Strange dream and question

[Dancin Girl]

I know the dream part of this belongs on the other thread, but the dreams are only part of my experience so I thought I would post it here.

I have had some dreams the past few nights about someone from my past, whom I hadn't heard from or thought about in quite a while. I took the dreams at face value, thought maybe they meant something of course but didn't pay too much attention to them. but, I wasn't too surprised because of those dreams, when this person called me this afternoon. We hadn't talked to each other in years but once we started talking, it was like it just yesterday. Anyway, we talked for a long time and the subject of our failed relationship came up. As a result of the entire conversation I am wondering about something.

At what point, if any, do you stop looking, waiting or wondering about that one perfect, absolutely right person? Is there ever a point where you come to realize that you can't everything in a relationship? Where that absolutely overpowering, overwhelming love might not be there but there are a lot of other things there that are important? It's kind of like that song, Two out of Three Ain't Bad.... I guess this is more for those of us who have already been through relationships and are at a point in our lives where we might be questioning ourselves, and the rest of our lives.

Sorry it got so long, but the dreams and the conversation got me thinking and I'm just wondering what others might think or feel about it?

[Melysande]

Mama, you've just succeeded in depressing the heck out of me. ;)

[Man/Wolf]

You never stop looking for happiness! Never, dancin' girl. If anyone deserves happiness, it's you. You've worked hard for it, you've sacrificed for it. Never stop looking, darlin'.

[Dancin Girl]

Sorry, sweetie other daughter, it wasn't meant to be depressing, more introspective:) It was actually a very enlightening conversation and I didn't feel depressed after it, only thoughtful and then happy too about being able to rekindle, if nothing else, a good friendship!

[emaleth33]

Boy DancinGirl you sure know how to open a deep subject. In my experience its when you stop looking for that perfect someone is when they find you. And since you werent looking you dont even recognize its them and then you get stupid and let them go and end up regretting it alot. so whether you are looking or not that someone will find you when the time is right the trick is recognizing it.... Thats been my experience with that particular question anyway....
Emaleth33

[Dancin Girl]

Well, what I am wondering is, is a life long friendship, shared heartaches, and joys, enough to build a relationship on? I know others have built relationships on far less.. but I don't want to damage the friendship in the process.

[Man/Wolf]

I don't think you're going to know the answers to these questions until you see him and spend some time with him.

[Dancin Girl]

Ahhhhhhh, I know but can't help wondering about it anyway!:)

[Man/Wolf]

I know that. It's human nature, darlin'. You're just going to have to wonder about it until you see him and talk to him again. Things will work out as they should. We have talked about this before. All things work out as they should.

[Sowelu]

Where that absolutely overpowering, overwhelming love might not be there but there are alot of other things that are more important.

I was always told to let love find you. But that was probably because I was always looking too hard.
Never settle for less or make sacrifices, because in the long run a person can end up very un-happy. Fill every void in your life when you can!
I, like most of us, have gone through alot of bad relationships because I always felt that I needed to be loved. I settled for less instead of putting myself first and finding what I really needed in my life. I had to learn what standards were and set some for myself. I ended up a very depressed person.
Dancin' Girl, I'm probably just babbling here, but you deserve the best....Please do not settle for less....ever. Honesty, Openeness, Love. You will have it! You deserve it! And, if you ever need me for anything, you know where to find me:smooch:

[emaleth33]

From what i have assessed of myself and those around me friendship is the most important aspect so take it slow and let the friendship grow and if you are lucky enough to fall in love with someone you consider a friend then you have it made and a lifelong friendship shared joys and saddness is a strong foundation to build on but people change and lessons are learned throughout the years that make us a little wiser so mistakes made in the past wont be remade well hopefully anyway lol.. so get to know the person he has become and you may find well you never know until you try Brightest Blessings
Emaleth33

[Dancin Girl]

I am hoping that we've both grown and changed for the better and learned from the lessons of the past, it was just very odd that he chose now to come back... a strange coincidence that maybe I shouldn't over look.

[emaleth33]

If you feel it is a sign of importance then maybe it is.. Just follow your heart and dont get pregnant oops nevermind thats what my mom said lol just kidding just trying to lighten the mood.. but serious about the first part...
Emaleth33

[Dancin Girl]

:eek: :D Haaaaaaa Nope, slim to none chance of that!!!

[Myst]

If there's one thing I've learned it's that you should never settle. We all have these things that our mate does that we get annoyed by, or don't love, but if you have to ask if you should get together, or even if you really want to, then I don't think you should. I've been there, done that, and believe me, it isn't worth it. Why not hang out as friends and see how things go? Remember tho, you broke up for a reason (or many reasons).

[Niamh]

I agree with Myst. Been there, done that, and it caused a lot of pain.

However, you can continue with a wonderful friendship. Take it one day at a time, see where your heart and gut lead you. Try not to think too much about things.