Just needed to get this off my shoulders

[KaidaMidnight]

Our family has recently moved to a new state. Family helped us out, but we feel as if we can't get ahead. Anyone else ever feel this way? Hubby found some jobs, but they are all at least an hour and 15 mins away from where we are staying. We dont' have our own place, and have little money coming in at the moment. I'm pregnant, and we dont' have health insurance, not to mention that the jobs that hubby has found do not offer insurance for the family, just for him. And most insurance companies we've found consider the pregnancy a pre-existing condition, so they won't cover us either. I just feel that everything is crumbling around us. I've cried for the last 2 days in the shower, because I'm trying to be strong, but I just don't know what to do anymore.

I just needed to get that out, and figured that this was a good place to vent. I don't expect anyone to reply, but it has felt good to get it out in the open and off my chest.

[Nitefalle]

I have not personally been in that situation, but know others who have been in very similar spots. My heart goes out to you and your family....I hope that, some way, you can get everything you need to move ahead. It is sooooo hard to relocate (I have done that) and it can be so scary, especially when you don't know where anything is and don't know where to begin. Positive energies sent.

[imapepper]

:hugz:

The good thing about tough times is that they never last long! Everything passes, and this will too. Hang in there, try to focus on the positive. You have a wonderful family, you're all healthy, your baby is doing great. Those are great things! You're so blessed.


I understand your frustration though, and how scary your situation feels because of the instability. Life is never a guarantee though! Things are never certain, even when we feel they are. That's what I always tell myself when I'm in a situation like yours, and it helps.

I hope things get better quickly hon! I'll keep you in my prayers.

:smile:

[Brightshores]

I know how hard it is to move - I've moved halfway across the world more times than I care to remember, and no matter how good the move is in the long run, it's really hard, especially when you're finally settling down in the new place.

Sending you :hugz: and good wishes for things to work out better than you can imagine right now!! :hugz:

[Annorah]

Sending you and your husband positive and strengthening energies along with a big :hugz:

[wolfjan1]

:adidas: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :fpompoms :fpompoms :fpompoms
Positive energies sent and I will light a candle for your husband to find a job.
In the meantime, know that the folks here are behind you.

[DreamSpell333]

We are going to be in a similar situation soon. Were moving to NH,and will be living with my parents for a few weeks. My husband hasnt found a job yet,although he's been in contact with one security agency. I am going to be looking for work too.. Were not sure how much we will have $$ wise for the move either... My father in law is paying for the uhaul truck,but we have to provide the gas and pay for the remainder of the uhaul so we can pick it up early. (hopefully his father will reimburse that since he'll be paying for the truck..) So we dont have any $$ put aside for an apartment.

:hugz: to you. I hope things start to look up for you.

[RavensEye]

I can relate to what your going through :hugz:

[Tullip Troll]

((((((((((((huge HUGS)))))))) the dips in our lives nnever come at a good time. I am sending lots of ove for you and some for hubby's success.

Looking back on all my dark moments, I see for me it was always when the universe was hard steering me in the direction I needed to go in.

If you need any baby stuff let us know, I bet there are a lot of us here that could and would put together a little care box for you.

[Coinin]

Take a deep breath, and relax. It's going to be fine, trust me. Problems sove themselves most of the time, so don't worry. It and make them a thousand times larger and more difficult than they have to be, and you do not need that. Not know.
Let's see, you've moved to a new place. I am sure there are soem friendly people there who are more than willing to welcome you all.
Take one moment at the time, enjoy them, and survive the next. Deal with the problems as they come along, not before. And I am sure your little family will be more than fine. Just wait and see.

[KaidaMidnight]

Thank you all so much for your words, energies and prayers. Reading these I see that I'm not alone, and it is encouraging. It's made the day a little better starting out. :)

Good Luck on your move DS. This seems to be a time of change for a lot of people.

I feel a little better knowing that we aren't the only ones that have gone through or are going through this.

:hugz: to all of you, and may the rest of your day be blessed!

[DreamSpell333]

Thank you all so much for your words, energies and prayers. Reading these I see that I'm not alone, and it is encouraging. It's made the day a little better starting out. :)

Good Luck on your move DS. This seems to be a time of change for a lot of people.

I feel a little better knowing that we aren't the only ones that have gone through or are going through this.

:hugz: to all of you, and may the rest of your day be blessed!



Thanks Kaida! :) I hope your husband finds work soon! :hugz:

[Morr]

Kaida, I know all about being pregnant with no insurance.

In the midst of my pregnancy hubby changed jobs -- from a crappy paying job with GREAT insurance, to a GREAT paying job with NO insurance.

This job did offer him insurance, but to add me would be an extra $700 a month (!!!). No way we could afford that!

So we paid for my prenatal care, had no other choice, we somehow managed.

As for the hospital stay -- Scarlet is covered by the state her automatically as a newborn (we live in PA). For me, since I am still going through an immigration procedure, there was no coverage. The day I went into labor we came in and said we will be paying, so to bill us. We figured we will work it out later with the hospital.

A few days after I gave birth, financial assistance called from the hospital. We filled out forms for financial assistance and medical coverage. They are trying to pass my coverage as an emergancy -- Something the state DOES cover immigrants who do not yet have a green card. So crossing fingers there.

Ya gotta do what ya gotta do. I remember the fear of being pregnant with no insurance. I would cry for hours and hours.

At the end of the day, when I went into labor and came to the hospital -- Nobody asked Qs. They just asked how we are paying, and I said we are self paying, and to bill us. They said ok and I haven't heard about it till financial assistance calling us a few days after we got home from the hospital.

Know that the hospital will accept you when you go into labor. So no worries there. And when they bill you, they bill you.

And hey, there is always medical assistance. I know welfare is not the greatest, but if their medical program covers you and your kids, especially with the pregnancy, I say go ahead. We tried it, but it didn't work out because of my immigration procedure not being complete yet.

*hugs*

I totally TOALLY sympathize.

[KaidaMidnight]

I wasn't worried about the hospital, as I know that they have to take me.... and I wasn't too worried about the doctor visits, as they did all the tests already when we had insurance.. so I can *probably* get away with not going for the next month and a half.

We can't get state help, as we JUST moved to the state and they say you need to be here a certain amount of time (most states do... I'll have to check more into it).

Things seem to be getting better, but I still have this doubt. Randy got offered a couple of jobs, not much better in pay (he was maknig a LOT more in VA) but they do have insurance for the family... just doesn't start for 90 days. Hopefully he will get the job here in town, so he doesn't have to drive an hour one way to work each day.

*sighs*

[Morr]

*hugs*

I understand completely.

If I were you, I'd check anyways with the state as you are pregnant. Maybe they have special guidelines for pregnancy? How long do you have to wait for the state insurance to kick in? I would assume its more or less of a wait like with your hubby's prospective jobs' insurance.

Either way, lots of hugs to you.

[Chaos Hawk]

I can tell you I've been there, right in that same situation. I've had plenty of weeks where I had to deal with feeding a family of 4 with $20 to last two weeks and it took me 6 months to get a job. I know how draining and exhausting and stressful it is. I wish you the best. I am sure that things will look up for you. Depending on what state you are in, many have state run health insurance for expectant moms. It's not the greatest but it helps. Better than nothing anyway. My grandmother always tells me "This too shall Pass." I know it sounds lame, but nothing can last forever. You can always talk to me if you like. I will be glad to listen if that would help you at all. Wishing you luck.