Ideas About a Reading I Did For Myself

[Scarlett O]

I focused on the question of my relationship with a man that is very important to me. I shuffled the cards, and thought of him and I.

The way that I chose the cards was to cut them 4 times. The first cut was the 10 of Cups, the second: The Emperor, the third: 5 of Cups (R), and the fourth: 9 of cups.

To me it seemed really good...But, I was just wondering what y'all thought. My interpretations still come from a book, so any insight would be great.

Thanks,

Mary

[Myst]

Hm I would be interested to know specifically what you got from it. For instance, is he the Magician to you? Also were the positions of the card specific (ie. past/present/future/general) or..?

Other then that lots of cups which is good, especially the 10.

[Mithrea]

Yes, were you using a specific layout? If so, what are the positions? I agree with Myst, the 10 of cups is really good for a relationship question. I like that the 9 was in there also. Could you also tell us if you read reversed cards (which it seems you do) and how you read them as opposed to upright? I would also like to know how you think on the Emperor in a relationship reading (which I think Myst asked).

[Myst]

oops I meant emperor not magician heh :)

[Scarlett O]

I wasn't really focusing on a specific layout...I guess I just wanted them to tell me a story.

The Emperor threw me. (A lot of the Higher Arcana throws me. It seems so...obscure. Some of it is pretty self-explanitory, but others, I'm lost.) I know that The Emperor can represent myself and or things around me, things that are basically out of my control (?) Things or people of authority (?) Getting "male" type cards in my readings always throw me. Does it mean that I need to be more like him or does it mean that I already am like him and need to back off? I don't understand men in general so trying to act like one...Just joking.

My guy owns his own business, but he's younger than me. He also has 2 kids. Could he be The Emperor?

5 (R) I read it as a sadness that has passed and good things/lessons are to come from it.

[Myst]

I suspect it has nothing to do with who should be acting like who :) If he seems more mature to you in that he's had more life experiences or just seems more serious (and it sounds like it since you mention his company and kids), and appears strong it sounds like the emperor represents him. It could say that he is a strong authority figure and a powerful man, but with all the cups is also still loving. I'd say it was a very good reading.

[Scarlett O]

Whew...

Thanks, I never really trust my readings for myself. The funny thing is that I'm really fairly acurate with my friends.

This is off topic a bit, but it does go along with being comfortable with reading in general...Are some people just "easier" to read or is it my imagination?

One of my girlfriends is so easy, (to read :lol: ) I can read for her over the phone. I've been so "on" in the past that it has kinda freaked her out. She only asks me to read for her when she's really stuck, now. At first I thought that it was easy for me to read for her because I knew her so very well. But, she's been to "others" and they were dead on as well.

My other girlfriend, is almost impossible to read for...Her readings always seem very obscure or cryptic. Like it's a riddle that I'm supposed to sort out. She always just looks at me with this blank "duh" face...I look back at her with a blank "duh" face...

I was just wondering if y'all had run into anything like that. My second girlfriend makes me nervous about reading for someone I don't know. If I can't read for her, when I know her so well, how could I possibly read for a stranger? Is it easier with strangers?

[Myst]

I suppose it had to do with the message meant for the person, how willing the person is to take it, or how easily a person gets their messages in general. For instance some people learn very easily lessons they have to, and some have to be reminded and taught again and again.. Also perhaps one is more spiritually open to those messages, or maybe just more spiritually ready for them, or maybe the specific messages aren't ready to come yet..

I guess it could be a lot of reasons, these are just my ideas :)

It's not unusual for readings for one's self to be harder. Our own hopes and fears get in the way, and we don't trust our intuition either. We second guess ourselves too. So it can be very difficult to see an answer one way or the other, tho tarot cards can help you with issues to consider.

[Scarlett O]

You have been very helpful, and I really appreciate it. I'm still trying to get used to the tarot. I had a deck many years ago...they just disappeared...to this day I have no idea as to what happened to them. But, I love my new deck (The Cosmic Tarot) it's just so pretty. And, I guess my impatience with having them "talk" to me sometimes gets the best of me.

Yes, Temperance and I are like this...***crossed fingers*** A lesson I keep reminding myself that I need to learn.

I just like my cards so much, and I want them to like me, too.

Mary...now feeling like the little geek girl wanting to hang with the popular crowd...Please, please like me! ;)

Anyway...

Thank you again

~Mary

[Mithrea]

I just want to add my thoughts on some of this. I find certain types of people harder to read than others. I find males harder to read because (I think) they tend to be more guarded and perhaps, a bit less open (no offense guys :D). I find people my age far easier to read than people who are much younger or older than me. I think younger people are still in emotional flux and that makes it difficult to pin them down so I try and be more open ended with what I say to them. I describe tendencies rather than paths (if that makes sense). With older people, I really try harder to respond to what they are telling me and I apply it to what the card are telling me rather than the other way around -- which is what I normally do -- I apply what I see to what I hear. With older people I give preference to what I hear.

But with people my age, I start pulling cards and I just know instantly. Those readings always go really fast and easy and I get the best responses. I also find it's easier to read strangers than people close to me because just like my feelings and opinions get in the way of reading myself, they also get in the way a little when reading for my friends.

I hope I didn't confuse you more. I think Myst already did a really good job of helping with your reading :D I agree completely. :)

[Scarlett O]

Confuse me more? Not possible... :lol:

Actually what you said makes a lot of sense. I totally agree with you and trying to read for men. Tip on reading for men: They're easier when they've been drinking. Not smashed, but loose. That's the only time I've gotten close with a "male" reading.

I hope that I'll be able to become as "in tune" as you all seem. The funny thing is that ever since I got my tarot deck, my "regular" cards have been calling me. Do you think they're jealous. They were my only "source" after all for 6 years.

[Myst]

Just a note, some people won't use tarot cards when intoxicated, period. I won't, for one. But I'm glad it works for you.

[Mithrea]

I think you are probably just missing the comfort of them since you probably know them better.

As far as getting comfortable with them, you might want to join in our card discussions. Here are the links so you can catch up :D

Fool (http://www.mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16372)

Magician (http://www.mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16505)

High Priestess (http://www.mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16782)

Empress (http://www.mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=17031)

I think Flaire has a good approach. She mediates on each card before she posts. You might try that ;)

[Scarlett O]

I wasn't drinking when I read for him, and I never thought about the fact that he had been drinking until after. I then realized that it was the closest reading I'd ever done for a man, and then I thought that it was probably because he had been drinking. I just thought that it probably opened him up more.

I know you shouldn't use the cards when you've been drinking, although I must confess for myself...I've done it. It was always a jumbled mess...go figure. ;) Therefore, I wouldn't recommend it either.