Am I a failure?

[magisk]

I'm editing this out to protect identity, etc.

Thanks for everyone's kind words.

[Brightshores]

:hugz:

No, you're not a failure.

Sometimes, you have to make the best of a bad situation, and you have to take care of yourself. A relationship is a two-way process - one person cannot sustain it alone, and that's OK. There is no sense exhausting yourself physically, mentally, and spiritually for something you can't sustain on your own anyway.

The feelings will cease with time and with the patterns of life.

My thoughts and good wishes are with you.

[oceandreams]

I think it's very normal to feel that way after a break up, and of course the feelings will pass!

If you know in your heart the situation wasnt making you happy then you were 100% right to decide to move on! If it's meant to be, somewhere down the line you'll both realise that and be together again, but in the meantime, take lots of time for yourself and make sure you have lots of friends around you to make you feel better.

[Invidosa]

You are allowed to put yourself first

I have been in the same type of situation, I am that kind of person as well. I would burn myself out trying so so so hard to do everything right for everybody else, to fix their problems, to help them out. When it gets to the point that it is sucking the life out of you, you know that its time to walk away. Even if you love them, even if you think they just won't make it without you, even if you think it is going to break your heart. Because you have to know that you are worth it. I know what a smegging crappy, difficult, sad thing it may be. It can get lonely, but you deserve someone who can hold you up when you have hard times too. my heart is with you.

[Cat]

Knowing when to say goodbye is not a failing, and holding stubbornly onto that which harms you isn't my definition of success.