Coming out of the Broomcloset

[Flaire-FireStar]

Indeedly do, and that I have done. Just in my family, anyway.

And to be frank...I'm still scared out of my mind. I think it just takes some time getting used to?

[Imagi]

Good for you on your coming out :) It's always nerve-racking and scary to do because you just don't know how people are going to take it, or what they're going to think, or if they're going to think of you any differently after the news is out. But, it is a weight that is now off your chest, you don't have to feel like there's a part of you that cannot be known, especially to close family. I say congradulations to you for your strength and bravery to do that :)

[Ball-Bhreac Ròn]

yey to Flaire! :D:D:D many congratulations - it's all better in the long run, trust me :)

[Old Witch]

Welcome Out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!We're here for you!!!!!!!!:D

[SuperHeroGirl]

con-grab-you-lations!!!! :D :p :cool: :) ;) good luck and dont be scared!

[Flaire-FireStar]

Well..It's 2 days later, Mom's still a being a bit quiet around me ( :eek: ) and I'm starting to feel a whole lot better. (Yesterday I could barely stand to be around anyone, so I pretty much tried to spend the day in my room)..

Thanks for the support guys! *hugz* :)

[icedrop917]

I have started practicing Wicca, but I havn't told my parents yet. I am really scared to, especially because they are really strong Christians. Their reaction would be something like Why are you so lost in your faith, how could you do this to us, etc... I don't know what to do. I don't want my mom and dad to shun me!

[DragonDawn]

I feel the same way icedrop. My parents aren't very religious but i still know that they wouldn't understand. Most of my close friends know but not any of my family. Its kinda scary telling someone. :bug: My dad thinks witchcraft is just a phase that teenagers go through. He says that people grow out of it. I could just see me trying to tell my dad that I'm Pagan.
:bug: :eek:

[Flaire-FireStar]

Sometimes they can surprise you though. I thought my mom was going to be really ticked off at me when I told her, but she was really calm and asked a few questions about the God & Goddess, about the Summerland, etc. She didn't really get too much into asking about magick and stuff like that, or the Sabbats, but once she figured out that I knew what I was talking about she just accepted it.

I think it might help a bit if you leave small hints around... I started wearing my "star" (that's what everyone calls it. :mad: ) outside of my shirt, and small things like that. ;)

[Andromeda]

Congrads flaire :) I'm glad it well.

[Flaire-FireStar]

;) Thanks

[Emaleth]

Hey Flaire!
Congratulations! I admire your courage, I've told only my sister and it wasn't like I said: you must know that I'm a Pagan. She just witnessed my transformation, I talked to her all the time and she accepted it. She isn't religious, just quite traditional. She asked me questions like: so you won't celebrate Christmas? and this was really the least important thing.
I'm afraid that my parents willl think I joined some sect. The've been talking about it for years. Everything I did, every suspiscious book or CD made them ask me if I'm in some kind of sect :( I'm sad, because they don't trust me, but that's another story.
I've also given some hints, burning incense, studying Tarot, and stuff like that, I hope that when I finally tell them it won't be such a shock.

Blessed Be

[Flaire-FireStar]

Yeah..My mom picked up on it a bit when I burned incense (I can't anymore - my dad's really sensitive to it...:() and she knew about my Tarot cards, so she wasn't really that surprised.

Although, she hasn't asked about holidays...yet.. Although, I will continue to celebrate her holidays with her, and do my own in private. :)

[Sequoia]

it wasn't really a "coming out" for me, at least, not with my mom. My mom was like a bit surprised, but not negative. More neutral ^^; . . . my brother, on the other hand was asking me to curse his friends and do spells. . . -_-; I was like "Will. . . I don't do "spells"." -_-; am I like the ONLY pagan who isn't wiccan? he asked me that like three times! he keeps asking! Dude, Wiccan is NOT equal to Pagan! different. -_-; am I the only person on these message boards that doesn't really do specific "spells" so much as just follow her instincts and such in prayer? *shrugs* ;) ah, I'm just a weirdo!

my dad kept dropping quasi-subtle hints that he was either not really sure about it, thinks it's a phase, thinks it's a bad desicion on my part, or perhaps. . .just maybe. . . he might be afraid of me :eek: what is there to be afraid of me for?

. . . . ok what is there about me being PAGAN for him to be afraid of? :D ;)

[DragonDawn]

:thumbsup: Hey I don't really "spells" either. Well not that much. I don't have enough time to my self. ;) I pray in my own way and some times i'm answered and sometimes i'm not. At the very least you know your not the only weirdo around ;)

I keep dropping little hints around my parents so hopefully when i get the guts to come out to them, they won't be completely surprised. :ugh:

[Flaire-FireStar]

I don't do "spells" either.. So far, I've only done one, and I'm not sure how it turned out..so :nyah: No problem, I just don't like doing 'em that's all. :)

[Niamh]

I do spells, but not just any old spell at any old time... I have to know that it's the right thing to be doing!

Anyhow...
Yeah for you on leaving the broom closet! I'm still nestled in the safety of mind, all the while tossing hints out the door ;)

I want to tell my parents. However, I toss little "tests" at my mother every now and again and they usually don't work out so well.

[Emaleth]

Originally posted by Puma Hime

. . . . ok what is there about me being PAGAN for him to be afraid of? :D ;) [/B]

Aren't people always afraid of something they don't understand? They hear "Pagan" and they think "devil worshipper"! But I think that it may be that your father is just worried about you, not afraid of you. I know my parents would be if they knew. Now they just call me a heretic when I refuse to go to church, they think I'm just lazy. A week ago, though I told them it had nothing to do with laziness, it's just my choice. And it helped ... for one week:eek:

Blessed Be

[WandererInGray]

*laughs* I didn't so much as tell my parents, as it just kinda became known.
The subject came up more and more in conversation....parents are way more observant than you give them credit for sometimes! (even though I'm almost 26 and live 200 miles away from them)

To the point where one of my grandmothers asked me if I believed in "that Wicca stuff" at New Year's Eve dinner two years ago (wow has it really been that long?)....*laughs*

And my mother mentioned something about saying "yeah she's a Wiccan" to her sister, to which I replied "Actually Pagan works better, Mom"

*shrugs* Though the people at my office don't know, it's not that big of a deal for me. All my friends know, and lately most of the new friends that I've been making are Pagans anyway.

[Mythrel]

when I came out of the broomcloset, I lost some friends, most of my family thinks it's a phase and they keep trying to get me into a church...
Christianity never made sense to me...and everytime I had questions they never got answered...
my choice is Paganism and my love of the Goddess and Green Man.

I wish all of you luck who have come out of the broom closet or are planning to soon...I hope your friends and family take/took it better than mine...


Pagan and Proud for 3 years now...
Mythrel Grey Fox

[Jeleia]

I haven't told my parents yet. Although I'm pretty sure my mom has some idea. Its just not talked about.

My boyfriend knows, he was pretty openminded about the whole thing. And most of my friends know I'm pagan. None of them really care all that much. I do have one friend that sometimes gives me a hard time about it.

[Fire_Crotch132074]

Well I came out a couple of weeks ago and got kicked out of my house for awhile ( A little over a week) but my dad let me back in. I have no form of relationship with my parents at all now, which I wish wouldn't be like that but ohwell, if they wont except me thats their problem. But the most important and helpful person was my grandmom, WOW that was a surprise. But all I'm trying to say is tell people and don't be scared what they think, because if they can't accept u then "screw" them. I hope that helped at all or made any sense.