A new Familiar?

[Autumnsong]

Some background info: recently it's become a possibility that I'll finally be able to adopt the black kitty I've wanted since childhood. Every time I see one in the paper for adoption, or available at the local cat rescue center, my desire for one of these kitties increases.

So--

A week ago, I heard random meowing on the front porch. It sounded like one of my fiancee's cats yowling to be let in. So, I walk to the window to see if that's what it really was, and saw a black kitty sitting right beneath the window, looking up like he expected to see me there. Instinct said, 'If anyone else comes up here, this cat will freak out.' But before I could get the words out of my mouth, which happens a lot when it comes to my instincts (haha), there was my fiancee, opening the door. The cat bolted.

Last night, I was in the computer room listening to music. Again, I hear the loud meowing of a kitty that wants in. I head for the window, and for the second time, Howie shows up as well -- it was the black kitty under the COMPUTER room window, and when he spotted my fiancee, he bolted.

This morning, after I got out of the shower and was getting dressed, I hear an even more urgent meowing. Hoping it was the black kitty again, I looked out the windows and instructed Howie to stay where he was in case I was right. I didn't see the cat... But 5 minutes later, Howie went out to play with the dog. The black kitty spotted him, and took off for the third time.

He turns up under the windows of whatever room I happen to be in when he arrives.

Isn't that weird?

I'm wondering if he isn't coming here specifically for me. We've never seen him around the neighborhood and it isn't like a cat to change or even go far outside his territory, and this kitty looks like a tomcat to me. If he HAD come around before, I'm sure there would have been some squabbling going on between the resident cats, and there hasn't been any.

So it's almost as though this stray just kinda.. turned up here. As though he was dumped off, or who knows.

It just seems a little TOO coincidental that he showed up right when I had started looking for a cat of his type.

The first time I saw him that day on the porch, it was an immediate sort of 'click' in my brain, if that makes any sense. But anyway..

Thoughts, anyone?

[Shanti]

I sure would feel he is telling me something. What though, I would say time will tell, cause it usually does!

Keep your eyes and ears alert, there may be a baby kitty thats waiting for you somewhere, or even some other critter in need. Since he bolts, I think he is the messenger.

I would tell him mentally that I will be watching for his message and for me, if he doesn't return, he knows I am alert to possibilities and all is on track as it should be.


But this is all how I would be in this situation. I can only speak from my perspective.

With all I know the message could be something way different. But no matter, I feel he is a messenger with a message only for you!

[Autumnsong]

Hmm...
I hadn't really thought of there being some kind of message, since right about the time I started looking for a black kitty, one showed up. But it IS a good thought. I just wish I could get the chance to spend a few moments with the cat without someone else coming up to scare him off. That's the frustrating part!
It's like, I know he's important somehow, but I can't figure out why 'cause I can't get a moment with him to ASK, you know?

But, hmm... I think I *will* try and send thoughts to him the next time I see him, to at least let him know I'm willing to hear him out, so to speak.
Thanks for the suggestion!

[Cindlady2]

I agree. If he was meant to be yours I think he would have come in instead of bolted. If he was meant to be yours then he would know that he must except everyone in the house and they him. If he dose come in on his own, then he most likely is yours. In the mean time listen for him.

[Glory]

I'm not sure if I agree with the theory that if he was yours he wouldn't have bolted. I think that sort of bond has to be earned, and that will take time. It would have been too easy for him to just crawl into your lap and that was that. Maybe he, or she, is making you work for the companionship.

Maybe try putting out a bowl of tuna or something! Give him/her an offering or a sign of friendship.

[Autumnsong]

Glory, I was thinking the same thing. I kinda figured there'd have to be some physical and mental contact to cement a bond between me and the kitty, instead of one happening right that instant. It may be that the cat has always been a stray and has learned to fear people, but knows that I'M an okay human, and that's why he continues to return, but leaves if anyone but me goes out to see him.
I was thinking of putting cat grass or catnip outside; something with less of a strong scent to it than tuna, since if I put out food, we'd have every stray on the block visiting the house in search of food, and even some of the cats that aren't stray but go outside anyway. What a mess that'd be!

I am keeping my eyes and ears peeled though, 'cause if he IS mine and I can never get the chance to actually cement that bond, I'd feel terrible if I ended up moving out of town without him! >.<

[Meadhbh]

If I were you I'd go looking for a cat if thats what you really want. But Iwon't just limit myself to a black one. If thats the one you go home with thats great but there are other cats out there that need some one as well. If you get there and feel yourself drawn to a white fluffy one don't rule it just because it isn't what you had in mind to begin with.

[ladyraven]

Sounds like how I got my black cat. He was a stray that just hung around and wouldn't come up to anyone but me. I took him in and have had him for 3 years now. What's interesting is the fact that anytime I go to do any energy work he comes and sits about three feet form me watching the entire time. He even keeps my other cat off of my altar.

Try going outside one day and see if he'll come to you. If he does, tell him he's welcome to come in the house and that no one will hurt and see what he does. But like Meadhbh said, don't just going looking for a perticular cat. There's a lot out there who would love you. Also, this cat may just be sensing that you want a black cat. I know that my family has always had black cats hang around just because they knew we would be kind to them and that's part of the reason we've always had one.

Good luck with the kitty.

[Autumnsong]

As far as looking for OTHER cats goes.. yes, I know, it doesn't HAVE to be a black one. I have owned several other colored kitties in my lifetime and not a one of them have been black. But I've always liked the way black kitties LOOK. How their eyes stand out in the dark fur, the way their tongues seem such a brighter shade of pink, etc. There are three adopted-from-a-shelter kitties here right now and yeah, they're all lovely kitties, but I'd just really like a black one! *sighs*

Anyway if the cat IS only here because he knows I want a black one, he's doubly welcome, because being a stray is a lot harder than being in a shelter (I do not include the county pound in this category) where they feed you every day, give you a litter box and let people come and pet you.
I like him. I'm drawn to him for more than just his color. He comes here, seems to only tolerate me, and that in itself says to me, "Maybe I'm the best choice for him right now. I know I'd be good to him, and neither of us can be certain that someone else he finds will be."

[Cindlady2]

I've almost always had cats, many have been black, some cats of other colors have been familiars. I had to Waite almost 45 years to get a black familiar! And of course, she came to me! :)

Well, Good Luck to you and the cat! Hope it works out for you.

[Autumnsong]

=) Thanks. I hope it works out, too! ^.^

He came back again this morning, btw, but I was asleep.. and before Howie could roust me and tell me he was here, the cat was spooked off by one of the other resident-kitties. How inconvenient! Haha