I Need Prays

[Sephiroth]

I need prayers candles i need an army of pagan prayers. my ex is geting dna testing on 14 guys plus me to see who the father of the baby is.:( and i will have to marry her if im the father... i dont want to marry herrrrr:( becuze if its mine her parents and mine are going to force it on me becuze they believe that if i had the guts to do it i should have to go all that way with it
:wah: :wah: :wah: :wah: :wah:
reason 1 shes a bitch reason
2 i will be forced to marry the bitch
reason 3 if it is mine i will get and aids check done

[Earthcup]

No problem, consider it done!

[shnen]

you have candles lit here, and my thoughts are with you. be sure to keep us updated on the results...

Oh, and by the way... you do know this is YOUR life right? No one can dictate who you marry, besides, do not marry for any other reason except for love. You know you won't be happy... stand up for your life!

good luck...

[Phoenix Blue]

**Hugs** If there's a silver lining, it's that your odds of being the father are only one in fifteen.

Why your parents would "make" you marry this girl is beyond me. Obviously she can't keep her pants on, so how would she be any different once she was married to someone? :mad:

One thing you should consider, though, is getting yourself tested for any STD's. Since she's obviously been around the block, there's no knowing what else she may be growing in there, if you know what I mean.

[Kaylara]

True True... But from now on perhaps you will consider the possibilities before you sleep with someone. Can you imagine dealing with this person for the rest of your life? If the answer is no, then don't sleep with them.

Kaylara

[Illuminatus]

15 guys are being tested for paternity??! Well, at least you have decent odds AGAINST.

You live in America right? There's no law saying you have to marry anyone if you father their child. That's bullcrap. Whoever told you that is lying and trying to decieve you, don't listen to them.

If, by some twist of fate, you DO turn out to be the father, go open the phone book and hire a LAWYER. He can help you negotiate terms with the girl. Don't agree to anything without your lawyer's consent.

As a father, you have to pay child support (bad), but you do get parental rights (good), so you may be able to remove one with the other. For instance, if she is particularly incompetent as a mother (which looks to be the case), you can threaten to take the kid away. You would never do this of course, what do you need with a kid! But the threat is usually enough to get the money grubbing whore's hands out of your pockets.

- Ill

[flar7]

not a money grubbing whore. She is now a prospective mommy,
and no matter the past, that deserves respect! Everyone sux at
one time or another, luckily we get other chances to become
good people, perhaps this is hers.

Child support is NOTHING to get out of. This country is way to
lenient on fathers who refuse to pay child support. As long as
you have a lawyer with you, child support is set so as not to be
an overwhelming burden. If you lose your job, or get a pay
decrease, the support can be lowered until you are back on your
feet again.

Sephiroth, if you are the father, dont marry this girl. It is obvious
you dont care for her, so there would be nothing in the marriage
except ill feelings. But do not duck your responsibilities towards
the child if it turns out to be yours. It is the sign of a man, to own
up to his parental responsibilities.

[Laiste]

Well this sure sounds like something off the Jerry Springer show! Well like a few others said...if you are found to be the father you need to own up to your responsibility! It's not the childs fault. If I were you I would also be running to the doctor for a complete check up!! Good luck!

[Old Witch]

It's not the childs fault.....take care of your child, that doesn't mean marry the mother.....that is if it's your baby!!!

[Lavender]

I have to agree with what's been said here already. Don't marry the girl but be a responsible father if the baby's yours. I would like to offer a prayer for the baby, whoever the father may be. I think this child will need it more.

[tube527]

the best of luck to you.....keep us posted on the results! Just remember that you don't have to do anything..listen to your heart IF the results turn out to be that you are the father...
BB!

[Myst]

A candle is lit for the baby.

[Phoenix Blue]

Sayeth Kaylara:
True True... But from now on perhaps you will consider the possibilities before you sleep with someone. Can you imagine dealing with this person for the rest of your life? If the answer is no, then don't sleep with them.


I can't stomach the thought of dealing with my ex-wife for the rest of my life, and I was married to her! :p

The others do have a good point, though--one that I overlooked. The most important person involved in all of this is the child. :) Even if you're not the father, it never hurts to keep that little one's welfare in mind.

[MagickHLHgurl]

I completely agree ith everyone on this matter first you do have to take care of the child if infact it is yours but please please please dont marry this woman...as a child of divorce (which this marriage would inevitably end in) i can tell you its not pretty and ends up hurting the child more...if you were to marry her the child would grow up in a war zone basically...o dont do that no one can force you too...but do pay child support...for the childs sake