Ritual shyness

[KylalaKitty]

Hi, I've been a solitary witch for years because I didnt really have anyone to have rituals with. Well, I now have some friends that I can do stuff with...but I'm too shy to now. I feel too embarrassed and feel judged, like I'm doing it all wrong. Its horrible. I know that they aren't judging me but I cant get that thought out of my head. Anyone have/had this problem? Any advice?

[angle kitsune]

I know how you feel. I have never worked with others, never had the chance but I have some friends now that I know are not fakes and I'm not used to it. I think the best way to help get the feeling to go away is to just talk to them about how they do things and maybe just sit one out and watch to see how they do things.

[-Sky-]

I feel the exact same shyness!I found witchcraft on my own some years ago and evolved by researching and doing solitary rituals.Being solitary feels very natural to me,it's just me and the Divine.But i always craved for a coven,people to share with.
Last year i came very close with a friend i already had.I felt like i could share my magical path with her so i did.And she started being interested in Paganism and magic too.We have done some magical workings together but not really a ritual.We've had circles and tarot readings.But i feel embarassed to do a ritual with her.I feel embarassed to chant or do the ritual procedures and i don't know how to get over this....I believe that if i was having a ritual with strangers i wouldn't mind that much.

[TempestDra]

I've found the only way to get through that fear is to try to sit through a few situations where you can get used to it. Can you ask to observe or only take a bit part at first, explaining that you'd like a chance to get comfortable? Oftentimes that works with friends, especially since they might well have had similar thoughts when they started out. If you're comfortable, you'll enjoy it, and if you enjoy it, I guarantee you'll be wanting to take a bigger part next time. It's pretty much how I was able to get over my fear of being in the spotlight in groups, and now people can't get me to shut up.;)

[-Sky-]

I've found the only way to get through that fear is to try to sit through a few situations where you can get used to it. Can you ask to observe or only take a bit part at first, explaining that you'd like a chance to get comfortable? Oftentimes that works with friends, especially since they might well have had similar thoughts when they started out. If you're comfortable, you'll enjoy it, and if you enjoy it, I guarantee you'll be wanting to take a bigger part next time. It's pretty much how I was able to get over my fear of being in the spotlight in groups, and now people can't get me to shut up.;)

Very good advice!:) I'm like that in other situations too.First very reserved but then they can't shut me up haha

Problem is,with my case,i can't just observe since i am the one who has been studying for longer and the one who should lead the ritual..