Mother in Law

[RubyRose]

Okay so recently Rhyce's mother paid for Xander to have swimming lessons. This Thursday will be his third lesson. I have to say, that I do enjoy it. At the same time, after Xander went for his first swimming lesson, Leanne (mother in law) thought it would be fun to have Xander signed up for Gymbaroo. We went for the first time last Monday. We're supposed to go again today. To be honest, I can't be bothered. I stayed up far to late last night. Xander cried the entire time we were there, last week and Rhyce is currently still in bed asleep. I deliberately made the Gymbaroo sessions on a Monday, because I thought that Rhyce might like to participate in an activity outside of going to the park and playing with him here at home.
All he said to me this morning when I asked if we were going to day was "Well you're going"
Translation: I'm not because I'm too tired
I'm currently sitting here procrastinating. I'm not sure how to tell Leanne to back off. Teaching Xander to swim is one thing, and I appreciate the fact that she is willing to fork out the money and pay for the lessons, but she's trying to organize my life through Xander. She said the other week. So, Monday and Thursday are covered, what can we get you doing on Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday?
Is it so bad to just want to play with Xander at home or down at the park which is actually only a mere 2 minute walk from our home?

[DreamSpell333]

Im sorry that your having a hard time with your Mother In law. Mine can get bossy/over controllive from time to time.
I have learned to just tell her to back off,and let me be the mom. I mean I do appreciate her help,but sometimes you have to draw a line.
It sounds like she means well with wanting to get xander involved in outdoor activities,but im sure that too many activities will be too much for him as well.

Maybe you can ask her if you both could just do 1 activitie at a time? Like once he's done with his swim lessons,he can do gymboree. Or maybe you should suggest SHE take him to one of them each week herself.
I hope things get better! :hugz:

[RubyRose]

I did try initially when we were there signing up (we've come towards the end of term one for Gymbaroo) that I'd rather wait until the next term starts. I'm going wait and see what happens when Rhyce wakes up and realises that I didn't attend.

[Willow Rosette]

I agree you need to draw the line with your mother in law. Maybe explain to her that your son cant do more than one activity because it would over stimulate him and that would defeat the purpose?

[RubyRose]

I'm not so worried about Overstimulizing him. Fact is I didn't realise, that 12:30pm interrupt with his afternoon nap. He goes down for a sleep at noon.

[RainInanna]

Well did anything happen?

My boyfriend's mother doesn't pay for things, just makes noises at what we buy that spoils the baby and how we didn't need anything for him since I'd already bought everything.

[RubyRose]

No not yet. Actually Rhyce didn't even realise we'd missed anything yesterday. I'll bring it up with him today.

[Willow Rosette]

I'm not so worried about Overstimulizing him. Fact is I didn't realise, that 12:30pm interrupt with his afternoon nap. He goes down for a sleep at noon.

Even if it doesnt actually do it, it would still be a good reason not to do both if you dont want to straight up tell her.

[broomstix]

There is such a thing as too many activities--and when it becomes a chore no one likes it--how does Xander feel about it? If he can take it or leave it then that's an out for you, or is there an activity that you'd rather be doing? I have three children and there are days that I just never come home because we're running around. Good luck with this--there are days that I'm glad that my in-laws live out of state! :lol: