Tips for figuring life out...

[TheWomanMonster]

Anyone have advice for a girl with no direction?
I've never been good at setting goals for myself, I'm 21 and don't know what I want to do...
can someone help?

[SamG]

I found of many years of searching.....the answer was probably in my childhood interests

Worth a try to look back and see what was in your heart as a child (the further back the better I found) before your heart got tainted with this world!

[TheWomanMonster]

I found of many years of searching.....the answer was probably in my childhood interests

Worth a try to look back and see what was in your heart as a child (the further back the better I found) before your heart got tainted with this world!

Thanks, that sounds like good advice. :)
Something to keep in mind at least...
I like that part about before my heart got tainted with the world...
kind of describes me.

[TheWomanMonster]

Hey guys...
still seeking direction.
Although I have figured out somethings I still feel lost and adrift.

Moving to a bigger city where I have family + friends.
More jobs there too.
Staying friends with my ex-fiance, there was just too much there to throw away.

Anyone have any advice?

[Brightshores]

I'm 29 and I'm more lost than ever.. so for what it's worth, you're not alone. :hugz: I'm not about to give advice on direction-finding, though! :lol:

A move is always a good way to get a new start, particularly if you have family, friends, and job opportunites there. Sounds like you're on the right track.. just make sure you spend lots of good quality time with your family and friends when you get there, and throw yourself into your new life with lots of energy and optimism... :hugz: Hope everything works out for you..

[Mainedruid]

Climb aboard the S.S. Lost!!

ha ha... we have all been there. I have come to find that I am just now finding direction.... again.... HA direction.. if you want to call it that.

I had no direction for a long time, and loved every minute of it. Then I had kids, and I decided that it was time to set things right in my world. I spent the past 6 years trying, I mean really trying to do the right things. make every one happy... it didnt work really... at all.

I was trying to make the wrong people happy... I should have been working on me.

I have found this though... If when you are walking down the street and some thing, or some one makes you smile, stop and look at it... or talk to them...

If you have a dream, go with it... it might work, it might fail too. But at least you gave it a shot. As time goes on you will find more and more what you dont like... which helps to narrow down what you really do like :D

Finding direction is hard, its different for every one... I guess the best advice I can give is in my signature next to the moped.

I'll keep an eye on this and chime in if I get any more ideas.

mike

[TheWomanMonster]

Thanks.
I really hope that this move does good things for me.
I need to start taking care of myself, find my feet...

[Sorrel]

I didn't find my way in life until a couple of years ago, and I'm 37! I think I spent a lot of years trying too hard to find my way and that just confused me completely! I totally agree with what was said by SamG as a lot of what I believed in and was interested in as a child has guided me recently. Perhaps you'd be better letting your path find you?...

[Rudas Starblaze]

well Nightsky, the first thing to learn is that no matter what happens if life it still goes on. unless ya die of course. always learn from your mistakes. always think before you act and weigh all options. and always try your best at everything you do. thats all anyone can do. even people who seem like they have direction always come up with a situations they cant handle by themselves. your not alone.

[TheWomanMonster]

Thanks guys. I appreciate it.

I'm pretty sure I'm making the right choices in my life,
but everything is so new and uncertain.

NightSky, I love that. *smiles* thanks Rudas.

[noxtwice]

I found of many years of searching.....the answer was probably in my childhood interests

Worth a try to look back and see what was in your heart as a child (the further back the better I found) before your heart got tainted with this world!

excellent advise! that's what i did and now i find myself sewing like i used to as a child with my grandmother... just little stuff out of scrap material from old clothes, but i'm enjoying it...

[Darbla]

I'm 39 years old, and if I could go back and give my 21 year old self any advice it would be: you're way more OK and normal than the screwed up parents you had made you feel. That may not apply to you though.

Unfortunately for you, the biggest help I got, I got with age (which you don't have), and that is CONFIDENCE. The reason I say it came with age is because it took years for me to learn to move at ease in the world and quit worrying what everyone else thought of me.

Now the one thing my 21 year old self got absolutely right is the one thing most young people don't want to hear: get in college and get a degree in SOMETHING. It will open doors and create opportunities you wouldn't have otherwise, and it can make you a different and better person. It will put you in better social and professional circles. Now after working my @$$ off to get two degrees, I'm a computer programmer and I make enough moola that I can afford a snowboarding trip to Whistler, BC, in a few weeks, while my non-degreed peers probably won't ever. And I'm going with another programmer that I know from work, who I would never have met if I hadn't stayed in college back then. Programming and business is often very boring, but I suspect any WORK will be or it wouldn't be called work. It does, however, allow me a few luxuries I wouldn't have.

If you're already in college, do whatever you have to do to stick with it. Change majors if you start despising the current one. Change colleges. Whatever it takes to stay in there, and you'll likely appreciate it later on.

Disclaimer: college does not GAURANTEE you a better life, but it does create more opportunities. Whether you grab those opps or not is up to you.

You're welcome to PM or email me to chit-chat. There's no way I can put all I want to say into a few posts here, and I'd be glad to help a youngster if I can. ;)

Darbla