What to do, What to do????

[WitchEePoo]

I just found out that my brother has cheated on my sister in law,I feel so bad for her , I also know that my bro loves her very much and that he would never do anything to hurt her in any way!! I know that he was totally drunk and he gets so out of it that he cant remember anything! I hope this doesnt sound like excuses for him, thats not what it is!! I just know that he truly loves his wife. I'm just not sure what to do for her, she has gone through a time of serious depression and I know that this is going to have an effect on her.Does anyone have any spells or anything I can do to help her, burn candles, anything!? I know that things will be hard for them if she decides to stay w/him, I told her I wouldn't stick around, but thats just me, its hard to know what to do when its your own family and my family has been through alot!! My heart hurts for her! IM, PM or Email me.... I'm courious to hear from you with some suggestions.... Goddess Bless to you all.

[Flar's Freyja]

Any basic healing candle spell will do, along with hugs and being there for her. You mention that you're aware that he has an alcohol problem. You might consider confronting him and doing an intervention.

[Faery-Wings]

Please don't take this harshly because I don't mean it that way at all. But remember that it is their marriage and try to stay as objective as possible and offer advice/help/opinions only when asked. I say this because I went through this with my best friend, who has cheated on her husband both before and after they were married. I was devastated as being faithful is very important to me and my husband. However, her husband knows about it and it just isn't a big deal. It took me a while to learn to just listen and keep my own values and judgements out of it.

I wouldn't know of any spells as I am not much in doing complex spells. I think a healing candle spell as Freyja suggested would be good. Perhaps you could get some crystals for them to carry, for self confidence (agate, carnelian, tigers eye) love and comfort (rose quartz, moonstone) and protection/dispel negativity (smoky quartz, apache tear).

I also think that if his drinking is a problem (by my accounts, I'd say it is), some sort of intervention/counseling for him and her would be helpful.

Good luck to all of you. I know this is a very difficult time for all of you. Feel free to pm me if you need to talk more.

((HUG))

Chris

[Yvonne Belisle]

It sounds like they may both need some counciling. Her for her depression and him for his alcohol. Remember that if he does have a problem with alcohol untill he admits it to himself and is willing to change it all the therapy in the world won't fix it. As an exalcoholic I know that first hand. She is going to need to work through her feelings and decide what she wants to do. The best thing may just be for you to be an ear and a shoulder. It's really hard to give advice on something like this because each case is different. I will light a candle for them both. A healing spell would probably not hurt as has already been suggested.

[WitchEePoo]

Thank you so much~ I have decided to burn healing candles for them and just let it run it course with them. I talked to them late last night and they are going to work things out and my bro realizes that he has some issues that he needs and is ready to work through and my sis in law is going back on her depression meds. Goddess Bless them and you who have replied, Thank you so much~~
Brightest Blessings~ Lisa:)

[Yvonne Belisle]

I'm glad to hear that. It is not an easy thing to face up to having problems I am very happy to hear that they are going to work on them and they are lucky to have someone who cares so much supporting them. :)

[Flar's Freyja]

:) Recognizing and taking ownership for a problem is the first step to resolving it.....so happy to hear that. Blessings to all of you.

[Faery-Wings]

Ditto to what Yvonne and Freyja said :) What they are doing is the best thing they can do in this situation. Either ignoring the problems or reacting over-emotionally will not solve anything.

I am glad they know they have you standing behing them.

Blessings to all of you.

Chris

[MammaStar]

Just my opinion. I know if either of my bro's did that, I'd be giving them an A$$ kicking. Other than that, I wouldn't get too involved. But that's me. I'm close enough with both of them and their wives that it would be a very difficult situation for everyone involved. and there would be NO WAY that they would NOT hear my opinion on the matter.

But that's me, being the annoying, yet lovalbe sister I am. :D