UPDATE!! I need a curse! UPDATE!!

[LadyCanine]

I got a call yesterday afternoon.

My friend........I looked at it and it rang like 5 times before I answered it, I was surprised.

Her: Hey (you can tell she is kinda down, usually its 'whats up girl')
Me: Hey girl whats up!?
Her: Nothing much, what are you doing?
Me: 'Bout to go up to the store.
Her: Oh, I just figured I'd call and tell you what I was doing.
Me: Whats that?
Her: I'm leaving him. Me and (daughter) are moving back in with my mom tonight, there going to help me get most of our stuff today while he's at work.

Ok, as down as my friend is....

:boing: :cheers: :woot: _handclapp :dancy: :bouncybob :fprtyman4

Well, after that we talked for a few hours, my poor DH having to go to the store for me as I didnt want to get off the phone with her. (I think he'll survive one act of domestication, lol)

She went threw the whole thing. What everyone else was seeing she saw and she told me that not one person was disagreeing with choice of leaving.

She work up yesterday morning and couldnt even get herself up to go to school. She lost her job last monday and you know what that asshat told her? "You need to get another job and this time you need to be pulling more hours. I never planned on taking on all your bills when you moved in"

WTF? first off she added her cell phone bill, car and insurance payment and thats it. He's added a boat payment (its WAY to much to pay for a falling apart lil boat) His truck payment, sell phone and and some other bills. Plus EVERY friday he goes to the auction spends 300-500 dollars on crap to sell at the flea market....he keeps saying 'i'll make my money back' blah blah...well, yeah he might but in a LONG amount of time..plus buying stuff every weekend doesnt help.

Then there is school, her daughter, him expecting her to take care of the house and 'have his dinner ready when he gets home'

How is she supose to do all that on a full time job? She cant.

She expected to take care of his mothers stuff too...she had that house clean from top to bottom and the next day when she got in from school she had to clean up the massive piles of pee and poop HER dogs did and didnt clean it up...right in front of her!!!! She cant keep it up and she is NOT risking having her daughter taking away from her because of it, and neither her ex nor mother seemed to understand that.

Oy......anyways.......she got everything she could out last night. She was goin to leave her computer, bunkbeds and tramp in the backyard, but I told her she should take the computer, it has personal information on it she cant replace like she can beds and toys. I dont know if she did or not.

She left him a note, saying if he wanted to work things out things needed to change and if he wanted to call he could wait a few days and think about it. if she didnt get a call then she knew his answer.

She wont get a call, he wont care....cause sure enough after our 'fight' he told her that if he caught her talking to me or at my house their relationship would be over. If you love someone how can you just drop it just like that over a disagreement?

anyways.......I dont expect him to care, and honestly she doesnt either..but..at least now she can move forward. Her mom said she can stay there and not have to help with any bills so long as she is going to school and they would help pay for things for her daughter if she needs something.

So..now the only way to go is up!..

[wooleybob]

Naaaah..A curse is a bad thing,and what goes around comes around back to ya..sounds like he just needs a size 12 to the butt..lol

[covenofkeys]

dont do a curse-a waste of your energy-perform a reflecting and revealing spell-it will show him the error of his ways and give him back the negativity he spews into peoples lives,sit tight and wait the magic will happen sooner than you think-my opinion-tell her to get away and stay away from him.
if you want this spell, pm me and ill make it happen!

[wolfjan1]

I am sorry that your friend is having so much trouble.
I am glad that she had you to to support her while she vented her anger and frustration. I hope you are cleaning your Chakras to get rid of all that negative energy. And if you have, perhaps you can help her to clean hers. Surely, deep in her heart, she knows she needs to free herself. Perhaps you can help her find a space of her own.
Don't worry about him. The rules of karma will work.
Bless you all.

[Xander67]

glad to know she is taking back control of her life!

I hope it all works out and she meets someone who will respect her and treat her right..:cheers:

[LadyCanine]

Hey guys thanks....if you'll read my other thread when it all began you'll understand im not really going to curse someone...i was just blowing steam :hahugh:

On the up and up..its offically over...he DID call her but I think mainly just to fight..when she refused to move back into that house he said 'well, i'll ask one more time, if you dont come home tonight then we are threw and you never loved me' etc etc etc.

She said her peace, said she wanted nothing more to do with him and we are going to get all her stuff out this weekend when he wont be there. After about a week I AM calling Animal Control on this guys mother. Some might say to mind my own...but the first time she had over 50 dogs in that house when they came, they said get them out by this date..she did, then they let her keep her 'show' dogs but could have no more dogs than that.

Shes up to about 20 adults and 3 or 4 litters of puppies and planning on more breedings. So yeah, i'll be making a call.

So, on good notes, we are all planning on going out somewheres this weekend and just having fun!

LC
Is glad to see her best friend happy again.

[Xander67]

OH if she is planning to return to get her things, then I would suggest you gals call the sherriff or something just in case he decides to come home while she is getting her things... make sure she has ID with her adress on it, something to prove she resides there... I would wait untill AFTER she gets all of her things out to change her adress and take her name off things...

hope it all works out :)

[Aleannah]

OH if she is planning to return to get her things, then I would suggest you gals call the sherriff or something just in case he decides to come home while she is getting her things... make sure she has ID with her adress on it, something to prove she resides there... I would wait untill AFTER she gets all of her things out to change her adress and take her name off things...

hope it all works out :)

This is good advice. I hope everything works out well for her from here on out. :hugz:

[wolfjan1]

OH if she is planning to return to get her things, then I would suggest you gals call the sherriff or something just in case he decides to come home while she is getting her things... make sure she has ID with her adress on it, something to prove she resides there... I would wait untill AFTER she gets all of her things out to change her adress and take her name off things...

hope it all works out :)
EXCELLENT! You are exactly right. Change your Mailing address IMMEDIATELY! If any power, cable, Phone or ANYTHING are in your name, cut them off TODAY!
FIRST, explain your predicamant to the police, and ask them how to get an order of protection and an escort to get your things. Make sure HE and the family knows that you have this. I may have lost track, but if the animals are in the house where you lived, the police will see this and call animal control themselves, possibly citing or even temporarily janiling mommy dearest without her being involved. Doing anything that might be perceived as vindictive at this time may be of detriment to you. If you tell the police, however, and ask them to call animal control for the sake of the animals, you might be OK.
And when you are done, go back home and clear the chakras of all involved, and say a prayer or meditation for all of those who helped you.

[TheWomanMonster]

Good advice wolfjan1.

LadyCanine do let us know what happens.
Energies of healing and protection for you and your friend.

Be Blessed.

The Woman Monster.

[Kahlil the Heretic]

I'm glad it worked out. Nothing lasts forever...it's great that she was able to muster the strength of will to get out of a terrible relationship. Sometimes individuals simply forget that they need to be happy with themselves before they can be happy with anyone else, and leaving him seems like the first favor she's done for herself in a while. Congrats to her.

But yeah, don't let her go back alone, that sheriff idea was very good. Or take a reeeeally big guy. That'll work too...lol

[LadyCanine]

Ok...so, yesterday, Sunday 9-24 at 11 am we get down there to get her stuff. There is myself, my husband, my friend, her dad, one of her (my friend) guy friends and then another mutual guy friend we've known for awhile.

We get the uhaul truck down there and out guy friends truck down there and start getting stuff out.

That......place.......was.......NASTY

Ok, my friend did the best she could, and while it was always cluttered and junk everywheres, she did her best to keep the dishes washed, the cloths washed and picked up after the dogs, even though they werent her's. I mean she really tried to do the best she could given the situation.

It stank to high heaven of dog pee and poop. It was awful. Food left on the stove from I dont know when. Oh man it was bad.

Well, we only had the start of one problem, his mother was there, he was not but when we went to take out the dryer, she hurried to the car port and stopped us, she one didnt want us to go in there cause of the dogs...17 all in lil cages. And said that she wasnt allowed to take anything else outta that house until she had her sons debit card, check book and truck key.

now, she got the debit card and truck key but that extra key was going to my friends grandfather, has he gave her ex the 3k to buy the truck and pay him back in payments. So she had to call and talk to him and they worked it out she would bring the key back the next day if he put the title in the mail to him, as it hadnt been registered or anything yet.

but whatever, thats between them thats about all I know, I dont really care about that, her grandfather can take care of that.

so, we get all the stuff packed and out, finally. I am waiting for her change of address to take effect and let the heat cool down a bit so that it wont come back on here and I am going to call animal control on his mother.

I counted about 31 dogs on that property. Dog poop and pee was in the spare bedroom were she had about 8 dogs/puppies. It was 'clean' in the carport but stank of pee and poop to high heaven. I mean it was bad. Some of the dogs have ringworm and most of them are extremly timid.

oy...but, we got all the stuff out with hardly no problems. Got all the blankets and cloths washed and all her stuff washed off before anything was taken into her mothers house.

I seriously dont see how people can live like that.

[Xander67]

those poor animals :(

I hope animal control takes them away... Im glad your friend got all her gear out without incodent. Now she can finally close that chapter and move on, you are a good friend for helping.