My best friend dumped me. :(

[Metagion]

I had been going through severe depression for a year and a half. I couldn't see past my own issues, so things were really, really bad. I got help and now I'm much better; but I got a "dear Mets" email saying that I was too toxic to deal with, and that I was cutting and mean; she simply was too positive a person to let me drag her down any longer. I'm much better than I was, and told her so; she's just writing me off anyway.....


I feel lost, angry, sad and confused (but again, much better in the state of mind I'm in now.)

I need a hug too.

[darkchild]

I'm sorry to hear that your friend did that, maybe she just needs a little time out. In the mean time, here ya go :hugz: :hugz: . I'm glad to hear that you are feeling better, though. Depression is a struggle, but it seems like you are on top of it!




Dawn

[redbint]

Friends should be there for you no matter what.
If your friend has got such a positive outlook then she should have enough for the both of you. It also such a shame that your friend has been with you for this long and when things start to go right drops you, she probably thought you might be ok on your own now, but obviously not.

Hopefully for your sake your friend is having a 'cooling down' period (maybe just to get her own head straight) and then be back in your life all refreshed and positive again.

Meanwhile try to be strong and positive (I know easier said than done!)

Blessed be.

Redbint :hugz:

[DarkSyn3rgy]

Her honesty feels pure, it's a difficult thing to communicate during this hard phase you have been through. I feel you will both grow from this in a way that you might not notice for a few years.

*MASSIVE HUGS* Depression is never easy but your a powerful person that can overcome ANYTHING

I know! I did!

[Brightshores]

:hugz: :hugz: :hugz:
I don't know why people do what they do sometimes... *sigh*
Be well and be whole. Congratulations on your healing - may it continue.

[Aina]

I had the very same thing happen to me my senior year. Except it was all my friends..not just one.
It is a very hard thing to go through depression alone, but it's also a time of growth.
Blessings I wish you the best!!!

-Aina-

[TheWomanMonster]

that sucks...
It does sound like you need a hug.
:hugz:

be well.

[Merrilyn]

:hugz:
I know it sucks, but that's really not the sort of friend you need, anyway. Here's to new people, new friends, and new possibilities! <clink>
Take care, darlin.

[SailleSeeker]

"Too toxic to deal with"?! Ugh! That's an awful thing to say to someone!
It's so hard when friends break things off in such an abrupt way (through an email, too... blech!) - I hope that things get better without this person. (((((hugs))))) :hugz:

[BlueMoon13]

"Too toxic to deal with"?! Ugh! That's an awful thing to say to someone!
It's so hard when friends break things off in such an abrupt way (through an email, too... blech!) - I hope that things get better without this person. (((((hugs))))) :hugz:

Met, the exact same thing happened to me-that I was the one who was too "toxic" and was abruptly and out of left field dumped via an obscenely worded email. Perhaps they read the same article or something?

My advice, send her a mirror so she can see who the truly toxic one is, either throw out or bury in sea salt any gifts she ever gave you and any photographs of her and her and you together, and in your heart, bury her. To me, the person who was my friend no longer exists, and I don't give a damn for whatever's inhabiting his corporeal form now. It took me a litle while to get to that point, but trust me, the sooner you get there, the better you will feel. A wound has to be cleaned down to the very bottom before it can start healing.

Many,many :hugz: for you!

[Caitlin.ann]

I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through all that and I wanted to offer you my condolences. I can't really add anything else that the others haven't said. I hope everything works out for you soon. :hugz:

[Arion]

Doesn't sound like much of a friend if she dumped you when you are going through a hard time. It may not feel like it now, but you're probably better off without her.

Don't worry, new, better friends will come along :hugz:

[SpiralDancing]

A whole heap of hugs and positive energy to you, I've been through the depression thing, and it is soooooooo hard!

I am so sorry your friend treated you like this, some people simply do not have any understanding of depression, my partner completely withdrew from me when i was in the depths of it, so I know how hurtful it is.

[Metagion]

I'd like to say "THANK YOU" to each and everyone that posted. Yeah, it was hard, at first. I mean, we laughed together, cried together, and now it's gone? How sad is that when folks can just write someone off, and not look back.

While it was true that I was in no mind for anything, and I was in the Abyss (for those that were there.....you know how THAT is!) for what seemed like Eternity, but I'm 98&#37; better (because I get stronger each day; that's why I never say '100%') and I figured that she'd share in that, too, but I got the letter.

What I did was go to Beliefnet.org and copy some simple prayers to recite at work, and it's helped; I've also gotten treatment for sleep apnea (which is horrible when you can't sleep.....) and I've turned things quite around. :)

I know things will get better. There are rainbows after each rain, aren't there? The Gods will never let me down, even though it feels like it.

Thanks again everyone.......and if you should need me, I'm just an email away ;)