feeling blue

[Infinite Muse]

i'm feeling rather blue lately; rather down and out and lonely
not sure what else to say
could use some caresses from the opposite sex as it feels life my sex life is completely over as brief as it was to begin with.
most days i'm too busy to care if i know that deep down i'll never be kissed or hug or have sex ever again in my entire life. and i wish that i had taken more care in my three years of sexually-active-ness to remember it all so i could have something to hang on to
but there ya go. theres nothing left for me, it seems ..
sighs ...
lonely

[Ceres]

Geez, IM, You are only thirty! It aint over till its over :D If you need some human touch, try a massage from a registered massage therapist - it will do you wonders.

[Kahlil the Heretic]

The last post took the words out of my mouth. Heck, creepy as it is, I know of people past 60 who get it on regularly. In fact it is said that the best sex is had after 50.

I suggest you seek counseling from a proffesional about being down in the dumps, to see if you are in need of medication or simply in need of lifestyle changes. There is a difference between being sad and full blown depression, but it should be checked up on. Is your sadness a result of sexual frustration, or vice versa?

It can be easy to make negative generalizations about your life when you are down in the dumps. Take a step back and realize that you are a young, perfectly worthy human being with plenty of life to live (and sex to enjoy.) Just gotta get out there and snag you one.

Nothing is lasting in life. Not even misery.

[Liguana]

Sorry you're so blue, IM. I know it can feel like the end of the line when it's been a while. Sometimes it's not really so much about sex as it is about touch. We are communal animals. We need touch. I agree a massage is not a bad idea. You might also think about taking up one of the martial arts. I recommend Aikido. You are less likely to get clobbered right off the bat but there is indeed human contact at times. Another good touch activity is dancing. Many communities have open dances or dance classes. You don't have to bring a partner. There are usually others waiting for someone to pair up with. Get your touch, get a feeling of doing something romantic and grand and (Bonus) get physical exercise to release those feel good endorphins. Mostly just keep telling yourself, a dry spell does not mean you are in the tomb and decomposing. Chin up! Better times are ahead.

[thewhitetigress]

touch yourself?? eh (blushes)


Well i can relate... its more than the touch being missed. It's the feeling of the person sending you that touch. I'm kinda in the same boat as Im so picky i push every prospect away because i feel i deserve the best for me.

I use mental clarity to remind me i am loved. Not only by others but by me as well and use that feeling as a visual touch to embrace myself with.
Perhaps IM you could use this excercise to envelope yourself with radiant touch. Just to put that smile back on your face?
Once there is light.. there is hope.:wave:

Hang in there. It aint over at 30 or im doomed:nyah:

[Ryd Firedreamz]

Listen to crazy music! Do things meanwhile to keep you distracted from feeling lonely. Do something with your friends, have an adventure with them.

Stay away as much as possible from your house, except to sleep. When you're alone in your house, you have too much time to think and that harms you.