A Quick Prayer or Two Please...

[Earthcup]

Some of you know my sis has left her alcoholic husband recently.

She just called and he's driving around town, apparently drunk, and she's going to try to find him and get him to a hospital...

His family has apparently given up on him and this is really the last thing she needs. It looks like he might have had a mental breakdown, I dunno...

I just thank the Gods he doesn't have their kids with him!

So a quick prayer her way would help a lot right now! Thanks!

[Dancin Girl]

She has my thoughts and my prayers!!

[Nina]

Thoughts and prayers to your sis. Candle is lit on my altar for you. Alcohol can be a demon to some - I hope he gets the help he needs, and your sister and her kids are safe.

[Phoenix Blue]

Hon, have her call the police, let them be the ones to get him off the street. If she's left him, he could well be using this just to get attention from her--and she really ought to stay away from him.

[shnen]

I really don't know if it is wise for her to be persuing him. I agree with Phoenix_blue... i think the trained ones in blue should be taking care of this one... regardless, my thoughts and prayers are with her.

[Earthcup]

Sound advice! I'll call her right now! I don't tend to think of him as dangerous but he can be when he drinks....

[GreenDawn]

I agree with PB- get her to call the police. It could be dangerous for her, if he is having a mental break down of some kind- he could snap and she could be hurt.

I'll send my energy her way, but for her safety and the kids. As for him- I'll pray the propoer authorities catch him (or whatever the Goddess wills)

[WandererInGray]

*hugs Earthcup*

My prayers for your sis, hon....and agreement with those who said call the police.

[callalily]

Prayers already on the way. And I add my vote to call the police.

[Topazz]

Sending prayers and love for you and your sister.
And may your bro-in-law get the help he plainly needs.

ps, are your sis and the kids getting counseling or at
least attending al-anon?

[Old Witch]

Prayers and energy for your sis and kids.....I vote call the police!!

[GreenDawn]

Bring us up to speed on any news you get and let us know if everyone is okay:)

[StarryDancer]

Hope it turns out all right for your sis, hon. It's an awful situation to be in. PB is quite right -- the police are the best means of handling this right now. They can hopefully get him to a hospital for an evaluation, and if that's the outcome, she'd best not be involved, for her own safety.

Please do let us know how it all turns out. My thoughts are with you and your family.

[Azure]

My prayers, as always, are yours. And calling in the guys in blue can only help the situation, from the sound of things.

[Desert_Shadow]

Prayers and wishes for the best for your sis. Been in the same situation before, and it stinks. The police is the best way to go!

[Earthcup]

I never got through to my sis but my mom said he went to her place, argued and then passed out I suppose. I couldn't find out much.

She and the kids aren't in therapy or Al-Anon, she doesn't see the need of it. She also didn't want to call the police. :mad: She doesn't want him to look bad to their kids I guess. It's her life I guess but she keeps me worried.:(

Thanks for all the advice and prayers guys!

[Myst]

I guess you can't help people who don't want to be helped. :(

[Topazz]

Wait a minute ~ calling the police to pick up their father would look bad to the kids, but seeing him drunk and argumentative and passing out ... doesn't? *shaking my head*

[Earthcup]

Tell me about it! My sister is one of those people who always ask for advice and never take it. She drives me slightly crazy sometimes...

[Dancin Girl]

EarthCup, I have a sister like that too.... It's taken her 20 odd years to get out of a disasterous dangerous relationship but she did manage to do it. And, I can remember the ohhh so many times of her saying and doing the same things as your sister. I'm glad everything turned out somewhat okay this time. All you can really do to help is let her know that you're there when she needs you.:sunny:

[Phoenix Blue]

Quoth Earthcup:
Tell me about it! My sister is one of those people who always ask for advice and never take it. She drives me slightly crazy sometimes...

If I may be blunt? **Soft smile** If your sister never takes the advice she's given, stop offering it. It's sad that some people have to learn the hard way, but some people won't learn any other way.

Sometimes the Mother can share a lesson with a whisper. . . and sometimes it takes the (infamous) Sledgehammer of Duhh™.

[Earthcup]

Actually I stopped the advice thing awhile back. Everytime I try to help her she pushes for more. More babysitting, more advice, more tarot readings.. so she's not very happy with me. oh well..

She knows I'm here to listen and that I think she's pretty damn courageous for doing this.

[kblackthorne]

So lemme get this straight...

You sister is teaching her kids that they can do any damned thing they want... and as long as they blame it on alcohol, they'll never have to take responsiblility & other people will clean up their messes & protect them from the consequences?

He was drunk-driving.

He could have killed someone.

But let's make it all neat & tidy... mustn't have things look messy, mustn't call the police...

No, she doen't need Al-Anon! ~shakes head~

(And you have my permission to copy this post & e-mail it to your sister, with any edits you think necessary. Because by her actions this IS what she's teaching the kids.)

[GreenDawn]

Any update? It is over with now and the stupid biped is away from your sis and kids? I hope all is well!


* agree with K, he could have killed someone- thanks Godddess he didn't!

[Earthcup]

He's still around unfortunately, he made up with his mom and moved back in with her and babysits the kids in the afternoon.

I'm tempted to e-mail some of the replies to her but I'm not sure it would do any good, just get her upset and mad at me probably...

He decided to take the kids to church last week and my nephew told me the other day that people who don't go to church go to hell but that I wouldn't go to hell. I'm wasn't sure whether to laugh or cry. I'm pretty sure he got that from his dad but I love that he doesn't think I'm going to hell. He's the sweetest child on earth..:)

The big problem is that she wants to make it on her own but isn't interested in changing jobs. She works nights where she's at now and loves the people she works with. They won't let her switch to days and I have a suspicion she hasn't asked. She has a crush on someone who works nights. Anyway she can't get childcare for those hours and no one's voluteering indefinitely so Dad's babysitting.

It's a mess huh?:rolleyes:

[Topazz]

May the Mother of all grant your sister the wisdom to know the best thing to do for herself and her family, and may she have the courage to do it.

[kblackthorne]

The question is, would it also open her eyes?

And if you think the answer is "No", then no good would be served.

Still, I can stand over here & say it! ~looks stuborn~





And if I'm frustrated, how much worse must it be for you!

(((hugs)))