a question of relationships...

[*ULA*]

Is anyone here with someone who is not Wiccan/Pagan?

My significant other, the absolute love of my life :), (we've been together almost 2 years! yah!)
is quite spiritual, but a cynic by nature.

He is more Christian than anything - and I am a new Wiccan - and I wonder what he thinks of all this?

(We don't get to communicate as intimately as we'd like, he is in the Navy, stationed in Connecticut, and I am in Florida :( )

I've told him alot about Wicca and Paganism and he says some of the rituals and ceremonies and sayings are beautiful..
But I still feel like he's not totally WITH me on this.. should I just stay open and risk freaking the poor boy out? :) or should I wait for him to come to me with questions..?

any advice is much appreciated.

i am such a fool in love :).

BB, ULA

[thundderwolf]

MM ULA:

I have to say that I am with someone who is wiccan, but I think I can still offer a possible solution. If your husband is a christian than by all rights he should fear you, being wiccan and all, LOL LOL. Sorry I couldnt resist the opportunity to rib a christian, ha ha. I think that you should definitely not hide the practice of your craft. I really think that if my love had of hidden her wiccan ways, I would not have had my own calling, or at least my quest for my 'true' self would have taken much longer or not at all. You never now what is in store for you. Maybe you were meant to show him the true way, and maybe not. Time will tell. I also beleive that if you were to try and force the issue you might push him away even further. Wicca and paganism in general, when practiced in its 'true' form is a way to happiness, show him this, let him see the love in your craft. It is quite alluring. In christianity they are tought to bow to 'him' and be good little drones. In paganism we are taught that we are at one with the gods, we are taught that we are actually equal to, if we live true to ourselves. We are honoring our lineage, those that came before. In this we love ourself and the joy one finds when they love themself is magnitromic (cool new word, I think).

This is getting long so I hope this helps you. I could rambble forever on this wonderous lifestyle. To be 'truly' happy is something that I'd never felt. When one lives true paganism one has no other alternative than being happy. My humble opinion.

[SahuaDjet]

Yes, I too live with someone who isnt a witch. My boyfriend (soon to be husband) has his own outlook on religion, although he started me out on wicca he doesnt completely agree with everything it has to offer. I have tried to discuss religion with him but its's so hard that Id rather just not discuss it at all. So sometimes "things are better left unsaid".

Sahu Djet

[*ULA*]

...for your input.

My honey (I sound so cheesy, oh well, lol), I think, really does have an affinity for wicca- he's so intuitive it's creepy at times. he has such a strong connection with the moon and heavens.. he studied astrology almost his whole life.. i wonder why he's never encountered wicca before. I feel like he has a very Wiccan soul, but I will never tell him that because I don't want him to ever feel like I'm pushing my decisions/beliefs on him. If he wants to know the Goddess this way, then he will.

I just wonder if it's possible to have a totally mutual wonderful relationship if two people adhere to religions so very contrasting?

I suppose it's times like this where you have to go with your gut feeling. And my gut feeling tells me I love him and not to screw it up. :) Thanks for the advice again.

*ULA*

[sherry]

I was married to a man that had no religion after 17 years old he had been forced to attend church and he and his 10 brothers were also volunteered to build there fathers church. After he left his parents home he never attended and to this day still does not. I have been on my path reading and attempting to understand all I find for 17 years now (since the first book). I was honest with him from day one. The craft is very strong in my family as he soon found out and even though he feared many of them he still married me.

You know I have no idea why I married him though!! Oh well thats a new subject entirely!!

He didn't understand most of what I was reading but i can tell you he would not eat at the dinningroom table or even walk into a room if i had one of my books or my tarot cards out! and there were never any candlelight dinners ever he wanted to know why it was lit!!

We were together for ten years and he never got used to it!! and now with our divorce pending he still asks if he has angered me in any way HEHEHE gotta love that part !!

[bluecat]

I find it amazing how you discover things about people. You are married to someone for a very long time and then suddenly they surprise you with something that has been withheld from you for many years. Or you think you know someone and then read something they have written and it sheds a whole new light on things, as if they were afraid to tell you something for whatever reason.

What I think I am trying to say here is that communication is very important and without it everything else is just working against the tide that will eventually wash you out to a very lonely sea if you are not very careful. Love the person, but don't forget to love yourself in the process, because if you can't love yourself it's very hard to love someone or let them love you. You feel as if you can't love or be loved when that happens.

If you have told him about what you are and he thinks some of the things sounds beautiful you are on the right track. Reinforce the beauty in things, but never hold back.

Sounds like you are doing it well, don't rush. Follow your heart.

Blue :cool:

[Dria El]

Originally posted by *ULA*
...for your input.

I just wonder if it's possible to have a totally mutual wonderful relationship if two people adhere to religions so very contrasting?

*ULA*

I don't see it that way at all. I guess I'm one of those rare few that really and truly with all her heart believes the 'all Gods are one God' thing. And as long as you talk to each other and remember that when it's all said and done, you really do love each other and everything else is workable, then you'll be ok. Once you've truly decided you want to be 'together forever', everything else is just details. Besides, you don't have to love every single thing about someone to love them forever. Got it? Goood! ;)

JMNSHO,
Dria El

[Ozymandias]

I know the feeling. My mate is a non-practicing Baptist. She has a christian veiw but doesn't really practice. I on the other hand am a die-hard Celt. My only advice is:
Love is all you need. John Lennon. Smart man. Shot in the back. Very sad.