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Shana-chan
March 13th, 2007, 03:50 AM
*** My posts are really long winded. So here's an outline: ***

- Flood in our apartment - our fault, we understand and admitted it immediately.
- No one would help - landlady MIA, no plumber, no maintenance man, NOTHING
- Condescending jerk who made me cry who "cleaned" our carpets - really too much of a dick to describe
- Landlady tried to evict us and is charging us for everything

Well, okay I believe it was Thursday night.. My hubby and I had been fighting all day and really upset, tired, exhausted, stressed, and out of it.

We left the house, went food shopping for a couple hours, and when we returned to our little apartment, we walked in to find a freaking rainforest!

One of us had left the bathroom (upstairs) faucet running, and it overflowed! It was leaking down through the ceiling in the living room and kitchen, and had completely soaked the floor in those two rooms and the dining room (was being used as our bedroom).

:twitch: :aburst: :scream: :wah: (Why is there no *beating self viciously over the head* emoticon?)

So (after we turned off the upstairs sink) we called the emergency line. The plumber called us back saying he couldn't help us, and the maintenance man just kept repeating, "cleaning crew can't come out 'til tomorrow."

I called my mom, who calmed me and the hubby down a lot, and started wringing out the kitchen floor, with pots catching the water that was coming down. @_@ When there wasn't 2 inches worth of water on the floor (at midnight), we grabbed what very little money we have and went to the 24 hr Walmart an hour's drive away and bought a Wet/Dry Shop Vac, so that we could finish cleaning the kitchen floor and start sucking up water from the living room floor (so our electronics didn't get destroyed).

God, that sucked. We stayed up until 7am pulling water out of the floor. We were able to buy a 5 gallon Shop Vac, and I emptied it around 6 times, at the LEAST.

We slept... for an hour. In which the "carpet cleaner" called and said he'd be out at 10:30. Cool, he's getting right on it. He sounded nice, I thought everything would be good. I set the clock for 9 and slept for an extra 1/2 hour.

When we got up, we immediately started packing things up and moving them into areas that weren't wet, and that we knew would be out of the way. When the "carpet cleaner" (he's actually a "mildew specialist," supposedly - I'm really doubting it) showed up, we specifically told him to be careful for the BRAND NEW EXPENSIVE (and our very first piece of furniture) dining table that was near the door, away from the water. We informed him that if he gave us about 15 minutes, we'd have it out of his way and he could bring in his equipment. I wasn't being threatening, I was being very friendly for having an hour's worth of sleep.

So, what does he do..? The first thing after he looked around, was that he brought in a dehumidifier... AND SLAMMED IT AGAINST THE SIDE OF OUR TABLE! Despite us asking nicely to be careful. We watched him bring it in, and we said, "WHY DID YOU DO THAT?!" And he said, "I didn't touch it."

..... _wedgie_ :grrrrr:

Okay, so he hasn't been there five minutes, and he's already hurt our table and lied straight faced to us. WTF?!

He tells me to show him where the water was coming from, where it was wet, etc. I start to show him, saying, "Okay, it came down here, and here, and here, and here, as you can see from the discoloration, and the carpet is wet here, here, -" "It doesn't matter where it's wet at! The only thing that matters is MILDEW!"

..... :aburst: I did what he asked me to. I rebutted his statement with, "Yes, I understand that, THIS is where it is wet and where MILDEW will grow." (The word MILDEW will always be capitalized, because I swear he used it 300 times, at least!) He says, "You see, I have to get rid of the MILDEW. Anywhere that's wet, in the walls, in the sheetrock, in the carpet, the pad, the wood, there can be MILDEW." ... "Yes, I understand," "MILDEWMILDEWMILDEW!" It literally did not matter how many times I said 'Yes, I understand you have to get in my closet,' he would not stop talking or listen to me or even REALIZE that I was cleaning out the closet for him so he could get into it.

He tells me, "You're going to need to leave." And I said, "What, excuse me?"

"You're going to HAVE to leave. Well, err, MOST people prefer to leave. It's 'very loud', I'll have two dehumidifiers running and this fan."

Okay, first off... All of those things are only about 2 decibels louder than the AC I use during the summer. Who cares? Not a problem.*

He was VERY condescending. I don't even think I can describe how much of a (intentional or unintentional) condescending *GRRR!* this guy was! Usually things people do or say don't bother my husband, but after talking to this guy for five minutes, he ran upstairs to where I was and said, "What a condescending-!" He NEVER says things like that about people.

The cleaner also refuses to let us say ANYTHING to him. Nothing. I tried to talk to him, to say, 'Okay, well, I want to get this out of the way first, and then we'll finish doing this, just so you'll know where we'll be,' and he wouldn't let me speak. I got to the word 'first' before he suddenly started talking over me. And from that point on, he refuses to let me say anything.

I tried saying, "Look, we've had 1 hour of sleep, and we're working as fast as we can, and considering we've only taken 3 hours of work to move our entire apartment into one room, I think we're doing okay!" And three words in he starts talking over me and WON'T SHUT UP!

Anyways, back to the * above. So he finally got the point that we needed to move everything and he'd have to wait a tiny bit before he started working. Of course, he could have started sucking water out during this time, but he apparently thought we'd be tripping all over his plastic sucky tube. :/ Not our fault. He says, "I'll go get you some boxes, I'll be back soon." Cool.

When he came back, he brought 50 (yes, that's FIFTY!) boxes with him. WTF!??!??!! We used maybe 10 of them. The rest we threw out the next day. He left again, saying he'd be back at 4, but not before saying, "OMG you're going to need more boxes!" "NO! We do NOT need more boxes! Thank you anyways."

He also said, "LISTEN, it's not about YOUR stuff, it's not about the CARPET, it's about the MILDEW!" ... EXCUSE ME?! You're in my HOME. YES, it is about my stuff. I WILL be suing the hell out of you if you putting those short shelves against the GLASS on our TV scratched it, or if you dented our brand freaking new table!

At 4:45 he comes back when we've finished moving everything. Of course, we had finished 45 minutes before when he originally said he'd be back. So we're a little pissed, but we brush it off since we had to take a little time to move our things out of the other rooms and etc..

At this point, he finally asks if we have a place to go. Excuse me? You're at a LOW INCOME APARTMENT COMPLEX. Do you understand the part that says LOW INCOME?! That means we have no hotel to go to. No, we can't go to our friend's house, they live in their parents' basement. What's that? Our family? That's a laugh.

I guess he got it through his head that we weren't going anywhere. I tried to explain to him that we'd just be in the office and wouldn't be in the way, and if he needs anything to let us know, but.. he talked over me and completely ignored me. So, whatever. At that point I refused to talk to him ever again. ):

So he works, sucks up some water, pulls up some carpets and pads, puts up a fan and an extra dehumidifier and leaves. Next day? He sprays some disinfectant and moves the fans a little. That's Saturday. He says he'll be back later that day, and he leaves. And doesn't come back, or call, until this morning (Monday) at around 10:30.

Ooookay... It would have been nice to know that you were going to ditch us the rest of the weekend. That part of the carpet the fan has been on for 36 hours was dry 3 hours after you left it there. You couldn't come by for two seconds to move it to the wet part of that carpet, or call us to do it for you? Of course not.

He hasn't been upstairs to check the bathroom floor or the other 'wet' room since the very first day he was here. He also didn't get rid of all the padding that was wet in the first place. At this point, he STILL hasn't cut the ceiling open to get that to start drying.

Today he showed up for about two minutes, stuck some tubes into some holes he drilled (because he doesn't want to pull the fridge out. He told the landlady that we would 'trip all over it'. No, we wouldn't. We wouldn't leave the house, as we don't have anywhere to GO with no money), and FINALLY put something on the wet part of the carpet, which has been wet since Thursday/Friday.

Which, actually, he was going to let AIRDRY until my husband told him it was starting to stink like mildew and that he needed to freaking do what we're going to be paying him to do.

So this morning, bright and early, we went down and talked to the landlady. She was going to evict us because we have our bed in the "dining room." We honestly did not know it was against our lease. The lease only seems to explain what a 'bedroom' is and what overcrowding is, not that we can't have our bed there (at least, from my point of view, it needs to be reworded):


Overcrowding shall occur when the TOTAL occupancy level in a housing unit exceeds 2 people per habitable sleeping room, except that an additional person(s) may be allowed when a habitable sleeping room provides at least 50 square feet per person. A habitable sleeping room shall not include a kitchen, bathroom, hallway, or dining room.

Joy.

The other things that happened when we talked to the landlady:

- She talked over us and refused to let us say anything, until she was making a call on her cellphone and I told her that I deserved to defend myself.

- The "carpet cleaner" LIED to her and told her that; we actually used 50 boxes for the things we had in our apartment, and that our apartment looked like a storage facility. WE JUST HAD A FLOOD IN OUR APARTMENT!!! OF COURSE EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE SHOVED TO ONE SIDE AWAY FROM THE WATER, AND THE OTHER ROOMS ARE GOING TO BE DISHEVELED! He also said that our stairs "had a layer of dust and looked like they had never been vacuumed." 1) We vacuum the entire house once a month, and weekly depending on what's needed. 2) WE JUST HAD A FLOOD! We were running around the apartment in our god damned shoes, you moron! OF COURSE THE STAIRS ARE GOING TO BE DIRTY! The house is not going to be damn prestine after a freaking FLOOD!

- She said we'd have to pay for everything.

- She wanted to yell, 'WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?!' at us, but instead did her best to make us feel like idiots, along with insinuating that we flooded the place on purpose. "What the hell would possess you to turn on the water and then leave?" IT WAS A FREAKING ACCIDENT! She said something else that I really feel was completely out of line. ): We're not stupid, it was an accident, for crying out loud. We didn't want any of our things to get ruined. We didn't do it just to piss you off. "You must have been very embarrassed or very stupid to admit that it was your fault right away." Uhmm, how about truthful? How about we're actually the only honest people in this entire state? Did that ever occur to you?

- She STILL hasn't come out to see our apartment. D: So no matter what happens, she's just going to take the "carpet cleaner's" word over ours. Even though he's a liar, a condescending jerk, and pretty much very stupid.

God.. yes, that's it so far.. I'm really pissed that everyone is treating us like idiots because of something that was an accident, that we couldn't help, that we did EVERYTHING IN OUR POWER to try to help clean up, including NOT being arseholes to the cleaning guy, despite him being a total anus to us. ): No one is helping, they're just sort of treating us like crap. ):

I've been told that if the apartment is inhabitable (which it is), then they're supposed to put us into a hotel. -_-; Instead, we're squeezed into a tiny part of our office that's about 5x3 feet. About the width of a twin bed, but not as long. That's the floor, and is currently our bed. ):

Scary thing; at any time between last Thursday and this Sunday, the landlady could kick us out, due to the terms in the lease. D: So we're trying not to start anything or be mean to anyone. ): It's really scary not knowing what's going on, or what's going to happen, since no one will talk to us. Not to mention that I've currently lost 25 hours of work this week (it was $8 per hour, too!), when I was scheduled for 50. ): That means that on top of this bill, assuming everything is finished tomorrow (it won't be), I will only have 1/2 of what I expected for this week. I had to take a lot of last week off, too, so the next two paychecks will be MUCH lower than I expect. D: God..

I'm really scared, really tired, really stressed out, really just wanting my bed back. ):

For those who have now finished reading my epic story, thank you. :hugz:

Annorah
March 13th, 2007, 05:39 AM
Dear Shanachan

Comforting and positive energies coming your way.

I hope things soon come right for you.

Try not to worry - you can't change what happened but you can change the way you deal with it.

Brightest blessings

:hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz:

Alder
March 13th, 2007, 09:35 AM
Wow, that story was insane. Don't worry, my wife and i have had similarly bad situations, and one things for sure, it only gets better, everything happens for a reason, and it will work out ok in the end. One thing to keep in mind when it comes to your landlord and that carpet guy KARMA!!!!!
I will send as much positive energy as I can possibly send.

Shana-chan
March 13th, 2007, 09:51 AM
Dear Shanachan

Comforting and positive energies coming your way.

I hope things soon come right for you.

Try not to worry - you can't change what happened but you can change the way you deal with it.

Brightest blessings



Thanks! I try to be really friendly to the people even though they aren't to me, and I'm really surprised that I didn't start yelling at the landlady at all. 8O


Wow, that story was insane. Don't worry, my wife and i have had similarly bad situations, and one things for sure, it only gets better, everything happens for a reason, and it will work out ok in the end. One thing to keep in mind when it comes to your landlord and that carpet guy KARMA!!!!!
I will send as much positive energy as I can possibly send.

Thank you for reading through it! :hugz: It's been tough, mostly because no one will talk to us or even treat us like adults. :/ It's scary when you have no clue what's happening.

Hehe, although the carpet cleaner should be mostly leaving today! We're supposed to get the carpet reinstalled by someone else, but I don't know when that'll happen. :P They just said "tomorrow." Our landlady didn't even tell us, the "carpet cleaner" did. ):

Willow Rosette
March 13th, 2007, 03:32 PM
Oh honey Im so sorry you had to go through all that. Know it all people really irritate me too. Lots and lots of :hugz: for you.

BlueEyedWolf
March 13th, 2007, 10:27 PM
:hugz: :hugz: :hugz:

Brightshores
March 13th, 2007, 10:31 PM
:awilly: :awilly: :awilly:

Good luck dealing with all those crazy people - hope everything works out for you soon.

:hugz:

Shana-chan
March 14th, 2007, 12:16 AM
Thanks you guys! The landlady just gave us a re-certification blahblah thing. Basically, it's a little sheet of paper that tells her what our income is, since we're living in a low income complex, we have to pay 30% of our income for rent.

The thing is, she knows I'm just starting this new Independent Contractor job with a telecommunications company, and that I do NOT have a stable amount coming in per week. So I'm scared that if I put the average of what I've made so far ($50~ per week) into the form, but I make MORE per week in the coming weeks, that she'll try to kick us out. ):

I'm scared that she might be looking for any excuse to kick us out. ): Especially since she already tried to kick us out for having the bed downstairs. (Which I checked with my parents, who owned/managed apts for 6 years, and they said the lease does NOT say that we can't have our bed there, it's only describing occupancy.)

My parents are telling me that I should get an attorney. I think I will, because I know that the lady will charge us for the entire thing, even though there is some partial blame for her (note - I'd understand if she wants us to pay for part of the bill, but not the whole damn thing). But, then that will probably aggravate her, and I just hope she won't kick us out for that. -_-; Especially since there isn't anywhere else for us to go. We don't have money saved up for a security deposit or for rent. The only place we *could* go would be to our grandmother's trailer.. Which is where we started, and we refuse to go back. We may be getting treated poorly here, but it was a thousand times worse then.

Oh.. the carpet repair guy didn't show up today, even though I was told he would. ): He's apparently coming tomorrow at 8am. Lovely..

So yea. Thanks for letting me vent some more. ):

Shana-chan
March 14th, 2007, 04:05 PM
Yay!!! The carpet repair person came today! The only bad thing was that he was wearing really strong cologne. Other than that, he was extremely friendly, and very careful with our stuff.

We have our floor back!

Haha, so we're going to move the bed into the living room tonight. :3 The table is staying upstairs until the first guy is done, though. I don't trust him enough to let him be anywhere near it. ):

Lauren Michele
March 14th, 2007, 04:28 PM
Shana-Chan, I am so sorry you went through all of that. You were surrounded by, I don't even want to say people, who wouldn't listen and sympathize. I hope everything turns out okay. Please keep us informed. :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz:

~Belladonna~

darkchild
March 14th, 2007, 05:06 PM
I don't know if you accept hugs from strangers, but here ya go, just in case. It sounds like you need hugs right now. :hugz: :hugz: :hugz:

Calming, positive energy on it's way to you as well.

Shana-chan
March 14th, 2007, 05:20 PM
Shana-Chan, I am so sorry you went through all of that. You were surrounded by, I don't even want to say people, who wouldn't listen and sympathize. I hope everything turns out okay. Please keep us informed. :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz:

~Belladonna~

:hugz: Thank you. Things are going better right now, I'm able to do some phone work, so I'll actually have some money coming in a couple weeks from now. I ended up dropping at least 25 hours worth of work earlier this week because of this. D:

I'm just really glad that my parents have been here for me. If they weren't home that night, and if they weren't helping me with what I should do, then I'd still be in a soggy home, with wet DVD's and electronics that are zapped, and I'd be owing a gigantic bill. 8O


I don't know if you accept hugs from strangers, but here ya go, just in case. It sounds like you need hugs right now.

Calming, positive energy on it's way to you as well.

:hugz::hugz::hugz: Thank you! Hugs are always welcomed and appreciated. ^_^ I feel so much better, and I really think it's due to the wonderful people here. : )

PandoraHealer
March 15th, 2007, 02:23 PM
I've been in similar situations- I'm horribly sorry. My eyes kinda watered up on that one. hope it gets better!

BB-PH

Marcasite
March 15th, 2007, 08:00 PM
Yikes! What a terrible ordeal! I hope everything improves for you greatly soon!

MysticMoggie
March 15th, 2007, 10:15 PM
Awful...nothing much to add except my energies to the thread, to help you out cosmically.

:hugz::hugz::hugz::hugz:

Keep us posted.

Shana-chan
March 16th, 2007, 11:15 AM
Thank you everyone!

After sleeping on the floor for five or six nights, we were finally able to set up our bed and use it for two. OOOHHHHHHHH it was sooooo nice to have a bed again! To be able to wake up without having a sore anything!

The damn mold jerk left for TWO FREAKING DAYS and has FINALLY come back. I have no clue where he's been or why he hasn't come back to do a job that I'll be paying him for, but I'm pretty ticked off..

EDIT: Huh.. I guess he's done? He says there's no more mildew (that's a laugh) in our apartment, but he also fixed the windows and doors! *dance* So he's gone! Whooohooo!

I can guarantee you that our ceiling still has mold in it. It's gross looking. But at least we don't have to pay to have it excavated now. ): Hopefully it won't grow to the point where it makes me feel sick.

But.... YAY! 'Cause we'll be paying less and this means we can go into town later today! :D

Annorah
March 16th, 2007, 12:01 PM
Hi Shana-chan

Well, it looks as though your ordeal is finally coming to an end :)

So glad things have worked out well - you handled those involved with great dignity - there's a lot to be said for being nice to people even if they don't return it.

Hope things continue to improve

:hugz:

Shana-chan
March 30th, 2007, 05:17 PM
Update:

Well, guess what, we got the bill. It's for $1,600+. One of the things that we're being charged for is for the mold guy to pick up free boxes from the liquor store.

Wait, please let me illiterate that..

He's charging us for picking up FREE boxes from the liquor store, which is MAYBE TWO MILES away from our apartment, and which we did not ask him to do and for which he picked up about 30 or 40 too many; which we then had to throw away ourselves.

... We should be charging HIM for us having to throw them away! We had to walk a total of two miles back and forth for all the trips to the garbage can. -_-;

It's also listed on the invoice (by the landlady, NOT the carpet worker) that the carpet was replaced because the water caused the carpet backing to delaminate. Which is BS. Because it looked just like the rest of the carpet, and because the carpet guy specifically told us and the maintenance man that he wanted to replace it because, "this carpet seems a lot older than the rest, and because it gets replaced every few years anyhow."

......

Another thing we found out this morning, was that my husband's savings account had been closed. Which means that his SSI payment was sent back to SS. Which means that we won't be receiving it for another 2 weeks! Bills are due this week, rent is due on the 3rd, we're almost screwed, and we don't have food right now. D:

Luckily, I do have a little saved aside, and we might be able to get some help from his family, we have to go down tonight (but we don't have gas 8O ) to see if they'll be willing to help us or not. I don't know, because they weren't willing to help us when the apartment flooded. ):

Just have to wait and see, I guess.

Annorah
March 30th, 2007, 06:00 PM
So sorry to hear that things are so horrible for you right now.

Hang on in there.

I hope that you get the help that you need.

I am sending positive energies your way.

:hugz:

Willow Rosette
March 30th, 2007, 06:20 PM
I dont know what state your in honey but cant you check into renters rights? Damage is damage no matter how it was caused and Im thinking the landlord is still responsible. A much cheaper example is this: This past weekend I broke my garbage disposal. So for like third time this month I had to call them and tell them I screwed it up. This time it is finally broken and they are replacing it with out any hassel. A bigger example? I have stackable washer/dryer units in my apartment. They hold maybe half the load of a normal washer. So I kinda over stuffed it. Screwed that one up royally. Flooded the crap out of my hall way. They came in and repaced it and never said a word about it. Next is going to be my stove, I kinda broke one of the nobbies to turn a burner on and off :lol: I just havent copped to that one yet.

Good luck honey. Im always here if you need to chat.

Shana-chan
March 30th, 2007, 10:18 PM
I dont know what state your in honey but cant you check into renters rights? Damage is damage no matter how it was caused and Im thinking the landlord is still responsible. A much cheaper example is this: This past weekend I broke my garbage disposal. So for like third time this month I had to call them and tell them I screwed it up. This time it is finally broken and they are replacing it with out any hassel. A bigger example? I have stackable washer/dryer units in my apartment. They hold maybe half the load of a normal washer. So I kinda over stuffed it. Screwed that one up royally. Flooded the crap out of my hall way. They came in and repaced it and never said a word about it. Next is going to be my stove, I kinda broke one of the nobbies to turn a burner on and off :lol: I just havent copped to that one yet.

Good luck honey. Im always here if you need to chat.

Thank you. ^.^

We are definitely looking into every recourse we have available, from trying to get the invoice lowered to trying to figure out if we can sue her, to seeing if she has insurance or.. anything. ^^;

I don't know, she keeps blowing us off. We even told her to send out the maintenance man to take care of the holes in the wall, and she said, 'Okay, Wed at 9:45, and it should take him about 45 minutes to fix it', and when he showed up, he said he'd, 'come back tomorrow'. Didn't give a reason why, just left, and then he didn't come back at all. ):

So yeah.. We have to have a big talk with the landlady next week. -_-;

Shana-chan
March 31st, 2007, 02:56 PM
Edit: *sigh* Well, hubby and I went out and had some fun hanging around some shops, so we feel a lot better now. : )

Annorah
April 1st, 2007, 02:34 AM
Glad to know that you are feeling a bit better now - I hope it continues.

:hugz:

Shana-chan
April 5th, 2007, 02:57 PM
Well, I talked to the landlady today about the invoice, and she's absolutely UNWILLING to work with me. So I have to call some housing agency peoples and my mom and maybe a lawyer and see what I can do.

I wasn't rude to her or anything. I was very polite, I never raised my voice, and I kept the husband from getting mad at her (he wanted to bite her head off).

She threatened that if we pursue this further and we don't pay, that she'll make us pay for patching up the walls and the paint job (which was supposed to be done by now, but she refuses to do it until we pay).

She's even telling us that we have to pay for the mold guy going and getting FREE boxes.

And she's basically calling us a liar because I said, "I really don't appreciate that he's lying to you, he wasn't even there when we were cleaning."

And I called our local mental health place to see if I could come in and talk to someone, and if they had any idea what I might have to pay, and they had absolutely no information for me, and that I wouldn't be able to talk to anyone for a few days.

I don't know what to do..

mithrilmoon
April 5th, 2007, 03:14 PM
Well, I talked to the landlady today about the invoice, and she's absolutely UNWILLING to work with me. So I have to call some housing agency peoples and my mom and maybe a lawyer and see what I can do.

I wasn't rude to her or anything. I was very polite, I never raised my voice, and I kept the husband from getting mad at her (he wanted to bite her head off).

She threatened that if we pursue this further and we don't pay, that she'll make us pay for patching up the walls and the paint job (which was supposed to be done by now, but she refuses to do it until we pay).

She's even telling us that we have to pay for the mold guy going and getting FREE boxes.

And she's basically calling us a liar because I said, "I really don't appreciate that he's lying to you, he wasn't even there when we were cleaning."

And I called our local mental health place to see if I could come in and talk to someone, and if they had any idea what I might have to pay, and they had absolutely no information for me, and that I wouldn't be able to talk to anyone for a few days.

I don't know what to do..

I really feel for you. I'm in dire financial straits, myself, right now. Thanks to the kindness of people on MW I found the courage to seek help. That's what you may need - professional help to deal with this situation.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

P. XX

LadyAquamarina
April 5th, 2007, 05:16 PM
Positive energy and hugs on the way. :hugz:

Annorah
April 5th, 2007, 05:17 PM
Positive energies heading your way.

Stay strong.

:hugz:

Willow Rosette
April 5th, 2007, 06:11 PM
http://bestsmileys.com/hugging/4.gif Im sorry your still going through all this crap. If you ever need to just rant and vent Im here to listen.