Life is stagnating

[Kahlil the Heretic]

What can someone do when their life is becoming repetitive and stagnant? Its like...wake up, go to school with people that hate me, listen to lectures that I hate, ride the same bus with the same walled-in people, come home, force myself to do the minimal effort of work required, play Oblivion, and go to sleep.

What's funny is that before I came to this town, I thought that being here would be my salvation, you know? I had all these dreams and notions that I'd finally be with a clique of my old high school friends...there would be parties, I would have a girlfriend, I'd meet new and interesting friends at school, and there would always be something to do...but now that I'm here, most of my friends have graduated and left, the people at school are high-strung pricks, no one wants to party anymore and girls are completely repelled by me. Man, what happened? Its almost remotely funny. But I ain't laughing.

I've now realized that while the scenery is different, my life has remained completely the same. Every time I wait for some new station in life to come and save me, this ends up happening. I know that I should stop investing so much of myself in the future...there is so much beauty to be found in this present moment, but sometimes its so hard to reach out and grab it...

I just needed some like-minded people to hear me out. I wish I could have people like you as friends here in my daily life...peace.

[Nitefalle]

Try and do something just for you (for me, that would translate as taking a long bath, getting a massage, going hiking with a friend, going out to lunch & window shopping, etc). This often relaxes me enough that I can take a greater perspective or will inspire me to think outside the box.

OR you can try doing something different....rather than playing Oblivion, go out and do something you've never done before. Try going to one new place a week. It can be hard when you're by yourself, so maybe you can start with something like a show, where there are others there, and afterward you could talk about the shared experience with others - whether it's a museum show, a concert, an art exhibit, etc. Or just try going to a new place in nature you've never been - go hang at a new park and take a journal or a good book, try hiking a new trail, take a day trip to a place you've never been. (If you're still in my old home town, I can recommend some great day trips.) Maybe go to a new bar and chat some people up - I'm not saying these things are easy, they're not, but even a new environment might help lift your spirits and make you see things differently.

If you need to talk, you know you can PM me any time. :hugz:

[Nyctale]

I'm definitely very like-minded. I wish I had the answer, but I suppose if I did I wouldn't be like-minded anymore. :hrmm:

[spiral]

I know exactly what you mean, it's so easy to just slip into the same old routine. I agree with Nitefalle, it helps to do new things, be spontaneous. Go somewhere you've never been before, take up a new class, find a hobby that you enjoy. You can change your routine in small ways, like waking up an hour earlier and going for a walk before going to school, cooking a new meal for yourself that you've never had before. I know from experience that its hard to make yourself do something when you just feel like moping, but it really does help. If nothing else, know that you are definitely not alone in feeling this way.