Help attracting friends

[TheTempestuous1]

Hi everyone,

I was hoping you all could help me with a ritual for making friends/ being more open or whatever. General life advice is also welcome. I just need help getting friends. For 1 I am new at my school again because I was on foreign exchange for the 1st half of the year and last year I was new too. So I really just don't have any friends there that I can go out and do stuff with. Then I am also kinda afraid to go up to new people just cause I feel like they won't want me there, bc they have their own friends. Also I am mature for my age so there's another prob. I really should be in college now but alas, they don't do that at my school... grr Oh well dual enrollement next year! wohoo! Soon I will be free! hehe. But until then, I could use some friends!! ;) thanks!

[Lavender]

I would suggest something more along the lines of building your confidence rather than a spell to make friends. You can make a charm out of a necklace or bracelet to wear for confidence.

What are your interests? What about joining clubs at schools in things you're interested in? Instead of making friends with whole group of people, what about trying to get to know one or two of the kids in your class?

[TheTempestuous1]

yeah I know probably not spells. Just something...... But no there aren't any clubs at my school. It sucks, it's this tiny school with nothing for subjects really either. The only place I really meet any people is in adv theatre or choir...I am really into history, and reading and acting, singing, like violin (and of course no orchastra in my school), then german, no club for that not even a class (I was in germany on foreign exchange.)...erm other stuff like that..

[Myst]

There are spells to ask deity to help you find friends that will be a positive influence to you. Keep in mind that we're not always supposed to get what we think we want.

It's easy for you to fashion an idea out of correspondences - what makes you think of friendship? Craft your own ritual to help your confidence or make you more open to friendships. :)

[Mercuria]

Hi Tempestuous1,

Wildchild said exactly what I was going to say (great minds think alike, ay? :D ).

I went to 4 different high schools, so I know exactly what it's like to be the new girl, by the time I graduated I was a pro.

I agree with Wildchild about focussing on making 1 or 2 friends to start with rather than a whole group. Is there anyone in your class who you think is particularly interesting/friendly? Smile at them, say hello and strike up a conversation. It's scary to think about, but all you have to do is look confident, even if you're not. Trust me on this, people seriously can't tell the difference.

If you really can't find any friends in your school, you could always think about doing some after school activities (you sound like you have alot of interests). That way you're bound to find people that have stuff in common with you.

I think for cases like this it's perhaps more beneficial in the long run to do things the mundane way rather than using magick, but If you're really stuck then a simple confidence/friendship ritual wouldn't do any harm.

Mercuria

[Lavender]

Mercuria, I know exactly what you mean! We moved, on the average, once a year until I reached grade 10. You really learn how to make friends fast that way. Especially as you get into the older grades, the kids are already into thier own little groups & it's hard to break through.

I found that making friends one at a time was a lot easier & less intimidating that a whole group. Also, don't force things...let the friendship progress naturally. In other words, don't expect to become best buds in the first week. Or the first month, for that matter. Lasting friendships takes time to develope. I'm happy to say that I still have friends that I've made back in grade school.

[Wandererz]

been in the same boat, exept I never really cared about making friends and being "popular" The real secret is to do thing's that interest you openly at school. Let's say for instance you like to read a certain kind of book fantasy or something. You've got a book your reading at lunch and someone else who likes those kind of books see's you reading it boom you've got a conversation going on. I was reading a book in class once and looked over there was a guy reading the same book! 3 year's later he's one of my best friends.

But it's not just about similar interests, you have to be content with yourself and what your doing before you can attract people to you. That's a key thing, getting people to come to you where they are initiating conversation just makes it that much easyer than you approaching people. Confidence is a big part of finding friends, like they are saying abouve.

More information would be helpfull, what kind of person you are, what kind of people are at your school, what kind of school it is, is it full of prep's or rednecks, or is it very diverse. If you want specific's give us some so we could give more in depth opinion's.

Wandererz