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Philosophia
October 15th, 2007, 10:00 AM
October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. For all who have felt the loss, you are in my prayers and I have lit a candle in remembrance.


Did You Know?

* 983,000 babies died in 1996, from miscarriage and stillbirth.

* In 1995, 15.7% of pregnancies ended in fetal demise, miscarriage or stillbirth.

* Those figures don't include neonatal loss, SIDS, or other causes.*

*According to The Center for Disease Control Trends in Pregnancies and Pregnancy Rates by Outcome Vital Health Stat (21)56 done in January 2000

Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day is to promote Support, Education and Awareness for grieving parents nationwide (and worldwide).

Too many families grieve in silence, sometimes never coming to terms with their loss. Our goal is to help others relate to our loss, know what to say, do or not say, not do and to help families live with their loss, not "get over" their loss.

From http://www.october15th.com/

Agaliha
October 15th, 2007, 11:55 AM
Also, for more resources, my old post in this thread (http://www.mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=13130&page=6) has some links:




Remembering Lost Babies (http://rds.yahoo.com/_ylt=A0geutXyr7hERXsAlThXNyoA;_ylu=X3oDMTE2bmVkczQ3BGNvbG8DZQRsA1dTMQRwb3MDMQRzZWMDc3IEdnRpZANGNTYxX zc5/SIG=12h1563jb/EXP=1153040754/**http%3a//www.conceivingconcepts.com/learning/articles/0018.html) This has 9 ideas
Ways We Have Remembered Our Babies (http://rds.yahoo.com/_ylt=A0geutXyr7hERXsAnzhXNyoA;_ylu=X3oDMTE2YmI2ZG9oBGNvbG8DZQRsA1dTMQRwb3MDMwRzZWMDc3IEdnRpZANGNTYxX zc5/SIG=120oal5nk/EXP=1153040754/**http%3a//www.mend.org/newsletters/vol2iss1.htm) people's personal accounts
Remembering Our Babies (http://october15th.wahmweb.biz/Store/Default.asp)
To Mother with Love: Healing for Pregnancy Loss (http://rds.yahoo.com/_ylt=A0geupXKsLhEKnAA48pXNyoA;_ylu=X3oDMTE3ZWdhdW1lBGNvbG8DZQRsA1dTMQRwb3MDMTcEc2VjA3NyBHZ0aWQDRjU2M V83OQ--/SIG=11rosvptg/EXP=1153040970/**http%3a//www.mama2mama.org/ourangels.html)
The Newly Bereaved (http://www.aheartbreakingchoice.com/newly.html)
Remembering Our Babies, Pregnancy Loss Support - Official Site of Pregnancy & Infant Loss Rememberance Day October ... (http://rds.yahoo.com/_ylt=A0geurVWsbhEPfYA09pXNyoA;_ylu=X3oDMTE2NGxyYXNhBGNvbG8DZQRsA1dTMQRwb3MDNQRzZWMDc3IEdnRpZANGNTYxX zc5/SIG=11fnct8i7/EXP=1153041110/**http%3a//www.october15th.com/)
A Place To Remember (http://www.kinderstart.com/frame_for_links.php?redirect=http://www.APlaceToRemember.com)Support materials for those who have been touched by a crisis in pregnancy such as bed rest, premature birth or NICU infants, or the death of a baby--miscarriage, stillbirth, infant death, or SIDS
Baby Bunny (http://www.kinderstart.com/frame_for_links.php?redirect=http://www.babybunny.net)
Coping with the Emotional Aspects of Pregnancy Loss (http://www.kinderstart.com/frame_for_links.php?redirect=http://www.inciid.org/mismanl.html)
Pregnancy Loss (http://www.kinderstart.com/frame_for_links.php?redirect=http://www.childbirth.org/articles/pregnancy/Loss.html)
Remembering Baby (http://www.kinderstart.com/frame_for_links.php?redirect=http://pregnancy.about.com/health/pregnancy/library/weekly/aa120699a.htm)
Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society (http://www.kinderstart.com/frame_for_links.php?redirect=http://www.uk-sands.org)
Remembering Our Babies Miscarriage and Infant Loss Peer Support and Referral (http://www.kinderstart.com/frame_for_links.php?redirect=http://www.rememberingourbabies.com)
Shared Journey (http://sharedjourney.com/loss.html) Useful information in detecting possible pregnancy loss, reasons for it, and coping with it.
Baby Loss Comfort (http://www.babylosskit.com/) Information, products and resources dealing with miscarriage, pregnancy loss, stillbirth, sudden infant death syndrome and infertility.
Pregnancy After A Loss (http://www.pregnancyafteraloss.com/)
Joshua's Boxes (http://www.joshuasboxes.co.uk/) charity dedicated to helping gather memories of a lost baby.
A Butterfly's Touch (http://www.abutterflystouch.org/) Non-profit corporation whose purpose is to provide support and mementos to parents experiencing infant loss.
Faith's Loss Support Pages (http://www.geocities.com/babyangelfaith2001/index.html) Offering poems, suggested reading, and ideas of ways to memorialize a child lost.
Angel Babies (http://130.95.13.25/~corrin/) Support site for miscarriage, eptopic pregnancies, and stillbirth. Stories, poetry, message boards, and access to support networks.
Precious Memories & Keepsakes (http://www.geocities.com/precious_memories_uk/index)There are also many books about this subject as well.

Ceres
October 15th, 2007, 12:17 PM
Thank you for posting that. I didnt know there was an official day for mourning pregnancy or infant loss. I think sometimes people dont like to talk about these things because they dont want to make pregnant parents worry, but it really can be a difficult thing for mourning parents to have to deal with in silence.

RainInanna
October 15th, 2007, 12:27 PM
Thanks for sharing.

Flux
October 15th, 2007, 04:12 PM
Thank you for sharing and remembering. :hugz: As someone who has endured four early losses and recently delivered an angel at almost 16 weeks gestation, this day is quite meaningful for me.

Chemical pregnancy 8/05; blighted ovum 8w 12/06; miscarriage 6w4d 4/06; chemical pregnancy 8/06
You are never far from my thoughts my four.

~River Muir born an angel on August 28, 2007~
I love you tiny lost one. And I will miss you until we meet again.

halfwaynowhere
October 15th, 2007, 05:49 PM
today is two weeks since my sister's second miscarriage. she was 6 weeks the first time, twelve weeks the second time.

Ravenna Angellin
October 15th, 2007, 06:10 PM
My best friend lost her son almost 2 years ago in April. She was 20 weeks, and didn't know the signs of preterm labor. I wish she would have called me... but by the time she went in, they couldn't do anything. Her son was born by emergency c-section, and lived for 20 minutes. She was under the anesthetic, and never got a chance to hold him while he lived.

The loss was felt by us all. He was my Godson, and was sooo beautiful. I never knew about a special day of mourning before. Thank you for sharing. And to all the other Moms and Dads here who have lost little ones, my thoughts are with you.


Peace and Blessings,
~ Ravenna

Amethyst Rose
October 15th, 2007, 06:27 PM
A lady on my baby forum just lost her son yesterday. He was born in April, 4 weeks early and suffered from bowel problems all his short life. He went through 8 surgeries (that I know of) and weighed around 7lbs when he passed.

My prayers and thoughts go out to all who have lost their little ones.

wolfjan1
October 15th, 2007, 06:33 PM
:hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :hugz: :huddle: :huddle: :huddle: To all of you mothers who have suffered losses, you are remembered. To all of the little Angels, may you find joy in the arms of The Great Mother.

Willow Rosette
October 15th, 2007, 07:23 PM
Philosophia, for all the motherers who will read and not respond because it breaks their heart to remember. Thank you :hugz:

Mama J
October 15th, 2007, 10:57 PM
For all those that have lost a little one, many prayers to you and yours!! I am so sorry for your loss. To the little ones may you find joy and comfort on the other side.

Tanya
October 16th, 2007, 05:32 AM
I didn't know of such a thing either... I have been watching season 6 of sex in the city, ...Charlootte has always been my favorite....and the episode where she miscarries really got me....
I can't say I even considered greiving over mine this August.. since it was a a surprize pregnancy during an aweful time in my marriage....I had no intention of aborting, but I REALLY was freaked...

am I even allowed to grieve under such circumstances?

I don't even know.

Ceres
October 16th, 2007, 07:06 AM
am I even allowed to grieve under such circumstances?

I don't even know.

You are allowed to feel however you feel. Sometimes I wonder why western culture has such trouble with ambiguity.

Just because you feel more able to let the life growing inside you go doesnt mean you will never wish it couldnt be otherwise. Just because you werent ready or willing to let it go doesnt mean there arent times you dont feel relief that it didnt happen after all.

When I had my first miscarrage I railed against god for months. It was the catalyst, in fact, that caused me to leave catholocism. Looking back nearly twenty years later, the loss of that very much wanted baby makes more sense now, both for the baby and for me.

Bettie
October 16th, 2007, 07:18 AM
To all those affected by this, my thoughts are with you. My son was stillborn five years ago (fullterm gestation) and I think about him every day. At the time the pregnancy was unexpected - I was young, and the father pretty much deserted me the minute he found out I was pregnant... but losing my son still devastated me. Just because a child was not expected, or it came at a bad time, doesn't lessen the grief you are entitled to feel.

:hugz:

Flux
October 16th, 2007, 12:21 PM
Just some {{{Hugs}}}

Tanya, You will feel however you feel...and you absolutely have the right!

Athena-Nadine
October 16th, 2007, 12:43 PM
Thank you for posting that. I didnt know there was an official day for mourning pregnancy or infant loss. I think sometimes people dont like to talk about these things because they dont want to make pregnant parents worry, but it really can be a difficult thing for mourning parents to have to deal with in silence.
It can be very difficult, especially since it seems that so many people think that losing a pregnancy in early gestation isn't supposed to be something to grieve over.

WitchOfEndor
October 16th, 2007, 10:58 PM
I'm so glad that they've made a day to remember all the little ones that have been lost & for the parents who will forever grieve. I had twins at 28 weeks gestation, they fought so hard but sadly did'nt make it. They will be sweet 16 in November. I've lost many babies earlier on & would be the Mama of many children plus my 2 living children. I think of all my little angels often & imagine what they would be like when I see children that would be about their age now. The heart ache never goes away but you get used to it & I try everyday to live my life in a way that would make all my little angels proud. It was an honor to be their Mama, even if ever so briefly. All my little ones have made me a better person & blessed me with their presence.

Blessings & prayers to all the lost babies & their parents.

mephistopheles
October 22nd, 2007, 03:15 PM
A lady on my baby forum just lost her son yesterday. He was born in April, 4 weeks early and suffered from bowel problems all his short life. He went through 8 surgeries (that I know of) and weighed around 7lbs when he passed.


What was the name, do you know? I have a distant cousin who's son fits that bill :(

Tanya
October 22nd, 2007, 03:43 PM
you know I was thinking about the past, the human past not my own, of all the childhood diseases we are spared....

the world must be thick with tiny little graves