This bites

[Russ]

So recently my Ex admitted she used the VERY little magic she knew to screw up my attempted to move to Charleston and a relationship or two before her.


It does explain the bizarre way things worked out. So now I'm trying to rebuild things again. But how does one deal with the aftermath of this.

(And no pretending it can't happen didn't happen isn't an option).

[Xirian]

I think you're already dealing with the aftermath:

So now I'm trying to rebuild things again.

If you're wanting revenge or justice or something else, then that is up to you, but it sounds to me like you're dealing and moving on, which is what most people do when they've been betrayed or manipulated.

It sounds as if the damage has been done. You can forgive and forget or hold on to whatever you're holding on to and use it later.

Probably not the best advice, but with the information I have, this is all that I can really offer. I look forward to other comments though.

Good luck!!!

[skilly-nilly]

But how does one deal with the aftermath of this.

(And no pretending it can't happen didn't happen isn't an option).

I think that mundanely what you're doing is right----moving on and re-building.

Magically, imo, you need to take a look (or even better have a trusted practitioner look for you) at what kind of lingering ' hooks' or attachments you might still have as leftovers from her. Check that you don't have any objects/gifts/photos that she could still link into. Whatever your personal Path is, there should be some kind of Working that will sever ties and reflect back her sendings.

In other words, Magically letting go in the same way that you are mundanely. Because if you're not letting it in it doesn't matter what she'd sending.

[mayu]

i agree with the above, you need to protect yourself too, did you get a promise she wouldnt do this again?

there must be reflection spells on here somewhere, and protection ones, i would advice you to do both. and break contact with her.

[Silverfire Darkmoon]

I would dig around in any drawers, closets, or places where you accumulate miscellaneous crap, find anything that still connects you to her, and burn it. I did this a few months ago - found a bunch of old spell bits, a few of which had involved my ex-girlfriend, and I torched the lot. Immediately felt better ^^

[Meadhbh]

If it were me I'd a do reversing spell or the like. Just to clear the air and get rid of any other negative thing she might be sending you. Reversing works well if you don't want to do any thing harmfull to her. All your doing is returning what she already sent out. You may also want to cleanse your home as well as look for any thing you didn't put there yourself.

[Phoenix Blue]

Why are you still communicating with your ex? Are children involved?

[Vampiel]

My ex decided to stop paying a credit card that had both of our names on it... somehow it was a joint account but I thought I was just an authorized user (I never even used the card) and im still fighting to get my name off it. So far the credit card company has yet to show me a document stating I signed to up for a joint account.

I think the best way to deal with this type of thing is to cut off all contact and try to tie up any loose ends as soon as possible. The more you try to drag it on the longer it lasts.

Some people can be very vindictive after a relationship.

[Glowy]

That is just awful. I agree with everyone else, cleanse ,cleanse , cleanse! What away to destroy any trust you may have had in her.

[Shawn Blackwolf]

You know that old saying...There's always somebody worse off than you ?

Just a thought for you...And I'm sorry...But feel grateful , you did not have my Ex...Look at my age...Not that i'm not worth it...BUT...a 29 yr old , Redhead
Scorpio...asked me to be with her...We handfasted...6 months later, I see
Multiple personalities...get stories of mind programming and worse....then
it looks like , with hospital , and doctors visits...again and again...she tried to poison , and psychically attack me , until I almost died...then disappeared...parents gave me a letter stating I did nothing wrong...she told them same things...Today, even though I made it clear through her family...
NO CONTACT...She tracked me down on the web...and said she was sorry for the way she left...nothing about...Gee , sorry I poisoned you... !

[tinybreath]

some people you never know truly because 90% or more people lie to get ahead. its truly a sad world when you can not trust the person you believe you love.

[Xentor]

some people you never know truly because 90% or more people lie to get ahead. its truly a sad world when you can not trust the person you believe you love.

Totally off-topic: Welcome to Mystic Wicks!

[Shaw]

Be sure to check places in your home where you spend a lot of time. Favorite chair, under your bed, in your kitchen. Also check around your home like under the steps or porch some spells only require her to have put something on the premises.

Try to open up and just sense it out like a smell. it could be something as simple as her hair in your hairbrush. Man this sounds paranoid I know but curses and hexes always but me on red alert.