can I have a reading, pls?

[Emaleth]

Hey there!
There's this problem that has been bothering my whole family for a few years. My grandmother is 91 now and she needs constant care. But it's not only her body that's weak, but also the mind, I'm afraid. My mom and my aunts share duties and take care of her, but the situation becomes more and more complicated. Four of my gramdmother's daughters work, and one is retired, so she sits with grandma all day. But she is sick and finds it harder everyday to cope with the work. The others spend nights with grandma. We are all at a loss, my aunt won't be able to take care of grandma much longer, the others can't quit form work, and it's impossible to place my grandma in a nursing home or hire somebody to take care of her. We don't know what to do and my family is quarreling all the time, soon we'll stop talking to each other. I would really appreciate if someone could do a reading for me and tell how all this will end and maybe what we should do.:(

[maya]

Hi dear... I can do a reading for you tonight when I get home but I have some other thoughts. I'm not sure what gov't systems you have in Poland but you might want to see if they have something similar to Hospice. Hospice is a free program designed to help elderly people who are unable to take care of themselves and/or will soon be passing on. They provide regular visits by health care professionals to do check ups and also people to help feed, cloth, bathe and generally help with the care of the person involved in the home of that person.

My grandfather-in-law was involved with this service before he passed and they did a lot toward making him comfortable in his last months. They also had programs and counseling to help grieving family members after he had passed. Consequently, my cousin's husband was the person who took care of my grandfather-in-law. (small world I guess) and he was a great person. He really helped with the whole situation and I think it was much better because of him.

It also really helped my mother-in-law as she wasn't able to do all those things for him even though she basically lived with him for the last few months of his life. I hope you can find a service like that there that will be of aid to your family. I'll let you know about the reading tonight.

~ Maya

[Emaleth]

Hi Maya!
Thanks for advice! It's really difficult for me, because nobody listens to me, they think I know nothing and shouldn't take part in a discussion. We do have hospices in Poland, but they usually take care of people who are terminally ill, and apart from her old age problems my grandmother is pretty healthy, so she isn't fit for such istitution. The situation we're in is really complicated, because my uncle who lives with my grandmother doesn't want to hire anybody to take care of her, even for a couple of hours a day, he says he doesn't want strange people in his house. I feel we have our hands tied and our family is falling apart. :(

[maya]

I would suggest taking initiative and calling a local Hospice facility. Even if they can't help you with your problem they may be able to lead you in the appropriate direction. You seem to feel strongly about this situation so don't let anyone else's doubts get in your way.

~ Maya

[Emaleth]

You're right! I've just acquired the popular belief that there's nothing we can do in this situation. I'm actually an optimistic and a bit idealistic person, but hearing all the time that it's impossible, no way out and so on made me believe it. Thanks very much! An objective opinion is sometimes invaluable! :)

Blessed Be

[maya]

Heheh... just wait until I get around to actually doing the reading. My hubby had me running network cable through the house last night. Seriously though, you can do this and even if your family thinks you're stepping out of line you're doing it for them and they'll eventually appreciate it (even if they never admit it).

~ Maya

[Emaleth]

Can I still count on this reading ;) ? I'm still curious how this all will end. Anybody who has time, I can reciprocate, but I warn that I'm still not very good at reading Tarot :D

Blessed Be

[maya]

Oh dear! I'm so sorry! I've been fighting some kind of respiratory infection and completely lost my mind. Expect it tonight if not earlier.

~ Maya

[maya]

I did a four card spread which is a variation of an 11 card spread that I created.

The first card:
The Problem - Four of Pentacles (R)
Since we already know the problem this may be hinting at some of the underlying emotions revolving around the problem. Part of the problem is the money invovled in bringing outside care in. Some of it is just that they're not willing to let go of what she was and accept what she is and work from there.

Second Card:
What is helping the problem - Eight of Wands
On this card there is a woman petting a dog. To me this shows that the love and natural loyalty that your family has will help it hold together

Third Card:
What is hindering progress - Joker (R)
It's a very serious situation and one where all the participants are emotionally involved in a very strong way. They are so somber in fact that it's keeping them from acting.

Fourth Card:
What should you know? - Seven of Swords
In the card a woman in blue stands in a vield with five swords clutched to her tightly and two left standing in the earth. Pick the battles that are important to you and hold them to you with dignity. Let those unimportant things stand on their own to be resolved.

I hope this helps!

~ Maya

[Emaleth]

Thanks so much! I really appreciate the reading, it made a lot of sense!

Blessed Be