halfwaynowhere
June 30th, 2007, 03:19 AM
This is kind of a long story, I'll try to cut it down as much as possible.
My sister and her husband have been married for 6 months, living in their own house for about 2 months. Right now my sister is having issues with her in-laws, her SIL needs a place to stay with her 8 year old son, and my sister and her husband have offered to rent them a room for an insanely low rate, but there are some rules that need to be considered. These people have nowhere else to go, I knew it was a bad idea from the start, but either they move in with my sister, or they live on the streets. So the SIL hasn't moved in yet, and hasn't been following through with her end of the deal so far. My sister is getting sick of it, but everyone is making her out to look like the bad guy here, placing stress on her marriage and everything. If she doesn't let them move in, the kid goes into a foster home, and he's been bouncing around so much in his life, that he needs as much stability as possible. But because her "rules" seem too strict to her SIL (rules such as keeping volume levels down, toys in the bedroom, trying to put the kid on a schedule to help control his ADHD, stuff like that), she doesn't think its worth moving in, because she thinks she'll get kicked out anyways. but if that happens, the whole family is going to blame it on my sister. right now her and her husband have been fighting more, and i just feel so bad for them. I'm trying to stay neutral here, I understand where both parties are coming from, but honestly, its a lot of stress to put on newlyweds, and I don't want their marriage falling apart because of it. So I guess I'm just asking for some positive thoughts so that everything will work out for everyone, and not ruin my sisters relationship with her husband and his family.
My sister and her husband have been married for 6 months, living in their own house for about 2 months. Right now my sister is having issues with her in-laws, her SIL needs a place to stay with her 8 year old son, and my sister and her husband have offered to rent them a room for an insanely low rate, but there are some rules that need to be considered. These people have nowhere else to go, I knew it was a bad idea from the start, but either they move in with my sister, or they live on the streets. So the SIL hasn't moved in yet, and hasn't been following through with her end of the deal so far. My sister is getting sick of it, but everyone is making her out to look like the bad guy here, placing stress on her marriage and everything. If she doesn't let them move in, the kid goes into a foster home, and he's been bouncing around so much in his life, that he needs as much stability as possible. But because her "rules" seem too strict to her SIL (rules such as keeping volume levels down, toys in the bedroom, trying to put the kid on a schedule to help control his ADHD, stuff like that), she doesn't think its worth moving in, because she thinks she'll get kicked out anyways. but if that happens, the whole family is going to blame it on my sister. right now her and her husband have been fighting more, and i just feel so bad for them. I'm trying to stay neutral here, I understand where both parties are coming from, but honestly, its a lot of stress to put on newlyweds, and I don't want their marriage falling apart because of it. So I guess I'm just asking for some positive thoughts so that everything will work out for everyone, and not ruin my sisters relationship with her husband and his family.