SpikesPet5150
April 30th, 2002, 04:02 PM
Hey all.. I've got this issue (what else is new, right?)
Ok, so my very best friend lives in Arizona. She's a lesbian, and a witch. She's been dating this girl, Darlene for about 2 years now. When she first met Darlene, Darlene was engaged to be married to a man in the marines. Eventually, the engagement broke off and Darlene began dating Krissa (my best friend). They broke up on and off throughout the relationship, most of the time because Darlene just didn't think she could handle living in a lesbian relationship for too long (she's bisexual). So about a month ago, they broke up, Krissa moved out of their apartment and Darlene began dating this guy (can't remember his name, sorry). So Darlene and Krissa still talk and blah blah blah. So Krissa calls me yesterday and says that her and Darlene are planning on going to San Francisco at the end of May and are getting married. So of course I freak out, because the last I heard, they'd broken up and they both seemed much happier without each other. The worst part is, Darlene is hoping to become pregnant (she quit taking her birth control pills without telling her boyfriend) so her and Krissa can have a baby. I know that her boyfriend has no clue she's planning on getting pregnant and I don't know if Darlene even plans on telling him if she does become pregnant.
My question is, what should I do about this? Should I tell Krissa exactly how I feel (and by that I mean to say I think it's completely wrong and the stupidest decision she's ever made in her life)... or should I stand behind her and let her make her own mistakes? I'm just so confused. It seems to me that Krissa is so intent on "growing up" and having a family that she doesn't really care who it's with. She's been incredibly depressed lately, feeling that she's not as mature as she should be, or that she hasn't done enough with her life as of yet (she's only 21, as is Darlene). If they were only planning on getting married, I'd say to hell with it and let her do it.. but they're planning on having a child, and I don't want that poor child to be caught in the middle of some domestic dispute because Krissa and Darlene can't be civil to each other.
Any suggestions on how I should handle this situation would be greatly appreciated.
~Bree
Ok, so my very best friend lives in Arizona. She's a lesbian, and a witch. She's been dating this girl, Darlene for about 2 years now. When she first met Darlene, Darlene was engaged to be married to a man in the marines. Eventually, the engagement broke off and Darlene began dating Krissa (my best friend). They broke up on and off throughout the relationship, most of the time because Darlene just didn't think she could handle living in a lesbian relationship for too long (she's bisexual). So about a month ago, they broke up, Krissa moved out of their apartment and Darlene began dating this guy (can't remember his name, sorry). So Darlene and Krissa still talk and blah blah blah. So Krissa calls me yesterday and says that her and Darlene are planning on going to San Francisco at the end of May and are getting married. So of course I freak out, because the last I heard, they'd broken up and they both seemed much happier without each other. The worst part is, Darlene is hoping to become pregnant (she quit taking her birth control pills without telling her boyfriend) so her and Krissa can have a baby. I know that her boyfriend has no clue she's planning on getting pregnant and I don't know if Darlene even plans on telling him if she does become pregnant.
My question is, what should I do about this? Should I tell Krissa exactly how I feel (and by that I mean to say I think it's completely wrong and the stupidest decision she's ever made in her life)... or should I stand behind her and let her make her own mistakes? I'm just so confused. It seems to me that Krissa is so intent on "growing up" and having a family that she doesn't really care who it's with. She's been incredibly depressed lately, feeling that she's not as mature as she should be, or that she hasn't done enough with her life as of yet (she's only 21, as is Darlene). If they were only planning on getting married, I'd say to hell with it and let her do it.. but they're planning on having a child, and I don't want that poor child to be caught in the middle of some domestic dispute because Krissa and Darlene can't be civil to each other.
Any suggestions on how I should handle this situation would be greatly appreciated.
~Bree