An apology and a request.....

[wyldwolf]

It has been forever since I posted anything on MW. I could go on an on about the reasons why, but it has just been life in general and nothing at all to do with anyone on this site. When I have been able to get on my computer, I have looked around, but I just have not had the energy to really get involved in any of the topics. So for this, I apologize.
My dad passed away several months ago and my mother has been going through so much since. She moved in with my sister and her family and they have made her feel like an outcast. Mom bought a new home and that is where they now all live. They keep her totally out of the loop, that is until they need money, then they are all about spending time with her and "acting" as though there is nothing wrong.
Here is my problem, mom wants me to move to Tennessee, which I wouldn't mind doing. but there is no where for me to live there and I would have to sell my house here. Also, the job that I currently have is not in business there. I went through 3 interviews with a new company that is in operation there, and they want to hire me. That would be great, because then I could just get a transfer. However, my pay would decrease by $988. per month. Right now, I am a manager and make decent money.
I need energy to get through this and to make the right decisions, right for everyone involved. Any advice would also be appreciated.

[BlueEyedWolf]

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All I can say is do what is in your Heart! Best to You!
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[Cindlady2]

Wow, I would love to say "hop on a plane and help your mother". However something to consider about your job. If your a manager now and you are happy with your job, I see where that change could mess things up. If you won't be a manager in Tenn. can you be OK, with a "demotion" so to speak? Giving up you house, your job, your friends and almost $1,000 a month is allot to give up. Could it cause resentment between you and your mother if things don't go so good?
This of course is up to you, just gave you something to think about.

Good Luck and may you make the best decision!

[Annest]

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[Scarlettvixen]

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not an easy choice hun

[Philosophia]

Sending healing, positive and comforting energy to you and your mother! :hugz:

[Ancient Wisdom]

This is a very dificult decision to make hon, Sending you intuition and strength to make the right choice :hugz:

[Wisowl]

No wise words, I am afraid. I am sending you positive energies to help you sort this dilemma out. My gut feeling though says: don't do it!

Love, Light, Life and Healing

[Catiana]

:hugz: just curious, is it possible for your mother to move to Ohio instead of you moving to TN, so you could remain in your current position and not have to take a huge pay-cut and demotion?

[wyldwolf]

I have decided to not take the job. I am going to wait until I get there and then go looking for a new job. As far as the cut in pay that I will have to deal with, it really won't be that big of a deal once I am in Tennessee. Mom and I will be splitting all of the bills, so that will be a big help. Mom is going to her attorney tomorrow, she is changing her will and giving me her power of attorney, as well as putting my name on to the title of her house and then she is going to put me on the title of her car. What I didn't tell you all before is that my sister asked my mom for $4500. a few weeks ago and when she was told no, she went ahead and took it out of her account anyway. Her name is on mom's account and that is how she was able to do it. It has been hell on her and the isolation that she feels is just unbearable. My sister is talking about taking her to the doctor and putting her on medication because she "repeats herself", but the only time that she does this is when they appear to not listen to her. Mom thinks that they don't hear anything that she says, that they just tune her out. I was there in November, and that reallly is what they do. If I hadn't been there, I wouldn't be so sure that that was what they were doing, but I have seen it for myself. She is afraid that they are going to try and say that she is going senile and then get her put into a home. So, my plate is pretty full, but I will get through it and life will be better for mom and myself in the long run. Continued energy is appreciated and I thank you all in advance for it.

[Kalika]

(((wyldwolf)))

May you find the strength and guidance that you need to get you through and help lead you down the right path.

[Willow Rosette]

HI Honey pie!!!!!!!!!!!! I love you, you know that! And Im just a phone call away when ever you need me. You know how I feel about everything going on but remember to have faith in yourself. You are a smart and brave woman and I have complete faith in you and love you to pieces.

I cant for the life of me remember who brought us together (it was through here though) but I thiank the Goddess everynight for you being my friend. Your heart will lead you in the right dirrection honey.

(((((((((((HUGS))))))))))

[wyldwolf]

HI honey!! I am so glad that we were brought together too! I am so happy that you FINALLY got your computer back and it's working. I am trying to get on my computer more often than what I had been. Gotta make time for everyone that I love here.

[wooleybob]

Sending Energy your way..(((((((())))))))...Hugs

[wyldwolf]

Thanks Bob, it means alot that you have sent me energy when you have needed it so much. Hope things are going well with you, let me know what you have been up to. Take care!:cheers:

[Libris]

Good energy for you and your mom! I hope things work out for you both.

[Scarlettvixen]

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continued energies to get it sorted hun

[wyldwolf]

Mom changed her will on Tuesday, so now the worries about the house and the money are over. We did find out that she was getting into mom's laptop and reading all of her emails from me. I am so tired of the crap that she is pulling, or trying to pull on mom. Now, if mom could just get the courage up to tell them to get out, everything would be perfect. It's not as if they wouldn' have anywhere to go, they still have their house, it just needs major work and they are just too lazy to get the work done that it needs. Oh well, there time will come and they will go. Asking for strength for my mom to get the courage she needs to get them out.