If you walk away, I'll walk away

[coeur]

I slept with my ex-boyfriend's best friend. The best friend liked me. I liked the best friend. It wasn't out of malice for the ex-boyfriend.

My ex and I had stopped dating a month prior to me sleeping with the best friend. My ex found out from the best friend and won't talk to me. His best friend won't talk to me.

Dammit.

[Philosophia]

:hugz:

Your a free woman, you both made the choice. I honestly don't see an issue with it. Maybe your ex. is jealous?

[TheWomanMonster]

Do you want a intimate relationship with either of these people?
Or are you just mourning the loss of friendships with them?

If you don't want to be with them, then just shrug your shoulders and move on.

Good luck.

[coeur]

Do you want a intimate relationship with either of these people?
Or are you just mourning the loss of friendships with them?

If you don't want to be with them, then just shrug your shoulders and move on.

Good luck.

It's the friendship that I really miss. It's been three weeks since the excrement hit the air conditioning, and there's been scant a word from anyone. I want to save the friendships but no one will return my calls. I know I should have asked my ex about it first, but come on! Isn't this a bit extreme?

[TheWomanMonster]

Well whatever happens... enjoy what was and look forward to what will be.
Even if they choose not to be in your life anymore.

[Bettie]

Why should you have asked your ex first? You were a free woman, you didn't need his permission. It sounds like the friend is probably feeling trapped between you and loyalty to his friend.

If he won't return your calls, write him a letter. Or go visit him in person, and talk to him.

Good luck, I hope you get the outcome you were looking for.

[Lorrie]

There was plenty of time in between, and you did nothing wrong anyways! If it comes back to you, it is yours, if not, then move on. Let it play itself out. Stressful, yes, but time will tell.

[SSanf]

Phooey on the both of them. You have better things to do with your time than worrying about the likes of those two. Do those things.

[Garm]

It's the friendship that I really miss. It's been three weeks since the excrement hit the air conditioning, and there's been scant a word from anyone. I want to save the friendships but no one will return my calls. I know I should have asked my ex about it first, but come on! Isn't this a bit extreme?

I was always the type to end my relationships with a storm and a slam.

With some of my XGF's I couldn't be bothered with their presence if there wasn't any sex involved

And with ones who were worth it, whose company I appreciated in and of it self rather than a means to an end, it would take me months and months of healing before I would tentatively try to to reestablish a friendship. I just needed the break.

Sometimes I could make an amicable return. Sometimes it didn't work, leaving me with the question hanging over my head "Was I really that much of an asshole?" Now I just realize in those cases I was presenting an uncomfortable temptation to lapse back into previous mistakes.

Hhhhmmm....ones skill at self rationalization does improve with age

[Lauren Michele]

:hugz:

[AuroraMari]

Do some soul searching and find out what you really want. It sounds like if you really want to salvage the friendship, then sex can not be involved. For some, friends with benefits works out, but not for everyone. Sounds like some ground rules need to be set. If the best friend won't even speak to you, and he is just as guilty in the events, perhaps his feelings were not real.