I need some huggles :'(

[Sorcha2007]

:wth: Okay for a kind of backgroud story, I am in a Individual Sports class at my public high school. For the class we kayak, golf, bowl, and bike. We have to profide our own Kayaks for the first month of class and i needed it by Mon. but now the teacher is saying that it would be better if we could get them all in by tomorrow. Well i had a person that i said i could use his but he called me today and said that he wouldn't be able to get it to me for a few weeks because he was going on a trip and his wife and him wanted to kayak down a river.

Well, you see, my grandmother and I live togeather and it is just us here and she is retired and i am in school so we don't have a lot of money. Since the man who said i could use his backed out i didn't have one. My grandmother came in here eailer and told me we where going to buy one that she had found one for 300 dollars. We got into a huge fight because i said i wasn't going to let her pay 300 dollars for something for my school when she just spent almost 200 dollars on my school supplies and we are already short on money. I told her that i would drop the class instead and she got mad and told me that i wasn't dropping the class. It started a huge fight between us and she left with my aunt to go and buy the kayak against my wishes. Please i need some huggles. I am so upset...I don't want this to be going on between us.

Please and Thank you,
Sorcha

[yarrow_elfglow]

*huggles*

[Sorcha2007]

Thank you :) I appreshate(wow can't spell) it

[blackroseivy]

It's hard when you conflict with your elders, especially when it's about something that concerns you & you feel that YOU must be the "responsible" one...

Perhaps you are taking too much on yourself. You can't control what your gm does with the money in the house, anyway - so perhaps just calm down, Zen out, & allow her to make her own decisions.

I'm sure it's because you feel guilty. Don't. Your education right now is the most important thing for everyone - I'm sure your gm takes that view. Try not to get all balled up in responsibilities that really shouldn't be gripping you so hard at this phase of your life - though I do deeply commend you for wanting so much to be responsible.

Trying to take control of your life at your age is very, very tough & goes on for quite a while (sometimes it never really ends!!). I am hoping for the best for you, & that you can relax & let others do for you on occasion without it being a major issue & guilt-trip for you.

(((((((((((((((((((((HUGZ)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

[Sorcha2007]

Thank you so much, i'm trying to calm down by the time she gets home. I'll thank her and tell her we can go out some time (I hope i can kayak when i am 70 like her!) She is all i really have left with my parents gone. I hate having conflict with her, i just didn't like the thought of it. I do have to admit though i am excited that i get to stay in the class, i've never been kayaking before!

[blackroseivy]

There you go - definitely better. Perhaps it's not all bad. ;)

[Cassie]

For you and you Grandmother, :huddle: :huddle: :huddle: :huddle:

[Sorcha2007]

Thank you Cassie :). Yes I have calmed down quiet a bit i was just upset about the fight, we do tend to fight but we dont scream at each other. I don't think i've ever been that upset with someone. :( I just lost my temper which doesn't happen often.

[blackroseivy]

Aw, I so know what you mean - I NEVER get mad... unless I am around my sister!! :( She has this AMAZING temper - & takes things out on me to the point where I just cannot cope... It got me thrown out of her house & I was homeless for a while, & this was like the 1 time I got mad enough to be on the offensive...

If you don't shout, etc., that is a VERY good sign - you have a much healthier communication style than pretty much anyone in MY house (except me - I HATE shouting)!

[Sorcha2007]

I do also, I usually don't shout at anyone no matter who they are or what they've said.

[wolfjan1]

:hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz:
It appears that your grandmother wants to see you suceed. So, perhaps keeping your grades up, keeping your social life legal and kind, and helping her do things around the house without her asking, Oh, don't forget, tell her you love her. And mean it.
That will help. Don't fight with her about it. Thank her VERY kindly and tell her you appreciate her support. Sometimes her grandchild means more than money. That's the message.

[Annorah]

:hugz:

Your grandmother obviously wants to do this for you so please let her - I am sure that it will give her a great deal of pleasure and satisfaction to enable you to continue your course.

More :hugz: for both of you!

[Lorrie]

Grandmothers love to help out this way, believe me! Make sure to give her lots of extra hugs and smiles!:hehehehe:

[Sorcha2007]

Thank you all so so much, it means a lot to me. Now that i've calmed down and really thought about it i realized she noticed how much i loved the class, i talk about it all the time.

wolfjan1 - :) Thanks for the advice I try to help her out as much as i can, she wont let me work in the summer because i have soccer and she doesn't want me to have to give up that and i am so thankful that she puts me first and lets me live and do what i want. I leave her little notes all the time in her office saying that i love her and i tell her in the morning before i go to school, when i get some money i take her out to dinner...little things like that. I really am thankful for all the things she has done for me.

[blackroseivy]

It's good that you have the lines of communication so open - keep it up!! :D

[Sorcha2007]

Well, she got the kayak it was 300 dollars, for the paddle and everything, and i do like it. I am excited to use it and now i am upset that i pitched a fit. Thanks to everyone who gave some advice!

[willa]

I have a feeling that you weren't angry with your grandmother but angry about the situation & lashed out at your gm. I'm sure your gram knows that & also knew that once you calmed down you would feel differently. Be sure to talk to her about it & it will all work out.
(((Hugs)))

[Glowy]

let me know if have any questions. I kayak several times a year. I love it!! I was raised ny my gramma too !! I'am glad you are feeling better!:)

[Sorcha2007]

I got it to school today, and i was really excited :D