LadyCanine
October 25th, 2006, 08:05 AM
Yeah, basically what it says. Those that remember my previous posts about my friend and her ex...well tomorrow she is getting on a bus, her and her daughter and going to him in North Dakota. They are all supose to come back Nov. 20 and if things 'go good' there, she will stay with him.
I dont like it
He has done a complete 360 on everything and has even gone as far so tell her he wants to marry her when she gets up there, he doesnt care if she stays off BC cause he wants to have kids with her, he wont keep her from her friends, he loves her, cant and wont go another day without her.
Im about ready to scream, puke and wish him an ill fate, although I havent yet. (the ill fate)
She's told him she was sure about marriage or kids now, that they had to work stuff out, etc etc etc. He of course is ignoring that and called her one night asking her what type of ring she wanted.
I have tried to talk her out of it in a way. Not the 'oh dont go dong go' but talking to her and going over different things. You know, what happens is this happens? what are you going to do if such and such goes on again? what if she DID marry him and things when back to like they were? I told her sternly on that one that we BOTH knew how hard divorces were and what jerks we were married to at the time.
He says he's willing to let 'bigones be bigones' with me and 'start over'. I basically told her F-that, I dont care and I dont let go of somethings easily. I told her I would be civil, but not to expect much. So long as he doesnt bitch and moan etc about us being friends, he can stay far away from me. He thinks he's a big bad arse who can 'whoop anyone'. Likes to start fights and get into fights. Not to brag to much, I mean even my husband knows he cant take on everyone and has taken his share of buttkickings, and for the most part tries to avoid it at all cost (he went into a mental hosptial at 17 due to his temper and other things) Hes grown up alot since then, and does try to find a different approach to things, but he's also the type that you dont mess with his family and he'll do what he's gotta do. So im worried on THAT aspect cause my DH wants NOTHING to do with him and in not so nice terms, like me, told her she shouldnt go back. If he comes back around and something happens again with me and him like last time, I might not be able to stop DH next time..................................and im not sure if we have enough money for bail! (keep in mind something serious would have to happen for it to go that far, but im a worry wort with this stuff)
Im worried that if she gets up there, she wont be able to get back. She's taking a bus so she wont have her car, she only has him up there, no friends or family so no one to turn to. She says if things dont go good she'd stick it out til Nov. 20 till they came home. Im worried that he'll do like he's done before and push it back with 'oh just another week.........two weeks.....etc'. Or worst case she calls him on it quickly and he does something to her.
This stinks all the way around. Keep her and her lil girl in your thoughs/prayers and send some stong/good/positive/supportive energies their way.
I dont like it
He has done a complete 360 on everything and has even gone as far so tell her he wants to marry her when she gets up there, he doesnt care if she stays off BC cause he wants to have kids with her, he wont keep her from her friends, he loves her, cant and wont go another day without her.
Im about ready to scream, puke and wish him an ill fate, although I havent yet. (the ill fate)
She's told him she was sure about marriage or kids now, that they had to work stuff out, etc etc etc. He of course is ignoring that and called her one night asking her what type of ring she wanted.
I have tried to talk her out of it in a way. Not the 'oh dont go dong go' but talking to her and going over different things. You know, what happens is this happens? what are you going to do if such and such goes on again? what if she DID marry him and things when back to like they were? I told her sternly on that one that we BOTH knew how hard divorces were and what jerks we were married to at the time.
He says he's willing to let 'bigones be bigones' with me and 'start over'. I basically told her F-that, I dont care and I dont let go of somethings easily. I told her I would be civil, but not to expect much. So long as he doesnt bitch and moan etc about us being friends, he can stay far away from me. He thinks he's a big bad arse who can 'whoop anyone'. Likes to start fights and get into fights. Not to brag to much, I mean even my husband knows he cant take on everyone and has taken his share of buttkickings, and for the most part tries to avoid it at all cost (he went into a mental hosptial at 17 due to his temper and other things) Hes grown up alot since then, and does try to find a different approach to things, but he's also the type that you dont mess with his family and he'll do what he's gotta do. So im worried on THAT aspect cause my DH wants NOTHING to do with him and in not so nice terms, like me, told her she shouldnt go back. If he comes back around and something happens again with me and him like last time, I might not be able to stop DH next time..................................and im not sure if we have enough money for bail! (keep in mind something serious would have to happen for it to go that far, but im a worry wort with this stuff)
Im worried that if she gets up there, she wont be able to get back. She's taking a bus so she wont have her car, she only has him up there, no friends or family so no one to turn to. She says if things dont go good she'd stick it out til Nov. 20 till they came home. Im worried that he'll do like he's done before and push it back with 'oh just another week.........two weeks.....etc'. Or worst case she calls him on it quickly and he does something to her.
This stinks all the way around. Keep her and her lil girl in your thoughs/prayers and send some stong/good/positive/supportive energies their way.