2 things that i need advice on

[onespirit]

#1)
I'm in a long distance relationship with a man I met online.
I have known him now for about 8 months.
I went to stay with him in April and May.
He sent me back home so that he could concentrate on starting his own
business and works this job plus his regular job he has had now for awhile.
We hardly talk on the phone anymore and he says he doesn't know when he can see me again because of the business he is trying to get started, because of finances, and because he doesn't have much free time to do anything but work. So I'm wondering, is this what guys do to get their life together? Or is it something else? Any thoughts and advice on this situation are welcome, no matter what you all say, I am determined to handle the reality no matter what it is, it's just I don't know what it is...I'm very confused on this situation!? When he does call he will always say "I love you" to me!

#2) Today at work, the daughter of the employers came in and I was to leave at 4 she says "hello" to me and I blurt out, "I'll be leaving in just a few minutes, I just have to double check these emails before I leave" and she says "ok" and walks out....
Just wondering what she might be thinking from me blurting that out?!? Does she think I think she doesn't like me when I'm like "I'll be out of here in a few don't worry" plus, I tend to blush when women says guy's names because I was tortured in school about my blushing and I wouldn't want the women in the office to think I had a crush on any of the guys in the office :( Any advice? And the more I get nervous about not blushing the more I actually blush when a guy's name is mentioned because every action I used to do was verbally beaten on by peers and it just made me real shy and nervous in general, basically do people realize when a guys name is said and a girl blushes... that she really might not like the guy but is just uncomfortable with talking about him!?????

As you can see I tend to worry about all the little things like #2 as well as big things like relationships #1
I'm a worry wort quite honestly!

[imapepper]

1) The only way you'll know what he's thinking or feeling on his end of the bargain is if you ask directly, tell him you feel that you're growing apart with the lack of communication and what that means for you two in the long run. I have to say though, when it comes to love, nothing can come between two people, and although I was in an identical situation as you are with my now husband, he still went out of his way to make room for me in his life. It was a hectic time in his life, but he did everything in his power for us to be together despite the stress. Words are cheap and easy, look at his actions, and decide from there.

2) Who cares what they think! I mean really, sometimes I blush at the most awkward moments without realizing it, but how everyone interprets that is their problem, I don't make it mine and you shouldn't either. People will think what they want regardless of your explanations anyway, we can't control how people judge us, so don't worry about it!

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[onespirit]

Thank you so much for your reply!
The advice on the blushing is the best I ever received on my blushing condition others just say "don't worry about it!" So your advice on this really calmed me down not to worry about it! You are right, it really is their problem how they want to interpret it! *Hugs*



1) and although I was in an identical situation as you are with my now husband, he still went out of his way to make room for me in his life. It was a hectic time in his life, but he did everything in his power for us to be together despite the stress.

Wow hun, you were in an identical situation! Did your husband live far away while he was trying to get financially stable? How often did you get to see him when this situation was present in your lives?

Thanks again on your reply *Hugs*

[imapepper]

Did your husband live far away while he was trying to get financially stable? How often did you get to see him when this situation was present in your lives?

Thanks again on your reply *Hugs*

My husband was in another country! I'm here in Mexico now with him, I'm a California transplant. How often did we see each other? Try, never! We had never met in person (we met on MySpace) and then moved in together, few months later got married, and now we're pregnant. Everyone tells us how much of a fairytale romance we have, but I'm no fool, and neither is he, we know we got lucky, it doesn't work out this way for a lot of people.

It was crazy, I mean the whole world told us we were nuts, but when it's meant to be, it's meant to be. My husband told me he didn't care what we had to do to be together, he even said he'd move to Timbuktu if that's where I wanted us to go and basically vowed to cross the ends of the earth for me. I know, disgusting right? :lol:

Yes, he was trying to get financially stable and he was suffering from some health problems (poor thing), but admist all that we got together and it's been smooth sailing since.

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