In need of some hugs.

[Njorun Alma]

I don't know if any one of you have noticed that the past few weeks/months have been extra hard on me.
I've been feeling pertty unloved, unwanted, a burden to all my friends and have, because of that, isolated me from most of the people I love.

I've turned to over indulging in food, alcohol, dreams and not much else.
I've started to realize the error of my ways, which I guess is a step in the right direction, but it doesn't really help the way I feel.

Both my sisters have boyfriends. The youngest is 16, and she's met someone who loves her dearly, and she loves him back. Same for my other sister. They've always had boyfriends, and people who have been in love with them.
I guess I just feel unwanted and left out of all the lovingness that have been flowing around my family and friends lately.

I just can't seem to get some love of that kind in my life, and that kind of love is something I desperately need. I know most people will say that "that kind of love comes when you least expect it" but I just haven't seen it yet.

And yes, I know I'm still young, in human years lived anyway.

It just seems like things aren't getting better. Just harder and more lonely.

I've just realized that I don't really have as many friends as I thought I had as well. So... needless to say I feel as though I am losing the little love I had in my life instead of gaining any at all.

So, a few hugs might help me now. I know I need to make changes, and I know which changes I need to make. I just feel like I need a little love in order for me to do so.

[Infinite Grey]

I think I know how you feel :hugz:

[Mainedruid]

*big hugs*

Welcome to the club... HA HA sorry, thats probably a bad start, but I know exactly how you feel. I'm I'm a smart guy... I'll reread this and take my own advice....

Up and down ins and outs... rise and fall of the tide, wax and wain of the moon... such is life.... Friends found and lost...

Tuff times show us just who our true friends are, and more often then not we loose the people we thought were the closest, thats just growing I suppose... My best friends are people I have met in rough times, they stuck my me then and they stick by me now. We have been through it all.

I dunno about much, but I know about loss. You meet some one who becomes your best friend, your love, the mother of your children... some you trust inside and out... and then they are gone..... Crushed? ya, i think so...

Know this... your not alone. This place has shown me that the past couple days. and you are loved... this place has shown me that as well....

I know what your going through... if you want to talk I'm here... I could probably use a good conversation my self

Be well
mike

[Jolixte]

:hugz:

[BlueEyedWolf]

:hugz: :hugz: :hugz:

[Bix]

I understand how you feel...seems like all through high school I was the only girl without a boyfriend.

I hope things get better for you.

[LightDancer]

:hugz: :hugz: :hugz:

[Kahlil the Heretic]

If that's really your pic on your avatar then I can't fathom why you're still single.

[Malcolm]

If that's really your pic on your avatar then I can't fathom why you're still single.

Finding someone to date is alot different than finding someone you can love. That just doesn't happen very often, no matter how attractive someone is.

Hang in there Njorun, you'll be okay. :cheers:

[TheWomanMonster]

May you have the courage to change what you need to change. And may your path be sure.

*hugs*

Stop looking so hard, Just live.

[RavensEye]

That sucks that you feel that way , and yes I can relate, well you know that already but had to say it again _wedgie_ :hugz: now come and cheer up and jump on the bed like this > :abbed:
:D You know I am always around if ya need to talk my friend the least I can do for ya, for all that ya have put up with me :D
:hugz:

[Philosophia]

:hugz::hugz::hugz::hugz::hugz::hugz::hugz::hugz::hugz::hugz:

[pluralone]

The thing we tend to forget about loneliness is this: It's cyclic.

It's not like when you get physically hungry and if you don't eat you just get hungrier; it's not like when you exhale and if you don't inhale you die... when you get lonely and you don't find someone to fill that void, eventually something comes along to fill it, instead. Your attention goes elsewhere, you feel better. And then at some point you notice that you'd like to have someone next to you to share things with and you feel lonely again. But not all the time; it comes and goes, much like boredom or any other emotion.

There is nothing wrong with feeling lonely. It's an honest emotion, like anger or joy.

It's not how you feel so much as what you do with how you feel that matters. Sometimes it just helps, for me anyway, to realize whatever I'm feeling at the moment is normal and temporary. The point is no to minimize any emotion or experience but to put it into a more tolerable perspective, yes?

Knowing how you feel, having been there (and headed there again at some point, no doubt), I'll keep you in my meditations.
-plur

[Zelan]

:hugz:

I wish it wasn't like that for you dear.
I know how it feels too, when those around you seem rich in love, and you feel like you can't even be genuinely happy for them 'cuz love seems to not be there for you too.

Then, of course, that guilt compounds the matter, and seems to leave you with even less vitality....sucks.

What can I say that you havent already heard?
"be patient 'cuz you never know"

True it may be, but I understand that it's but a small comfort at the moment.

Take care hon'
Zel is still you friend.

[Ancient Wisdom]

Here are some :hugz: for ya babe.........more :hugz:

[Brenda]

:hugz: :hugz: