward about their activities.

[Silverfire Darkmoon]

I don't know how I feel about it, to be honest. I get depressed, but I get depressed because I've just never been in love with someone to that extent and the cynic in me says that I won't fall in love for some time to come, if any. I just don't know where to meet young, intelligent females who aren't hugely into the bar scene :P
Of course, when I finally do lose my virginity and it's not all I made it up to be, *man* will I be pissed at myself :P
Our society has some wierd attitudes about sex. Oftentimes what you see on TV and read (anywhere) implies that if you're a young male who's not having / hasn't had sex, something is somehow wrong with you, and MAN, does that piss me off. I mean, I understand that sex sells and all, but Gods, at times it seems like it's being shoved down your throat and that gets kind of depressing at times. Not to mention the fact that you're missing out on a comman human experience!

[LordHelmet]

yes, the first time is probably going to be a dissapointment, however with a buildup like you get when wait for marrieg can be enough to make it worth remembering for than just bvecause it was the first time. But generaly, late first times are dissapointments. All the people blabbering about sex all the time and how great it is are either compinsating, or more likly, know what they're doing in bed. That kind of experience and expertise doesn't come overnight (no pun intended).

Sex gets better with experience. So don't be dissapointed when the first time isn't that great.

If you want to meet chicks away from the bar scene, try myspace or online dating stuff.

[chrestomancie]

27 here and also a virgin. I am very self concious about my looks but also was raised in a christian community that frowned on dating and sex and the such. When I look at it now I don't believe you need to wait for marriage unless you personally want to. I would love to find someone to spend the rest of my life with and if I do will then make the decision to lose my virginity not before. I am incredibly difficult to get to know and most guys refuse to give the effort to getting to know me and being persistant. I hope that one day I find the person who I trust and like (or love) enough to be able to experience this closeness and oneness.

[Cornflake_Girl8]

In this modern era of rampant teen pregnancies, and 13-year-olds engaging in oral sex, etc(my alma mater, high school I've recently heard had 1/2 the teen girls pregnant in the past couple of years, I personally know one of them) who is the oldest virgin you know or ever heard of? Unfortunately I'm a 22 year old virgin and sometimes I feel like I missed out:( Anyway, I know there was a similar question not too long ago on here and some 24 year olds claimed to be virgins.
I'm a 24 y/o virgin here. Just turned 24 earlier this month.

I'm too fulfilled right now. My hands are full with my new business. I also work fulltime and go to school fulltime. Adding a physical relationship into that mix would only create mayhem for me. If it's going to happen, it will happen when the time is right. There's no need to rush it.

The fact that I'm scared to death of disease might also play into it....seems almost everyone has an STD or some sort of creepy crawlies down there....

[Cornflake_Girl8]

I just read through this thread and I think this is my favourite thread on MW since I've been here.

Nice to see a group of people whose lives don't revolve around simply physical pleasures (does masturbation count?) :lookwhats

[Tanya]

I was a virgin til I was 19. I wanted to love someone before I had sex. that was a good decision.

[Eryck]

....(does masturbation count?) :lookwhats

Hey-why not? After all-it's safe.

Unless you get carried away with the kitchen appliances! :lol:

[Silverfire Darkmoon]

Owwwww.....
Unless you're one of those chronic masturbator people who always has to wear mittens.

[Cornflake_Girl8]

Mittens? Kitchen appliances? Where do you people LEARN this stuff? :lol:

[Ahautenites]

MWad would be my guess.

That being said, this is your friendly non-admin / non-moderator reminder to keep it clean while you're on this side.

[WokeUpDead]

I've seen threads get closed for more innocent things so if this one died I wouldn't be surprised.

[David19]

I'm 19, but i'll nearly be 20, and i'm still a virgin, it's not really by choice though, well actually, it's kind of both a bit of choice and other factors.

I really do want to have sex (i am a 19 year old, afterall), but i also want to make sure the guy i have it with is caring, and ok with taking things 'slow' (even if it was only for a one night stand, as long as the guy is cool about things).

I think people should only have sex when they're ready (so gurlyguy, don't worry about it, wait till you feel ready and want to (and you will know when you are completly ready)).

I have kissed a guy i met in a club once so i'm not new to kissing (i have had oral sex once though, but i don't really think that counts (although it's great, though :)).

[gurlygurl2004]

Has anyone heard the question, or term, virgin by choice, or ask if it was yours/their choice? I heard on some show recently (that show NEXT) and one of the chicks on the van(you have to watch it to know what I'm talking about) was virgin at 21 and she was asked was it by choice?. And it made me wonder, is it possible to be a virgin by force? I mean, in a way, our Christian prudish does that to people, you know.

[Agaliha]

I supose you can be a virgin by force.

For example a teenage girl, lets say 16 years old. Finally talked her parents into letting her have a boyfriend, they're a religious family, lets say Christian. They believe in no sex until marriage. Perhaps said girl is Christian, but not so religious, yet she swore to her parents she wouldn't have sex (or to god as well). In this case she wants to, but her family and beliefs won't let her.

Or young women who are Muslims.
Sex before marriage is a big no-no regardless in they want to or not.

Or if you live in a country or culture where virginity is prized. Even if you want to have sex, you can't. You could be shamed, disowned, killed, etc.

In a way that's by force.

People who have the option and chose not to are virgins by choice. Implies there is freedom to make decisions and choose.
People who don't have an option, choice or say either by religion, culture or customs are by force. Even if they want to have sex.

Just my view.

[Ahautenites]

My reason for being a virgin used to be that I never had the opportunity to be with anyone. But in the last few years, my sex drive has been so low that I thought I was asexual. Turns out I'm not, but thoughts of sex still don't do much for me most of the time. And in the past year, I've decided that I am a virgin by choice. I'm deliberately celibate and I plan on staying that way. Not one person on the whole planet is worthy of me.

[bbnflpn]

virgin by force would also mean chastity belt.

now they may not truly exist, but they are there mentaly for people.

[Silverfire Darkmoon]

No, there are chastity devices for men. I don't know about for women, I'm sure it could be done, but I don't know how. The ones for men look dreadful.
Quite obviously there's situational chastity and non-situational chastity.

[Piney Boy]

I lost my virginity in my mid-teens to an older women, and honestly was thrown for a bit of a loop by the whole thing. I wasn't emotionally ready and it soured me on the concept of relationships and the role sex can play in them. For years after this I only wanted a physical relationship and kept myself at arms length to avoid getting hurt. I don't believe in regret or what-ifs so I cant really say I'd have had it another way, but I definitely see that waiting til you are emotionally ready as a good thing. When your ready find a nice person and play some Marvin Gaye tunes.:hehehehe: Seriously though, put stock in it, but dont make it and end all kind of experience. Try to meet different people and enjoy time and experiences with people you are attracted to both mentally as well as physically, that way when the right person does show up you'll have no regret about missing out on things.

[Lunar_Dragonfly]

Heheh I was 19 and in college when I lost my virginity, I remember being terrified because I thought it would hurt a lot. I'm still with the same guy though and I don't regret it at all <3. He was a virgin as well when we slept together, and he was 22 at the time. I have a friend who was a virgin at 24, not by choice, but he lost it recently.

[WokeUpDead]

Virgin by force could just mean you've never had a chance.

[Garm]

Quite obviously there's situational chastity and non-situational chastity.

Must be more common for guys in Hamilton than elsewhere.

The M to F ratio is not at all favourable in Steel town from what I've heard. Hamiltonians have a rep for fighting over women, pick ups often ending in punch outs.

In a town like Ottawa, where most of the work force is clerical, the opposite holds true, and you're just as likely to get waylaid on the street by some randy cabinet minister's daughter whose looking for the attention she doesn't get at home.

[gurlygurl2004]

I supose you can be a virgin by force.

For example a teenage girl, lets say 16 years old. Finally talked her parents into letting her have a boyfriend, they're a religious family, lets say Christian. They believe in no sex until marriage. Perhaps said girl is Christian, but not so religious, yet she swore to her parents she wouldn't have sex (or to god as well). In this case she wants to, but her family and beliefs won't let her.

Or young women who are Muslims.
Sex before marriage is a big no-no regardless in they want to or not.

Or if you live in a country or culture where virginity is prized. Even if you want to have sex, you can't. You could be shamed, disowned, killed, etc.

In a way that's by force.

People who have the option and chose not to are virgins by choice. Implies there is freedom to make decisions and choose.
People who don't have an option, choice or say either by religion, culture or customs are by force. Even if they want to have sex.

Just my view.

Well, in that case I'm definitely not a virgin by choice. I was always taught to stay a virgin until marriage. At least I was taught that at first when I was really young, but I've been raised with really religious beleifs and conflicting views as well. My mom even had a strict rule about me dating and my mom's reaction to relationships and sex just made/makes it difficult for me to get intimate:( My sisters taught me I can have sex before marriage through example but they still preached about being a virgin until marriage or adulthood and having strict rules in certain situations.

And on that topic because of our purtanical and prudish upbringing as Christian Americans most people in this country or other similar countries cannot actually get to really decide when they can lose it. I mean even when we start discussing sex with someone younger than 12, or 12-15, we teach them to either wait until marriage, wait until they are a certain age, and bottom line, don't have sex now. Even if that 9, 10,11, or 12 year old has the natural urge. So given that I really don't think we are virgin by choice. (Excluding the much older celibate people (popes, nuns, etc).

[gurlygurl2004]

MWad would be my guess.

That being said, this is your friendly non-admin / non-moderator reminder to keep it clean while you're on this side.


If you are the second oldest virgin here, who is the first?

[KaliHobbit]

I lost mine on my 21st birthday. I'd love to say that I waited for someone special, and in faireness he wasn't unspecial per say, just not the prince charming I'd been dreaming of lol. Actually, what I treasure most about that experience is that I was really ready and because of that I can look back without any regrets (can't say I don't have regrets about sex I've had since then, but hey).

[starfire]

my friend is a guy and he is 25 and still a virgin by choice. He has had opertunities, but chooses to wait until he could afford having a child if he were to get someone pregnant. I admire that, since a lot of people that get pregnant either have abortions (which he doesn't believe in for himself) or they are kids having kids. So sad, children are a lot of work, and when you have them so young you miss out on being a kid and doing things you might have. Not saying you can't love 'em any less, just puts a burden on many especially the mom.

I don't see the problem with waiting as long as you want to. Once you start it is sort of like Lay's potato chips, can't stop at one...well at least for me...

[CoolJ]

I know of a few people on mw who were virgins in their 30s and 40s even... there's nothing wrong with it at all... some people just have different views on relationships and sex, and some people are just very, very picky....

Actually.. I know 2 women, sisters, in their 60s and virgins...though uh... one of them recently married.....

[Silverfire Darkmoon]

I'm going to say that religion has a lot to do with it. Silly Great Rite being at the heart of the religion! Why, what WILL those Wiccans think up next? When I believe that the Goddess is embodied in woman, of course I'm going to try and find a woman in whom I see that Goddess :P Nothing else will do. Picky, picky, picky!
Of course, the concept that the whole of Creation came into being through sex (hur hur...big bang indeed!) and sex therefore being something intensely sacred that demands a reverent attitude may well have something to do with it :P

[ladymousewitch]

My ex boyfriend was 25 when he lost his.. my current boyfriend was 19 or 20... but the oldest I've known was 38 not by choice she just never found "the one" I went threw a lot of b.s. growning up and was raped at 10 by my step dad (don't worry I'm over it and hes still sitting in jail) but by choice I slept with my first man at 17.

[gurlygurl2004]

my friend is a guy and he is 25 and still a virgin by choice. He has had opertunities, but chooses to wait until he could afford having a child if he were to get someone pregnant. I admire that, since a lot of people that get pregnant either have abortions (which he doesn't believe in for himself) or they are kids having kids. So sad, children are a lot of work, and when you have them so young you miss out on being a kid and doing things you might have. Not saying you can't love 'em any less, just puts a burden on many especially the mom.

I don't see the problem with waiting as long as you want to. Once you start it is sort of like Lay's potato chips, can't stop at one...well at least for me...


That's one good thing about being a virgin (for me). I have recently worked with a 16-year-old who is pregnant (having her baby in a couple of weeks), and a 22-year-old who was pregnant for the first time. Both unmarried. Except if I all the sudden had sex and got pregnant it would be a semi-wanted child. I've always wanted a child but still isn't the right time for me.

[Ahautenites]

If you are the second oldest virgin here, who is the first?

I could tell you, but then the owner of that auspicious title would be obliged to hex me on account of how it's confidential. ;)

[MoonDragn]

I waited til I was 31. After that I just couldn't wait any longer.

[serenarian]

I lost my virginity when I was 20 and I'm glad I waited. I waited for the right guy and it was the best decision I've ever made.