a reading... please?

[quiet dear]

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[Myst]

I don't know about the reading but I feel if you're having doubts you should explore. Maybe make an agreement with him that you could both see other people? It's really hard to make a solid long time relationship work last long distance, let alone a relationship where you've only been physically with the guy a week.

Not that your mom is right, I think she's totally wrong in what she said and did. It's just that if *you* are having doubts I think it's something you need to explore. Have you tried talking to him? You don't necessarily have to lose him to meet other people..?

[Sequoia]

well. . . . my suggestion would be. . . screw your mom. (not literally, of course)

my mother doesn't like my boyfriend. She thinks he's rude (it's actually quite the opposite, she's rude to him), he reminds her of her first x, so of COURSE my boyfriend is going to be exactly like hers. . . -_-; right.

Soemtimes mothers mean well, but they havn't got a clue. Listen to your feelings. Do you miss him? is he special to you? What does your mother know, just do what feels right (er. . . short of getting kicked out lol)

[Myst]

Have him stay at a friends? Have him save up to get a hotel?

[Myst]

Well then you're going to have to decide to let it go or talk to your mom about this. Maybe if you come to her and say what you've said here she'll listen. Or you can keep it long distance for another couple years.

[Lavender]

It might not be a bad idea to keep it long distance for the time being. Is he working in Nebraska? If he comes out to Conneticut, how will he live? If he's staying at your place, rent free, that would be a burden on your family. I hate to say it but it doesn't show him in a good light that way.

What about working out a compromise with your mom? Suggesting to her that maybe he could visit on weekends?

This is a mom's point of view...

I don't think your mom's doing this to be a b*tch. It seems that she's trying to do what's best for you but is not communicating it right. I think it was good of her to let him stay at your house in the first place. I don't know the whole story so I'm just going by what you've told us so far. She's worried about your future with him. You said you're 15. You're also having doubts about this guy. That itself should say try the long distance thing first. See how serious this guy is or if you change your feelings for him. At the risk of sounding more like a mom, 15 is really not that old. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you. :)

[Myst]

What were the "bad things he did"?

[Myst]

Well you know how it feels that your mom is ignoring *your* feelings on this, so how do you suppose she feels when you discard her feelings? Maybe you should sit and think about what *she* wants and what *her* motivations are and how you can work to make you both happy.

[Lavender]

I'm not sure I'm understanding this right. Are you asking your mom to let him stay at your place permanently? Does he have family where he's from that would miss him? Or do you two just want to visit each other once in a while?

If your feelings are true to each other, waiting a bit won't make any difference. Your mom may not be expressing her feelings properly but I'm sure she's acting out of concern for you. What about getting a third person to sit down with the two of you to mediate? The best I can recomend is a compromise on both parts. Your mom has to let you learn things for yourself & come to the realization yourself whether or not this boy is right for you. You have to understand your mom is not being hard just for the sake of being mean.

[Myst]

Well maybe that's because she doesn't think you're listening and caring about how she feels.

Have you ever told her you understand her feelings and that she's trying to protect you? Have you asked her what you can do to find a way to visit?

[Myst]

No that's not what I'm trying to do. But I imagine she thinks she's listening to you too and she's not really is she?

[Lavender]

Do you have someone that you both could trust to sit in the conversation with you? Perhaps an aunt or one of her friends? Someone that you both know that could be impartial?

[Silver Venus]

I agree with what both Myst and Wild are saying that you should really try and work this out..
Ill see what the cards have to say tomorrow when I get some free time..

[Silver Venus]

Hi, Ive drawn three cards for you and they back up what has been said here aboput talking to your mum and getting everythign out in the open.

The first ~ the Knave of Swords ~ this shows you as a very strong willed but also gentle woman, as soon as I drew this I knew it meant that you have to make the first move in this communication, you have to be the grown up and really try to work this out for the sake of your relationship. This card is a very courageous card, and I think it speaks of getting the courage and the strength to really think about everything from both sides of the story, yours and how your mother sees it and understanding and accepting both sides. They are different but if you both think you are right maybe you just have to accept that and move on, talking and trying to positivly resolve this.

I think this is going to be hard for both of you ~ the 5 of Pentacles ~ indicates that your ego's are getting in the way, and unless one of you really tries harder, you, your not going to get anywhere but just go backwards again. I get that you are feeling rejected, that you have no support and going through a very tought time about all this but you cant let your ego get in the way. Do you understand what Im saying? You have to be strong and use the courage of the Knave of swords communciation skills to let go of your ego on this and just accept the situation and try to really work this out with your mum.

The ending is happy ~ the Sun :sunny: which means bonding, partnership, happiness, love, communication, playfullness, laughing, warmth and a renewed strength of body and sprirt.
So I really get that if you try and talk to your mum in a calm understanding manner it will all work out and you may get some big surprises back from her that you never though of before.

:) hope that helps and you work it all out.