Bindings

[aranarose]

I'm the kind of person that does very simple, symbolic and sympathetic workings. More of a kitchen witch with a touch of Hoodoo than anything else. I save the big elaborate workings for big situations. And that's what I'm in right now.

For an idea of the situation she this thread:

http://www.mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=160552

Today, my husband is spending what is to be his LAST day ever with the other woman (she's my ex too, we were a poly triad, until jealousy issues and her desire to have him to herself got in the way, and I found out she was only using me to be with him because she knew I like to share and play well with others). It's been a very rocky couple of years, culminating in him leaving about five weeks ago, and coming back to weeks later. A week after he came back, she told him she still wanted him (she's obsessive, seriously disturbed, stalker type), and a week after that he was considering it. She told him that if he didn't move in with her, she wanted one last day (today) and then he'd never see her again.

He can't bring himself to leave me. He still loves me, he knows I'll always forgive him (probably stupidly at times) and that we actually are good together when he actually puts in the effort that all relationships need. And he doesn't want to leave our son. My son is from a previous relationship, but when my husband and I got married, my son had never met his real father, and accepted my husband as his dad. Even now, six years later, my son knows his birth father but calls him Daddy Matt, and calls my husband Dad. (This irks my ex, but oh well, he wasn't there until my son was 4 years old!)

Anyway... long story short, so you aren't all bored with the details...

He's coming home from this 'last' day around 8 or 9 tonight. She has a habit of telling him she never wants to see him again, and then a day later calling and telling him she just missed him too much. The last time, her excuse for contacting him again was that she needed directions to go somewhere. (Ever hear of MapQuest???)

I want it to stick this time. I'm tired of her crap, and her interference. She's literally a drug to my husband, and he can't say no. Yes, I blame him for being an idiot, but I also realize how complicated and twisted their relationship is, and why he can't let go. They've known each other for many, many years, long before he and I got married, though I've actually known him longer. We all went to high school together, and he and I lost touch for awhile. She was there when his mother died, and he has never properly grieved over his mother's death, so he has a hard time letting that go.

I want to do a binding. I've done bindings before, effectively, but I want ideas to make this one stick, even when the person is a determined, psycho-stalker chick who can't get over a married man who has again and again and again decided to stay with his wife.

I don't want to hurt her, or cause her harm in anyway. I don't have any of the annoying "you can't do bad magic hang-ups" I've done plenty of negative magic when it was necessary. But I fell in love with her too. And some part of me still loves her. I want to see her break this tie as much for herself as for my relationship with my husband because obsession is not healthy.

Comments and ideas are definitely welcome, I have some, but am hoping to begin working this tomorrow, as the waning moon begins.

[Naroddrec]

Over my head right there... it looks like there is no way out but pain from my perspective... All I can say... is meditate...

[aranarose]

Over my head right there... it looks like there is no way out but pain from my perspective... All I can say... is meditate...

Pain is my middle name. Okay, well, not really, but I have it tattooed on my body. Seriously, though, it's hard to explain what's going on here without making it seem really, really messy, because it is really, really messy.

I know there's going to be more pain, there's already been a lot, and it's probably not going to stop anytime soon. Husband and I have to repair our relationship after all of this crap, and having her around makes that impossible.

[Naroddrec]

Perhaps you three need to sit down once you and your husband agree that having her around will make your relationship irreparable and sort things out the good old fashioned way--just talk.

[aranarose]

Perhaps you three need to sit down once you and your husband agree that having her around will make your relationship irreparable and sort things out the good old fashioned way--just talk.

Problem being she won't speak to me. She says that I stole him from her (never mind the fact that I'm the one he married) and that I have destroyed her life because I have stolen her first love from her, and she will never love again.

I've tried talking. This has been going on for quite awhile now, and it's LONG past talking. Thus the reason I'm even willing to attempt a binding, or any other magical solution.

I don't do magic on a whim. I try everything mundane and practical that can be tried. Magic is my, "nothing else is working, I HAVE to do this," solution to problems.

Honestly, if he allows her back into her life after this time, I'm filing for divorce. I don't want it to come to that, so I want to try binding her. If it works, then it is to her benefit as well because she will finally be able to move on with her life.

After he and I were married, he didn't see her for four years. She got married and was doing quite well with herself, until I bumped into her at the laundromat. That's when the drama started, and her marriage fell apart because her obsession with my husband kicked in. As long as they are not in each other's life, they are okay.

And honestly, if I thought they were good for each other, I'd say go for it. But he's not good for her, and she's not good for them. During their last fight, the police were called. They've been at each other's throats, literally, and he's not a violent man. He's never even raised a hand to me. They bring out the absolute worst in each other, and she needs to be able to stay away so she can move on.

[Naroddrec]

Sounds like binding is needed, then.... and sounds like you will have plenty of emotion to put behind your working as well.

What I would suggest is getting an item that represents her and has her energy, get some white rope, and tie that item up nice and tight. I'd triple knot it at least. Obviously, do this in ritual and be very careful with how you do it...but I trust you can handle yourself. But, remember...that change usually "harms" at least one little thing. Be prepared before you do this.

[coeur]

Perhaps you should try some divination. It might show you some loophole you've missed?

[aranarose]

Perhaps you should try some divination. It might show you some loophole you've missed?

I do readings daily.

I really am at the point of last resort, and am simply looking for creative ideas to do this binding.

[Lunacie]

Spell to cool off an illicit relationship.

Items needed:
a white candle, a piece of white paper, a pen with red ink, a dish or plate, and 3 ice cubes. Also something to dig with.

The spell:
Light the candle. Write the name of your partner and your rival on the white paper. Draw a line between them. Put the paper in the dish and put three ice cubes in the dish on top of the paper and watch as the ice melts. The ice will cool the relationship between your partner and your rival. Snuff the candle out and bury the paper or throw it into running water.

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Spell to sever an illicit relationship.

Items needed:
a purple candle, a pear, a knife. Also something to dig with.

The spell:
Use the knife to inscribe your rival's name lengthwise on the candle. Light the candle. Cut the pear in half. Pears are ruled by the planet Venus, cutting the fruit symbolizes severing the relationship between your partner and your rival. Snuff the candle, to symbolize snuffing out the feelings they have for each other. Bury both halves of the pear separately as far apart as possible to indicate the final act of separation.

[MariThorn]

Something you need to realize is that when you bind someone, you also bind a part of them to yourself. You have to banish the person too, or they will still need you. You may make it where she doesn't "hurt" anyone, but it sounds like to me that her being there hurts more than anything. I would recommend a binding and banishing on the dark moon. The time to burn old bridges and start a new path. Follow it up with a rebuilding spell of sorts for your marriage.

They are right, if she doesn't want to be bound, to be corrected, she will fight this magic. Her very will alone will fight it, and she will come to her other lover for help. And you have admitted that you were that other person. You need to realize, that if you do a spell to make her not want him, she will then more than likely turn back to her other lover. Banishing her, sending her on her way to find a new love and new life without you both seems the best idea.

I would definitely do it on a dark or new moon. If you need any advice spellwise, then you can pm me, and I can try to help. I have done this myself (binding and banishing) a few times.

Good luck,
Mari

[Glory]

Perhaps a ritual that could help him see clearly. I don't think he'd still be undecided without the other woman's manipulation, so perhaps if you can help him see through it, he'll cut ties himself. A possibly safer route.

[aranarose]

Perhaps a ritual that could help him see clearly. I don't think he'd still be undecided without the other woman's manipulation, so perhaps if you can help him see through it, he'll cut ties himself. A possibly safer route.

We're actually supposed to do something like that tonight, if he ever comes home. I'm still waiting, though all his things are here, including his phone.

I had written a ritual to help us remove the blocks of anger and hurt that we are holding against each other, as well as for him to see clearly what reality is, whatever that may be.

[Glory]

We're actually supposed to do something like that tonight, if he ever comes home. I'm still waiting, though all his things are here, including his phone.

I had written a ritual to help us remove the blocks of anger and hurt that we are holding against each other, as well as for him to see clearly what reality is, whatever that may be.

:hugz: Good luck with it.

[Teresa]

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Spell to sever an illicit relationship.

Items needed:
a purple candle, a pear, a knife. Also something to dig with.

The spell:
Use the knife to inscribe your rival's name lengthwise on the candle. Light the candle. Cut the pear in half. Pears are ruled by the planet Venus, cutting the fruit symbolizes severing the relationship between your partner and your rival. Snuff the candle, to symbolize snuffing out the feelings they have for each other. Bury both halves of the pear separately as far apart as possible to indicate the final act of separation.


I have used this spell before and it works really well! Make sure to focus your intent when preparing for this and during the whole weaving.


Here are a couple more for you to look over that may help as well.

Stay Put Spell! To keep your man with you!

Cut a square from the center of the man's unwashed underwear. Take a hair from his comb and his fingernail clippings. Place them all in a jar. Scrape the bottom of a pair of shoes he wears often and place the residue in the jar (the amount doesnt matter). Urinate in the jar and seal it tightly. Hide it in a place where he won't find it.


Three's a Crowd Spell! To make your Lover's Ex Back Off!

Buy a doll or teddy bear with a soft body and name it after the person annoying you. Using a knife or scissors, rip the stuffing out of the stomach. Whisper in the doll's ear that is what will happen if they continue to harass your Lover. Blind the doll with duct tape and take it to a street running the opposite way of the street outside your home. Throw the doll in front of oncoming traffic and don't look back.


Remember to stay focused and direct your intentions. If you are good at visualization, envision you and your hubby working things out and the other person leaving him alone.

[aranarose]

Something you need to realize is that when you bind someone, you also bind a part of them to yourself. You have to banish the person too, or they will still need you. You may make it where she doesn't "hurt" anyone, but it sounds like to me that her being there hurts more than anything. I would recommend a binding and banishing on the dark moon. The time to burn old bridges and start a new path. Follow it up with a rebuilding spell of sorts for your marriage.

They are right, if she doesn't want to be bound, to be corrected, she will fight this magic. Her very will alone will fight it, and she will come to her other lover for help. And you have admitted that you were that other person. You need to realize, that if you do a spell to make her not want him, she will then more than likely turn back to her other lover. Banishing her, sending her on her way to find a new love and new life without you both seems the best idea.

I would definitely do it on a dark or new moon. If you need any advice spellwise, then you can pm me, and I can try to help. I have done this myself (binding and banishing) a few times.

Good luck,
Mari

The binding that I generally use in situations that call for it works as a sort of binding and banishing in one, to bind the person and to prevent them from returning.

I do find it highly unlikely that she would come to me for any sort of comfort, as she never really wanted to be with me in the first place. I found this out while overhearing an argument between her and my husband (before I broke it off between her and I) that the only reason she was sleeping with me was so that she might have a chance with him. She has not spoken to me in months, and at this point, would be foolish to try to do so.