I attract...

[inkywitch]

I'm noticing a pattern... when it comes to people, I attract depressed, mentally ill or some other kind of 'disrupted' people that often need help sorting out their lives. I'm not talking one or two... I'm talking almost everyone I have ever met. I also often have people coming up to me, sitting down, and telling, in DETAIL, of their life story (my dad and uncle raped me for years when I was young, i tried to kill myself, I got addicted to heroin and my children were taken off me and my sister got custody so I smashed her front windows to get them back *shows masses of huge scars on arms* ... thats the most memorable one story)... I often sit there bewildered at these people, try to find a comforting word, or perhaps some friendly advice to someone ELSE they should talk too... but most of the time I'm stumped of what the hell to actually say when all this is just dumped in my lap without so much as a hi, how are ya, my name is...

When it comes to spirit... well, I know this is going to sound cliche now the The Sixth Sense has be released... but I get bloody ghosts! I mean, I get beautiful guides too, but along with them they bring those who have (I'm guessing) newly passed to interact with me for some reason or another... but they are a lot of the spirits that aren't guides are quite bloody and beaten when they come to me.


I think I must have some crazy invisible neon sign above my head that just attracts these kind of things. I have hear like attracts like... but to be honest, I can't help but think that whoever came up with that theory is very wrong! Has anyone else experience bizzare things like this on a frequent, long term basis?

[CheshireEyes]

ok, time for a change... i'll go out with ya, and i'm all SORTS of wonderful.... hehe:hahugh: _inabox_

[BlueEyedWolf]

ok, time for a change... i'll go out with ya, and i'm all SORTS of wonderful.... hehe:hahugh: _inabox_

Yep, this ones a keeper... He's bonafide!

[Phoenix Blue]

I'm noticing a pattern... when it comes to people, I attract depressed, mentally ill or some other kind of 'disrupted' people that often need help sorting out their lives. I'm not talking one or two... I'm talking almost everyone I have ever met.
Are you a Scorpio perchance? :p This dilemma of yours is very familiar to me.

[CheshireEyes]

Yep, this ones a keeper... He's bonafide!

:hugz:

[CheshireEyes]

Are you a Scorpio perchance? :p This dilemma of yours is very familiar to me.

i'd guess she's a leo.... just my opinion...


love your avatar btw, anyone who has a pic of a hamster can't be all that bad....:fpraise:

[inkywitch]

Hehe... I'm a Leo, actually. Capricorn Ascendant. The only two people in my life that aren't depressed/have mental illness/massive issues that effect daily life are my boyfriend, and my younger sister. Both my parents are depressed (and for some reason, choose to stay that way for fear of not finding anything better elsewhere), and my best friend (bi polar, and currently not medicated).

The rest I meet are usually just in passing, or random people at the train station who sit next to me and SPILL everything out onto me. And it happens a lot. And these people also come across as if they dont want to, or havent done anything about their situation. At least the spirits come to learn! lol

ETA: And a lot of people who contact me to chat on the net and depressive as well... I mean, I enjoy helping people. I think perhaps I was supposed to... my calling, yadda yadda, and I'm studying in fields that will allow me to help a range of people improve their quality of life. But the amount of random encounters I have with people just spilling deep, personal stories is quite bizzare.

[CheshireEyes]

The rest I meet are usually just in passing, or random people at the train station who sit next to me and SPILL everything out onto me. And it happens a lot. And these people also come across as if they dont want to, or havent done anything about their situation. At least the spirits come to learn! lol

oh, that happens to me all the time, but, thats what i'm there for, ya know, at least, IMO....its my job to bring some sunshine into their lives...:)

[Darbla]

I read just the other day that people like that have their chakras too open. If I can remember the book, I'll let you know.

Darbla

[BlueEyedWolf]

oh, that happens to me all the time, but, thats what i'm there for, ya know, at least, IMO....its my job to bring some sunshine into their lives...:)
CE keeps the sunshining on us all!



And others probabally see that in you. That's why they come to you.

[Tranquility]

In some regards, my life situation is very much the same. In every single group of friends I make, there always is at least one person that I feel, I know, I was meant to help. I know I was meant for that group of people even if only to help that single person through a tough time. If that's my purpose.. so be it :). Either way, I (and it seems like you too) naturally assume these roles of mediator and empath.. So who knows what it means in the long term.

Why bother worrying now? There's thunder and lightning here, in winter! Time to go FROLICK! YAY! :)

[inkywitch]

I read just the other day that people like that have their chakras too open. If I can remember the book, I'll let you know.

Darbla

That is really interesting, especially considering i always thought mine were under-active lol. I'll try to look into that more, so if you remember the book that would be awesome.

[Avalanche]

My friend has a problem like that... she seems to attract really creepy people. Random people just walk up to her and start talking. And they're really creepy. She likes me to go with places with her because I supposedly scare them off.

[inkywitch]

Well, the people I come across aren't really creepy (well a few perhaps have been), but they definitely are disturbed in some way or another. I guess I'm just a damn good listener? Haha.

[inkywitch]

Why bother worrying now? There's thunder and lightning here, in winter! Time to go FROLICK! YAY! :)

Mmmm thunder and lighting... *frolics with Tranquility*

[Lolair]

The rest I meet are usually just in passing, or random people at the train station who sit next to me and SPILL everything out onto me. And it happens a lot. And these people also come across as if they dont want to, or havent done anything about their situation.
You are not alone, the same thing happens to me, as well as to many friends of mine. There just seems to be a certain kind of person that those with problems are drawn to. It got to the point where I was afraid to take public transportation lest another person come up to me and tell me there life story or troubles! I learned to avoid it by not making eye-contact, not speaking to others while taking public transit or in a crowded public place.

Some people will come to you because they want to change and they want someone they don't know to listen to them. Some of the people are harmful (not always intentionally) where they will spill out all their problems to you and talk about depression and threaten suicide, but they do not want to change as this type thrives on drama and attention. I am very ruthless with this type, I do not play into their dramas or pity schemes, I am curt and firm with them. If you have no interest in getting your butt out of the dark whole it is in then you have no business talking to someone about it.

My friend Sage-y-kins deals with the same thing, hopefully she'll find this thread and give you her take on it. I also had another good friend in the past who also had people always coming up to her (she was a leo too!). She was a lot more open and sweet than I can be. It would break her heart when people told her their horrible stories, but it would especially cause heartbreak when they refused to change or gave in to a drug addiction or illness.

My less outrageous theory is that there are natural-born counsellors out there with just the right qualities and personality for people to feel comfortable with in order to spill out their darkest secrets. People are always telling me their secrets, the reason is because I never ask them to. My more crazy reason is that some people were born to help others, born into light in order to help those stuck down in darkness - healers of the mind and soul rather than just the physical body. You do what you can, but you cannot help everyone.

Do you see repeated numbers a lot inkywitch? Like 11:11 or 4:44 on clocks, license plates, tv...?

[Meadhbh]

That happens to me a lot. For a while it had me slightly freaked out. But then I learned to take in stride and set back to enjoy the ride. My favorite was and I quote "I hear voices that tell me to kill and burn things." Lovely isn't it?

[Darklord_Kodiak]

I attract people who lack strength. Strength to stand up for themselves. Usually have low self esteem. I put them through the ringer. By the time I am done I have created one self confident person. A person that can stand up for themselves. I have to be an @$$ to get it done sometimes though.

[inkywitch]

Do you see repeated numbers a lot inkywitch? Like 11:11 or 4:44 on clocks, license plates, tv...?

Actually, I do a fair bit. Does it have some kind of significance?

[HetHert]

Do you see repeated numbers a lot inkywitch? Like 11:11 or 4:44 on clocks, license plates, tv...?

I do this too. What do repeating numbers like that indicate usually? I see em all the time.

[Sage-y-kins]

If I had written this post it would have started like this:

Since I was a small child, as far back as I can remember actually, strangers talk to me about every problem they've ever had, old ones, present ones, possible future ones. I'd go shopping with my mom, or be on a bus and she'd lose track of me, only to find me sitting on a strangers lap while they cry or talk and I'd be holding their hand or stroking their hair.


People just need people. It's not always that they're too weak, sometimes its just that they're too sad to see beyond that day. If you listen, really listen, instead of becoming alarmed that they'd share such intimate details, the right words will find their way, and they may be the right ones that person needed to hear. I will do what I can to help, I don't mind lending some energy to carry them while they sort, but I only help when I know that they only need a hand up, I refuse to carry someone through their problems. This life teaches us all lessons, some nice, some not, but if we don't hear it for ourselves, we'll br taught the lesson over and over until we get the point.

I'm one of the ones they find, or look for. I don't think they find me by accident, everyone comes into your life for a reason and from everyone that comes into your life, you learn something.

Embrace your gifts and you will learn to use them fully!

Blessings..

[Lolair]

Actually, I do a fair bit. Does it have some kind of significance?
Almost everyone I have met who attracts people or spirits like this sees number repeated all the time. For me it's 11:11 and 1:11, but only all ones. Other people see different repeated numbers. There are a lot of far-out ideas about why, one fellow has even gone so far as to claim there are angels or aliens trying to contact us (too far-fetched for me), he's written books and has his own forum. The best explaination I've heard is that these people are "lightbringers" who are born to help humanity whether spiritually, emotionally or psychologically. Many of these people can also see spirits and have the ability to "help" them as well. From experience usually only those stuck in real dark places (from very nasty pasts) and those with mental disabilities can recognize a lightbringer - hence the weird strangers always approaching and telling you of the horrors of their life.

I'm a very skeptical and practical person, so consider this when reading my theory ;)

[Sage-y-kins]

Repeatedly seeing the same numbers over again is significant for magickal people, the numbers vary in meaning. If you're seeing one number, or set of numbers, over and over again look into the magickal meaning of them. What it means to you is in your perspective.

Good luck..

[Vigdisdotter]

Has anyone else experience bizzare things like this on a frequent, long term basis?

Oh yeah :) Lots of times on the bus when someone would sit beside me and just start pouring it all out. Other times I could be shopping and I'll end up hearing the shop person's life story. I put it down to having healer tendencies/abilities. We really DO have neon signs over our heads.

I had one lady who I had met only once somehow get my number and give me a PANICKED phone call because she was having poltergeist activity in her house.

The all time oddest was during my tenth grade ski club trip (yes, I was a student of a whopping 15 years old and looked like I was 12). We were waiting at this dinky little ferry terminal (30 kids, 2 teachers and a half dozen other would-be passengers) for our boat. After sitting down the stranger behind me (20something guy) turned around and just started talking to me. And he told me his ENTIRE life story (about 50 minutes). I learned about his few success, his multiple failures, his depression about the family sitaution....on and on and ON. Then at the end of this he gave me a big RELIEVED smile, reached over, shook my hand and said "thank you for listening" then he got up and boarded the ferry. I didn't see him at all after that.

[Kalika]

Are you a Scorpio perchance? :p This dilemma of yours is very familiar to me.

:lol: Me too. I was going to ask the same question.

[CheshireEyes]

CE keeps the sunshining on us all!



And others probabally see that in you. That's why they come to you.

you're too cute, wolfie..._inabox_

[Seasaidh]

Has anyone else experience bizzare things like this on a frequent, long term basis?

Oh yeah. People I barely know are always telling me about their problems or decide that they can trust me with their secrets. I have no idea why. Usually I just listen and nod; it isn't like I give them some sort of key to figure their lives out. Maybe they just need someone to listen to them...

The scariest of these times was when I recently had to deal with someone I just met telling me about their abusive parent and about how they were thinking about suicide... I still haven't figured out if they were serious or if they just wanted attention. An acquaintance of mine told me about her self harm issues and about how she was sexually abused as a child... she told me this, and we hadn't even talked for months. We were never really close to begin with.

My mom has people approach her like this too. And my grandmum. It's something they've learned to deal with. I'm still getting used to it. 8O

I'm a leo too. :)

[inkywitch]

Almost everyone I have met who attracts people or spirits like this sees number repeated all the time. For me it's 11:11 and 1:11, but only all ones. Other people see different repeated numbers. There are a lot of far-out ideas about why, one fellow has even gone so far as to claim there are angels or aliens trying to contact us (too far-fetched for me), he's written books and has his own forum. The best explaination I've heard is that these people are "lightbringers" who are born to help humanity whether spiritually, emotionally or psychologically. Many of these people can also see spirits and have the ability to "help" them as well. From experience usually only those stuck in real dark places (from very nasty pasts) and those with mental disabilities can recognize a lightbringer - hence the weird strangers always approaching and telling you of the horrors of their life.

I'm a very skeptical and practical person, so consider this when reading my theory ;)

Thats interesting. I most commonly see 1's and 7's, and less commonly 9's. recurring 1's are the most common out of all three. Curious. I might go take Sage-y's advice and go look out the numbers for fun.

[Crysiira]

For some reason, I seem to be the one people come to when they're absolutely at the end of their rope; when they can't handle things anymore. The problem is, I don't feel like I can help them! I'm no good at advice, I just nod my head and say, "I know exactly how you feel," and "I'm so sorry,"' and so on and so forth. Completely useless. Yet somehow people become attatched to me and come back for more until they feel better! I don't get it. It is the most stressful thing in the world to be told by someone that you, just YOU, are the only reason they haven't killed themselves yet. Who really wants that kind of responsibility??
So basically, yes, I know how you feel, no, you're not alone....

[TheWomanMonster]

Yep this sort of thing happens to me ALL the time.

Everyone from mentally ill, elderly (especially those in acute care situations), the disabled, drug addicts, children and the generally downtrodden... basically anyone who needs a little energy and care gravitates towards me.

Don't know why...

It's nice to know that others have that feeling and experience too.

:hugz:

[ravenmyst]

count me in, I am a phone tech, ya know the one who comes to your house if phone is dead or you need a jack or new line, what I also seem to be for is door to door counseling, even when I am a wreck myself. I know way to much about almost all my customers, :) I see 2:22 and 3:33 all the time, and patterns in phone numbers I am assigned to work on. ohh and I have been the counselor since I could talk.

[Windsmith]

The problem is, I don't feel like I can help them! I'm no good at advice, I just nod my head and say, "I know exactly how you feel," and "I'm so sorry,"' and so on and so forth. Completely useless. Yet somehow people become attatched to me and come back for more until they feel better! I don't get it. It is the most stressful thing in the world to be told by someone that you, just YOU, are the only reason they haven't killed themselves yet. Who really wants that kind of responsibility??
So basically, yes, I know how you feel, no, you're not alone....Crysiira - and all of you who experience this, really - I would encourage you not to worry too much about it. In our tradition, we do a lot of work with the role of the Sacred Witness - one called to watch and to listen. And that role is every bit as crucial and divine as those who priestess or oracle or scribe. It's of paramount importance that the Witness just hold the energy, and the space, of what is happening. They do not try to "rescue" the other person or "fix" their situation. They listen. This is holy work.

Perhaps this is your role. As others have pointed out, maybe the people who come to you don't want advice and aren't expecting you to solve their problems. Maybe the only help they need from you is your open ears. It's often frustrating, and frightening, and draining, but if the role of Sacred Witness calls to you - if that's something you feel comfortable and interested in taking on for yourself - you may find that it helps ease some of the responsiblity you feel.

[inkywitch]

All in all, I wouldn't have it any other way. I mean, it's a little bewildering when it happens, but if these people stopped intereacting with me, I think I'd find it weirder!

It's interesting to see so many others have really similar experiences :D

I still havent looked up the significance of the numbers I mentioned.. I'll post it here when I do, just out of interest!~

[redbint]

Have you ever thought of councelling people? You're obviously a very approachable person! Also does hearing about total strangers problems ever get you down and leave you mentally drained?
I tend to attract total weirdos and the elderly and like what someone has said before, if I'm on publice transport etc I try to avoid eye contact coz I can usually tell by looking at someone that they have a long life story to tell me!

[Astara Seague]

Are you a Scorpio perchance? :p This dilemma of yours is very familiar to me.
yep me too.. the people I attract are always very needy in one way or another

[Philosophia]

yep me too.. the people I attract are always very needy in one way or another

*nods* I'm also a scorpio and I always have "needy" people wanting to be with me.

[inkywitch]

Have you ever thought of councelling people? You're obviously a very approachable person! Also does hearing about total strangers problems ever get you down and leave you mentally drained?
I tend to attract total weirdos and the elderly and like what someone has said before, if I'm on publice transport etc I try to avoid eye contact coz I can usually tell by looking at someone that they have a long life story to tell me!

I've thought about it. And I'm usually not too phased (energy/mentally) about strangers problems, because I don't know them, or have an actual connection. It kind of happens, then it's over and I'm sitting there going "Oh, okay, well then! That's my good deed for the day!" and carry on with my day.
If it's a friend, or someone I feel drawn too, I tend to take it on a little too much. I'm sticking to massage and hopefully some kind of herbal medicine or homeopathic medicine for fulfulling my need to help others. I think councelling might be a bit much, atleast so early on in my life. I tend to be a mediator/concellor naturally anyway.

Luckily, the only thing in life that seems to stress me is money (or lack of, anyway) and bills that need paying! So I don't take too much of a beating from it. I also seems to have less issues than I have read from other empaths stories in that I can shut off, or 'lessen' the feeling I get, so I'm functional or not effected at all. I DO however, tend to put my emotions second, and focus more on other people than myself and end up becomming quite irrationally selfish and bitchy every so often to 'make up for it', though it's my own fault.