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September 23rd, 2006, 12:46 AM
I’ve lived with my girlfriend for years. I’ve been with her for a third of my life. Tonight when she picked me up from the train station she sat me down and told me that living together wasn’t working out, and that I need to leave.
She has two children, a boy and a girl. Both are teenagers. I’ve been around them since they were toddlers, and watched them grow up into amazing individuals. I can say without a doubt that they are my two favorite people in the world.
My girlfriend and I have not had an easy time of it for the past two years. We haven’t really been able to talk about our problems with out it erupting into a fight, so we’ve been letting things slide, and slide, and slide some more. She says that the tensions between us are getting in the way of her most important job, which is raising her children. She’s right. She says that the relationship, as it stands is holding me back. She’s right about that too. As angry as I was with her 24 hours ago, I’m sitting on the bed in the most depressing hotel room I have ever seen and I can feel nothing but respect for her. Dammit.
We haven’t broken up completely, we are going to try to maintain some sort of relationship, try to work on our problems. Neither of us want to see the other disappear from their lives I will get to have contact with the kids.
They are the ones I’m worried about. I like to flatter myself and think we’re close. Their father is an asshole, he uses them like pawns in whatever little turf war he has going with my girlfriend or his newly ex wife or his other two kids. I’m no angel, and I have my share of problems, but I think I was one of the more stable influences in these kids lives.
I’m sitting here running a tally in my head of everything that was my fault and everything that was hers. In the end, we both just gave up long ago. It was an invisible act of violence, and the kids got the brunt of it.
Since I’ve been at this forum, I’ve made maybe twenty posts. Ya’ll don’t know me at all, and please know that I’m not playing some attention game. But I would really appreciate it if you could just send some good thoughts towards these kids, because I think they need all the love they can get right now.
Thanks.
She has two children, a boy and a girl. Both are teenagers. I’ve been around them since they were toddlers, and watched them grow up into amazing individuals. I can say without a doubt that they are my two favorite people in the world.
My girlfriend and I have not had an easy time of it for the past two years. We haven’t really been able to talk about our problems with out it erupting into a fight, so we’ve been letting things slide, and slide, and slide some more. She says that the tensions between us are getting in the way of her most important job, which is raising her children. She’s right. She says that the relationship, as it stands is holding me back. She’s right about that too. As angry as I was with her 24 hours ago, I’m sitting on the bed in the most depressing hotel room I have ever seen and I can feel nothing but respect for her. Dammit.
We haven’t broken up completely, we are going to try to maintain some sort of relationship, try to work on our problems. Neither of us want to see the other disappear from their lives I will get to have contact with the kids.
They are the ones I’m worried about. I like to flatter myself and think we’re close. Their father is an asshole, he uses them like pawns in whatever little turf war he has going with my girlfriend or his newly ex wife or his other two kids. I’m no angel, and I have my share of problems, but I think I was one of the more stable influences in these kids lives.
I’m sitting here running a tally in my head of everything that was my fault and everything that was hers. In the end, we both just gave up long ago. It was an invisible act of violence, and the kids got the brunt of it.
Since I’ve been at this forum, I’ve made maybe twenty posts. Ya’ll don’t know me at all, and please know that I’m not playing some attention game. But I would really appreciate it if you could just send some good thoughts towards these kids, because I think they need all the love they can get right now.
Thanks.