Cnfession of a Bad Mommy moment

[Athena-Nadine]

I was a Bad Mommy about a week ago. I was doing something in the kitchen and I can't remember if I dropped something or what, but I said, "Damn it!" without paying attention to what I was saying. And of course, Robert repeated it gleefully and ran around the house for 20 minutes saying it. And he's been saying it ever since. The really scary thing is that he uses it right! He can't figure out something with one of his toys and he says it. I tell him he can't have something or do something and he says it. I've been ignoring it because he's 20 months old and telling him to stop will just egg him on. :lol: I'm hoping that if he doesn't get a reaction he'll tire of saying it, but I feel really bad about it.

Anyone else have a Bad Mommy moment recently they want to confess?

[Lunacie]

I don't think my daughter was even that old when she learned that particular phrase from me. :lol:

My darling sister who didn't have kids at the time thought it was cute to teach my daughter to say "Soo-wee Piggie" when she saw a cop car. Not so funny when she was in the car with mommy and daddy one day and pulled up next to a police car. Of course it was warm weather and we had the windows open in our car and so did the cop. :smileroll

[Athena-Nadine]

I don't think my daughter was even that old when she learned that particular phrase from me. :lol:

My darling sister who didn't have kids at the time thought it was cute to teach my daughter to say "Soo-wee Piggie" when she saw a cop car. Not so funny when she was in the car with mommy and daddy one day and pulled up next to a police car. Of course it was warm weather and we had the windows open in our car and so did the cop. :smileroll

:rollingla

Mark has been the one with the filthy mouth the past month or so. He's been really stressed out about work (he's in the mortgage industry). I've been telling him and telling him to watch what he says around Robert, that Robert will repeat it, but he kept slipping. And of course, Robert never repeated a single word of it. But the ONE TIME I say something in front of him I get to listen to it for a week now!

It's so unfair. :lol:

[Ariste]

We taught our daughter to swear. We have explained to her that some people think that they are "bad" words and get their feelings hurt if they hear them, so she may only use them at home or in the car when only Daddy and I are there. I have to admit it was a little unsettling the first time we were in the car and someone cut me off and i heard from the backseat "Learn to drive asshole." She has only ever slipped a few times in front of grandma and not in years now. I've had several teachers comment on how when other kids are using "potty words" Tana looks at them like they are retarded and walks away. We figure it's better she learned it from us and knows how and when to use it appropriately.

[Athena-Nadine]

*...nods...* I think it's a good idea for them to learn it that way as well. It's just really hard to explain all of that to an almost 2 year old, you know? :)

[Ariste]

lol I know :) I curse like a sailor so it was an issue early on hehe

[Ceres]

Start using a similar word to "curse" and he will start using the other one, thinking that saying it "damn" is wrong. Like how about "spam!" or "blam" Soon he will start imitating that and you will be in the clear......this time :lol:

[Athena-Nadine]

Start using a similar word to "curse" and he will start using the other one, thinking that saying it "damn" is wrong. Like how about "spam!" or "blam" Soon he will start imitating that and you will be in the clear......this time :lol:
:lol: When he says it, it sounds like, "Dangit!" I keep trying not to laugh because it sounds so cute! I know it shouldn't, but it does. :lol:

[RainInanna]

hehe getting a good chuckle reading this thread. Luckily I don't have to watch my language yet but soooon.

[PandoraHealer]

yha... when my son is really pushing my buttons I say "GD" a lot....
then we were at the zoo and they have a free-flight lorikeet cage and a few came flying down and landed on him. and he said "oooh G**Dammit" REALLY loud- everyone turned around a looked. He doesn't have real clear english- but that was clear as day.
it was nice... he knows it a big emotional word and uses it when hes excited...

woohoo.... *rolls eyes*

I know how that goes... we're trying to break that habit ourselves....

BB-PH

[cesara]

I just called them adult words and my kids have been very good about it. :)

[Lorrie]

I worked in construction for 10 years, I had a very hard time remembering to watch my mouth with the grandkids, and still tend to occasionally slip up. ( :fofftopicSeveral years ago I had a dog that thought it's name was "damn you" every time anyone said that around him he would get all cute and excited!)

[Twinkle]

My son learned "damn it" from me as well. We were at the store once and I bought him a pretzel. He dropped it, looked down and said "damn it!"

I fell out laughing. Then he started laughing...and we looked like idiots to everyone else I'm sure.

It was impossible to correct him because I was laughing too hard. Fortunately for me, he outgrew it....

About a year ago a friend of mine and his 20 month old stopped by. The little boy bumped his head and I distinctly heard something that sounded suspiciously like f**k. He said it at least three times. Of course, I laughed (bad Twinkle)...and my friend was embarassed.

He seemed to outgrow it as well.

[ladyalpha]

My oldest was bad about saying shit at that age. She would say it repeatally, for no reason at all. We went through the grocery store with my mom one day with her saying it over and over. I never said a word but my mom was noticably disturbed by it. When we got out to the car my mom told me to correct her and make her stop. So I turned and looked at my daughter and told her calmly that it was enough now. She stopped and didn't say it any more after that.
I explained to my mom that I was not going to freak out over a word just because some people might. To give a huge reaction would just make it seem more fun and would encourage it more.

Later when she was older she sat at the table one night while we were eating dinner and did the same thing with the word asshole. Finally I told her if she wanted to use potty words she had to go to the room we go potty in. She calmly got up and went in the bathroom and went on a roll. My husband and I were about to die trying not to laugh. Finally after about five minutes I told her that was enough now..she came back and didn't say it again.
Apparently, she just had to spend enough time saying a word and get it out of her system. lol

We have always had the rule that they can swear in the garage, when we live in a place that has one. Here, they can swear if in the shed.
The reason we came up with this rule (and they are aware of our reasons) is because one, those areas are usually a man's realm. In there swearing happens..we want them to feel comfortable and not freak out when they hear it. And we feel it is important to have a place that you can express yourself freely without having to watch every word that comes out of your mouth. And two, we believe that if given a specific place they can swear at..and no other..then it limits their chances of slipping up where it wouldn't be appropriate and they could be punished (ie. school). The only word I have put a ban on is the 'F' word. I don't feel that word is appropriate for children to say, imo.

It has always worked for us. My son likes to slip out with a word every now and then and the older two get on him about it.
But, with two parents that swear so much that we honestly don't even realize we are doing it..I think we are doing well with the kids. They can utter whole sentences in a row without a cuss word..unlike their mom and dad. lol
And they notice any time we are reading a book and there are cuss words in it. Like the last Harry Potter book. They believe that there is a time and a place for things..and apparently books is not one of them. lol But it makes me wonder sometimes how they can listen to us and not say anything..then mildly freak out when they hear me read a swear out of a book. lol

[Willow Rosette]

LMAO I taught Toria early that no one what so ever should be saying those words but sometime adults are bad and do it by accident. Now that she is a little older she understands that a little more and knows sometimes adults say things that "are bad manners"....her words.

But she also knows if she isnt sure if a word is a good word or a bad word before trying it out at school or Grandma and Grandpa's house she can ask Mommy what the word means and if it is ok for her to use.

I constantly praise her after being around friends or family that curse letting her know how proud I am that she can see that they are not appropriate words and not to use them.

[Morr]

Oh I have a sailor's mouth...

Hubby always tells me I have to watch my language around the baby...

I don't. LOL

I can't! I have a filthy horrible mouth!!

Oy.

I am ignoring the fact that in less than a year I'll have to sugar coat every bad word out of my mouth because Scarlet will be able to repeat it.

And my mouth has much worse words than just "damn it" fly out of it...

I should start getting used to cursing in Hebrew LMFAO

[Zoritsa_Nepenthe]

Oh,I am glad to hear that my filthy mouth has some company.Both my kids have repeated words they've heard when they were little,and while I can't remember what hubby and I have told them about use of those words....neither swear,and I get reprimanded when I swear(which is alot).I can't say neither swear,because I am sure my oldest does(14),but he's been told that it is not respectful to swear in front of adults (until he himself is an adult) and other peoples young children.

Now a funny story about swearing,is about my friend's son.When he was two,she took him to a small carnaval.Placed him on those little cars that go round and round watched him go.Every time he passed her he screamed as loud as he could" F U".She was mortified.

[RainInanna]

Yeah my common bad word is the "f" word. Which is to say, a rather bad word! Maybe I should start saying it in french instead :lol:

[Athena-Nadine]

"Damn it" is the mildest on my list of curses. I've gotten a little better over the years, since I moved from NYC, but I still have a filthy mouth. And, like many of you, most of the time it's completely unconscious. :lol: I guess I need to get used to it and better start explaining that there are just some things we don't say in public.

[Sun Sprite]

All I can add here is the horror stories of babies whose first few words were strings of curse words, not exactly a baby book moment.

I wouldn't want a child to get to used to useing them every oter word, to know they exist is useful, to use them is not always necessary.

I don't use them often, generally only when extremely stressed of angry, then usually followed sometime soon with tears. What a mess!

[Ravenna Angellin]

I make up my own swear words these days... which needless to say, I swear a LOT! And since Finn is now turned into our little parrot... makes life VERY interesting.

"Son of a farvegnugen (bad spelling)" is my current favorite.

~ Ravenna

[Lyrien]

This thread is cracking me up!!! My oldest dropped the f-bomb when she was about 18 mos old. My husband freaked out and yelled at her. Later I asked why he flipped out so badly over her saying that particular word and he actually asked me "Where the f**k did she pick that up?" I kind of gave him that look and it hit him. LOL

Neither of our kids use bad words, they know them all now, but they don't use them. It surprises me since both their father and I are potty mouths, but they manage not to use them. They have both asked why they can't but we can, and it has been explained to them that they are more than welcome to use these words in the privacy of our home but that it is difficult not to say them around others when you are in the habit of using them at home. We have also told them that it makes them sound ugly and unintelligent. I think they are both secretly afraid of sounding stupid.



But she also knows if she isnt sure if a word is a good word or a bad word before trying it out at school or Grandma and Grandpa's house she can ask Mommy what the word means and if it is ok for her to use.



We've told our kids the same thing. However, this too will backfire. We were at Target about a month or two ago and someone near us said bastard. This is a word that we don't use, no real reason, we just don't. Anyhow, since my 11 year old had never heard it, after contemplating the meaning for several minutes she looked at me and loudly said..."Mom, what's a bastard?" There were about 10 people around us that immediately started cracking up.

[Willow Rosette]

We've told our kids the same thing. However, this too will backfire. We were at Target about a month or two ago and someone near us said bastard. This is a word that we don't use, no real reason, we just don't. Anyhow, since my 11 year old had never heard it, after contemplating the meaning for several minutes she looked at me and loudly said..."Mom, what's a bastard?" There were about 10 people around us that immediately started cracking up.

LMAO We have had things like that happen to. Except Toria is such a little Leo she has actually looked at a complete stranger and scolded them for saying a "bad word". All I could do was laugh, it was so darn funny.