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MonSno_LeeDra
December 24th, 2007, 03:55 PM
How do you get over the utter disgust that you feel towards a daughter-in-law? To give you a true indication of the depth of my disgust I wouldn't pi** in this girls mouth if her guts where on fire.

My son married her on a whim and its been down hill ever since. Within two months of thier marriage she walked out on him. He went to work she said she was going then just packed and left. No nothing.

Now nearly a year latter he's back visiting her but can't stay. He's calling for money again as she needs it for her bills. She moved back down with us and our son for about two weeks saying she finally discovered what it was she was missing and had given up then wham, vanish again.

Did I forget to mention it appears she came back down to our area to avoid a court issue. However, when she got down here she found another warrant for her for a car she lent to a friend that was abandoned. Once she found out about that she was gone.

Of course she did get mad at our son for not taking care of it. The fact he is not on any of the paper work and was legally prevented from doing so didn't matter. Then add he had a car turned back in that had so many problems the lawyer in Virginia gave him the name of a laawyer in West Virginia as he had a guarenteed case. His loving wife called the lot and said they turned it back in because they couldn't make payments.

She filled for divorce but the state told her she had no grounds and it had to be filled where we live. Ok, our son says he will but she tells him she won't sign it.

I could kick my son but he is so scared of being alone that he puts up with it rather than be alone or without love. When he's away from her his head clears up and he see's the crap but once she takes care of the small head it garbage again.

My eldest son hates her with a passion and refuses to have anythng to do with her. They lived with him and his wife for a bit but left him holding thier bills and such. Yet he still loves his brother for he let him move back in so he could get a better job and have no major bills. Now he runs his gas out and eats his paycheck up taking his wife out to dinner and such. It's just to bad he can't stay with her. Oh yes visit is fine for a day or two then he must leave.

My other daughter-in-law just was in the hospital for gall stones and pancreites (sp?). We'll my other crappy daughter-in-law who is supposed to be her best friend didn't want to go visit but my younger son made her. When he went out to get something she told them she could care less and didn't want to be thier as she had things to do.

Did I mention that the girl already had four children taken from her by the state! Did I mention that we had a medical issue but she couldn't be thier because her girlfirend was more important! Did I mention that she says her girlfriend who got married the same day as them supposedly has signed the lease for the trailor so my son can't stay yet the girlfriend says it's not in her name.

Did I say my son has lost at least two good jobs because she calls every half hour. That he lost one job because his loving wife had to have the car to take her girlfriend somewhere even though she new it would cost him his job. That he lost another job because she couldn't get back in time and he had to miss work for she wouldn't leave her friend.

I come from a back ground of an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. I have one relative that has asked if I wanted her to vanish for good with no evidence. A niece that says she is going to wipe the floor with her the first time they come down and she see's her.

It's mighty hard to keep a civil tongue when she's around. She told one person she couldn't not pay them because my wife cleaned out her account. That caused two problems, the person hse told new my wife and had been thier when the accounts where checked and I found out. I'll admit I told her to retract it or I would make sure no one ever found the body, yes anger.

Sorry i'm not Wiccan so inflicting harm is not beyond my boundaries. A strong does of Stregian and Italian influnce in early youth has also taught me turn about is fair play.

I really do not wish to harm her but she has used her last token of tolerance. The fact her x-boyfrined is in jail and calls her all the time does not help my situation. Too many people have told me sje is using my son until her boyfirend gets out. I worry he may do somehting stupid or be set up for something.

I do know her best girlfriends boyfrined is in the same jail cell.

Well thanks for letting me air this out and maybe some of the intent will subside. I just wish I could do something about this one.

LadyKaty
December 24th, 2007, 08:10 PM
Wow, she is a piece of work!

You don't have to like her. There's no redeeming qualities to her, and you damn well know it.

My advice to you? Don't let her in your house. She will likely steal whatever she can pawn, if she has the opportunity. Don't give your son money for her bills. Don't give your son money at all, because he will simply give it to her. If you let him hit rock bottom with her, he might figure it out, but if you subsidize his craptastic marriage, he won't.

Don't be nice to her, you have nothing to be nice about. She's a lying b!tch, and doesn't deserve any consideration at all.

But, for the love of all that is holy, don't let her in your house. You don't have to, it's YOUR house, and if your son says he won't come in if she's not allowed in, tell him you'll miss him, and get on with your life. This is the point where you have to leave him to let his mistakes come back to bite him in the ass.

PandoraHealer
December 24th, 2007, 08:11 PM
yuck.....

good luck with this one.... that sounds like a nightmare...

(((hugs)))

I have several candles to light tonight- i'll throw in another for you!!

BB-PH

TheWomanMonster
December 24th, 2007, 08:20 PM
I'm with Lady Katy on this one.

You and the family are in my thoughts.

LadyKaty
December 24th, 2007, 08:25 PM
I'm with Lady Katy on this one.

You and the family are in my thoughts.

Good to know I'm not the only one thinking that way.

I know it sounds mean, but until he has to face up to the fact that she is the worst mistake he's ever made, and deal with it himself? Nothing will get any better.

TheWomanMonster
December 24th, 2007, 08:27 PM
Good to know I'm not the only one thinking that way.

I know it sounds mean, but until he has to face up to the fact that she is the worst mistake he's ever made, and deal with it himself? Nothing will get any better.

My family did that to me when I was seeing my ex and needing money all the time to support our habits....

and here I am over a year later, clean, happy and functioning all on my own.
(and I met an amazing man too).
:cutie:

VroomBroom
December 24th, 2007, 08:40 PM
I say kill it and hide the body parts! :devil:

My SIL is married to a piece of shit that must be cut from the same cloth!
His idea of 'love' was to have....no, force her to swallow his drugs that he had for sale....the baggie burst in her stomach.....she survived (how we don't know)....but now she's so brain damaged from it, she's his puppet.

Good luck getting rid of bad garbage!!

Rasari
January 25th, 2008, 03:28 PM
Wow, she is a piece of work!

You don't have to like her. There's no redeeming qualities to her, and you damn well know it.

My advice to you? Don't let her in your house. She will likely steal whatever she can pawn, if she has the opportunity. Don't give your son money for her bills. Don't give your son money at all, because he will simply give it to her. If you let him hit rock bottom with her, he might figure it out, but if you subsidize his craptastic marriage, he won't.

Don't be nice to her, you have nothing to be nice about. She's a lying b!tch, and doesn't deserve any consideration at all.

But, for the love of all that is holy, don't let her in your house. You don't have to, it's YOUR house, and if your son says he won't come in if she's not allowed in, tell him you'll miss him, and get on with your life. This is the point where you have to leave him to let his mistakes come back to bite him in the ass.

I agree. Obviously you love your son and want to help him with his issues...

But its time for him to grow up and clue in... Or suffer the consequences of his choices: Marrying and tolerating such a sorry excuse for flesh.

To repeat the quoted poster:

Turn her away. Close your home to her.
Cut off your son financially. Don't give him money. And be honest with him as to WHY.

...

And stop keeping a civil tongue with her. Rip into her when the situation calls for it. Make her realize her meal ticket has run out. That she isn't going to get much money out of your son because you're not paying. That she isn't going to have a place to run back to. That you will no longer tolerate her crap.

Pull back the hand and dove, put forth the sword. Sounds like its long since over due.

Willow Rosette
January 25th, 2008, 04:04 PM
Im California and I believe in most states if someone is trying to get divorced 1) the other cant refuse the divorce and 2) he can claim he doesnt know where she is to serve her. Then all he has to do is publish it in a local paper (they put it way back where no one would read it) and after it being in there for a certain amount of time he can proceed with out her.

Just a thought. I will keep your whole family in my prayers, especially him that he can think well enough of himself to move past this.

Sun Sprite
January 25th, 2008, 04:08 PM
Reminds me of an ex-husband of mine....

Philosophia
January 25th, 2008, 04:12 PM
Wow, she is a piece of work!

You don't have to like her. There's no redeeming qualities to her, and you damn well know it.

My advice to you? Don't let her in your house. She will likely steal whatever she can pawn, if she has the opportunity. Don't give your son money for her bills. Don't give your son money at all, because he will simply give it to her. If you let him hit rock bottom with her, he might figure it out, but if you subsidize his craptastic marriage, he won't.

Don't be nice to her, you have nothing to be nice about. She's a lying b!tch, and doesn't deserve any consideration at all.

But, for the love of all that is holy, don't let her in your house. You don't have to, it's YOUR house, and if your son says he won't come in if she's not allowed in, tell him you'll miss him, and get on with your life. This is the point where you have to leave him to let his mistakes come back to bite him in the ass.

QFT

phoenixrising
January 25th, 2008, 04:24 PM
You sound like my mom, it appears as though you are vocal about it to your son which would be my only advice, my mom thought it best I learn the lesson on my own, I did but a heads up would of been nice..

Autumn
January 25th, 2008, 04:33 PM
Always check your state's divorce law. States like NY make it more difficult than the community-property states like Cali

Merrilyn
January 25th, 2008, 11:07 PM
Sorry, but..there are two sides to every story. If your son keeps going back to her, or taking the girl out to dinner and losing jobs cause she calls to much..he needs to take care of his own business. Can't put all the blame on this chick, no matter how vile you may think she is. He's a grown man.

I wish for the best outcome for all involved.

Nitefalle
January 31st, 2008, 09:12 AM
Yes, as long as you cushion your son, he will continue to think it's okay that he's with her, even though he admits to knowing she's not good for him. Maybe if your family unites against her, or performs an intervention for your son while she's away on one of her illegal flings, something could be achieved.