Ex-Boyfriend Dreams

[ViolinGoddess]

For the past three months I've been having many dreams about my ex-boyfriend I had in college, named Ben. He was from Israel. As time passed, I had these dreams more and more often. Starting two weeks ago, I was having them every night. Now mind you, they were all good dreams, and they were all different. But they all had to do with intimate situations to varying degrees. FOr the longest time I couldn't figure out why I was having these dreams. Actually, today I still can't figure it out. But I have figured out what the connection between them is. You see, the boyfriend I had after Ben raped me many many times over the tow year period of our relationship. So Ben was the last time I felt sexually safe in a man's arms. Even though I've had two relationships since that bad experience. I have since stopped having them altogether. Ironically I've stopped having them since a friend of mine came to visit me and we started having a physical relationship that happens to make me also feel sexually safe. But wither way, the dreams have stoped. SO if anyone could tell me why I was having them at all, I'd be appreciative. I dated Ben about 1995-1997ish. SO it was a long time ago.

Thank you!

Violin Goddess

PS. UPDATE:I was having these dreams every night until a friend of mine came to visit me from out of town, his name is Justin. He and I finally decided to up our friendship to the category of "friends with benifits". It should be mentioned that the physical time spent with Justin was surprisingly "sexually safe" as well. Since Justin's visit, I have stopped having those dreams about Ben. Interesting, no? ANy thoughts?

[Ianna]

Hi, there could be many reasons for having such dreams. I have had similar dreams myself, although only being 18, its strange. Sometimes you can have such dreams as you earn to feel safe like u did back then, to feel loved and secure.

Also if u still somewhere deep down still love that person, the dreams remember of all the happy times (sometimes bad times) are just a reminder to show you, you can have that again sometime in the future.

This is only my view on it though. Iv had dreams of ex partners, were i come from, some horrible accidents that have happened in my past, and i believe we have them to make us stronger, to help us in our future. But others make think differently. You have to be open to idea for Why though.

I hope i have been of some help. Blessed Be.

[Rudas Starblaze]

Ianna was pretty close to the mark on this one.

you were having those dreams because you desired to have something you havent had in long time.... an honest to goodness safe relationship with someone you can trust and open up to.