Chaotic

[Nature's Kiss]

When you feel like you are being pulled in 1,000 different directions & that you are doing too much, but none of it are things that you can stop doing. What do you do? How do you deal? Do you do spells? Do you meditate? Do you balance chakras? How do you keep yourself straight & from screaming and throwing a fit because it's just too much?

How do you get insight? How do you know where to turn when you are at a cross roads on more than ONE thing? What do you do when you feel like your life is up in the air and nothing is in your control?

I am reaching a breaking point right now and I just don't know how to deal.:sadeyes::awilly::collapse:I feel like a :fprisoner in my own world right now.

[Beatnik Bettie]

You're implying that chaos is a bad thing - not necessarily.
When things become chaotic, with a thousand different things happening at once, I embrace the chaos. I thrive on the uncertainty, the unpredictability, the realisation that I am not always in control over every little thing in my life...

[Nitefalle]

Whenever I feel overwhelmed, first off I have some alone time. That is essential for me to stay sane. Then, I may meditate with Frigga, as she usually helps me get a handle on things. Depending upon the subject, I may rant to my boyfriend about it and cry, or I may cry when I'm alone, whichever is more appropriate. If I allow myself a small time to wallow in the feeling, let it take me over and then release it (by screaming, crying, raging, whatever), then I find I have the mental faculties to analyze and make a game plan.

[Astara Seague]

I definatly take time for myself no phones no vistors nothing for a least a day in that time, I take a hot bath, get a massage or something I dont usally get, meditate, go to a private place..mines in the mountains and commune with nature then get some rest

[RainInanna]

You sit quietly by yourself every day - meditate and do chakra exercises if you like - spend time thinking about what's going on, and journal about it.

Accept that control is an illusion and the best thing to do is give it up to the universe. You will be able to handle what comes.

[cheddarsox]

I don't necessarily think order is better or more "normal" than chaos...that chaos means something is wrong, or that I should do something about it. Sometimes, chaos is where it's at...a boiling pot of interesting things cooking up in my life, community or world. It reminds me that I am NOT in control...which is actually rather comforting for me.

I ride it like a wave, and sometimes it tumbles me...no doubt. I feel my emotions, and let myself react. It's valid to do that.

When it is more than I can handle, I ask myself if it is really my "job" to handle it...and let go of what isn't my territory...sort of like watching a storm, knowing that once it passes things will be scrubbed clean of what went before.

I'm not always graceful about this...but that's OK too. Chaotic, ungraceful, unbalanced states are NOT a sign that one lacks spirituality, just that one is still alive.

cheddar

[Windsmith]

I start by taking a break from all those thousands of things that are pulling me. I take some time for me, and to attend to the things I neglected while I've been seeing to those thousand things - my relationship, my laundry, that sort of thing.

Then I take stock. How many of those thousand obligations really are up to me to complete, and how many did I take on out of my own love of melodrama? Some days I think I can't be happy if I'm not stressed. Then I realize, that's no way to live. I am not so indispensible to this world that I have to do everything myself. Indeed, there are many things that others could do better and get more enjoyment out of. If I take a long, hard look at the things that pull me, I realize that I can let go of a fair number of them, leaving me free to devote more, better, less diffuse energy to the pursuits that remain. That makes everyone happy in the long run, and it keeps me from going insane.

[RavensEye]

How do you keep yourself straight & from screaming and throwing a fit because it's just too much? Well earlier today I just cried and cried ( I am having one of those days that you described) and had no one around me for a time... now I am going to go sit in my favorite chair meditate and then have some tea. And depending on how I feel later I am going to do some candle work to relax and do some spell work t o get re-focussed.)

[Denikke]

How do you keep yourself straight & from screaming and throwing a fit because it's just too much?

To be quite honest....I don't. When things get to be too much, I do exactly that. I scream and cry and let all of those emotions out. Of course, not in public, but at home, definately.
I always take time for me in my every day life. Unfortunately it's not always enough and stuff still builds up. When things get to be too much, I do my best to compose myself until I have an opportunity to get into my own space, usually my room. Once there, I scream, I cry, I punch my pillow. Basically whatever helps me relieve some of the pressure that I'm feeling.
After I'm done with my hissy fit, I sit quietly and reflect on WHY I'm feeling so overwhelmed. Have I taken on too much? Are there other, deeper reasons? And I decide what I can or what I have to let go of. Sometimes that's the ritual aspects of my religion ( like meditating before bed, which I try to do everyday) and sometimes it means breaking committments (which I don't like to do, but it can sometimes be neccessary).
And then I'm off on my way again. By this time I usually feel SO much better and am ready to tackle the rest of my day and the rest of the committments that I have REcommitted myself to.
Like it's been said before, Chaos is not a bad thing. Just like anger is not a bad thing. It all depends on what you DO with it that designates whether it's positive or negative. Learn from the chaotic experiences in your life. Just as you learn from the order in your life, learn from the chaos. Know your limitations and understand when to abide by them and and know when to push and excede them.

Oh..and take a deep breath. Things don't stay hectic forever. Stuff will calm down and get better. Take time to laugh and smile every day. It can make a world of difference.:spinnysmi

Blessed Be
Denikke

[Nature's Kiss]

Thank you everyone.:woot:Just listening to these responses has MADE me feel calmer. Thank you, thank you!!!

I've been trying to get up earlier every day to take some quiet time for myself, and I realized that I hated being quiet this morning. Dh & DD were still sleeping so I was tiptoeing around and I just reminded myself to just breathe & relax & relish in the peace for a moment.

Unfortunately, there are some things that I just cannot stop "doing". I cannot stop being a mother or a wife or stop working or stop college or stop doing laundry & dishes! LOL! Sometimes I wonder if I could live off of just a few hrs. of sleep a night so that I can get everything done that I need too, but I know that I can't function without proper sleep so that's hooey. Things are just really different right now & I feel like I have no control. Not having total control is an important thing IMO, but having no control makes me feel like I'm not a person, or in control of my life & my decisions etc...

I really, REALLY need to start meditating more & I want to do yoga as I think that will help me as well.

Thank you everyone!

[RavensEye]

I've been trying to get up earlier every day to take some quiet time for myself:) heheh that is what I am doing right now :) IT is soooo nice and yet to quite at times to :D

Not having total control is an important thing IMO, but having no control makes me feel like I'm not a person, or in control of my life & my decisions etc... having the balance is tricky that is for sure and when it gets a mess there maybe hidden in there some lessons you need to learn. I know I found that true in my case.

I really, REALLY need to start meditating more & I want to do yoga as I think that will help me as well. That is what I am trying to do to. The yoga is a bit hard for me right now becuase of the area of nerve damage in my spine being re- injured. but I try to take it slowly....


And ~*Fae_ in the_ Sacred*~ glad your feeling calmer and I hope things get better for you :hugz:

[RainInanna]

Can your husband help? Can friends help? Or family? If they just do a load of laundry or dishes or bring a meal over sometimes it makes a big difference. Or even if you just get hubby to stay with the baby so you can go out for coffee for awhile, or just a walk. It's funny how even a little bit of time to ourselves can make a huge difference.

[Nature's Kiss]

:) heheh that is what I am doing right now :) IT is soooo nice and yet to quite at times to :D

having the balance is tricky that is for sure and when it gets a mess there maybe hidden in there some lessons you need to learn. I know I found that true in my case.

That is what I am trying to do to. The yoga is a bit hard for me right now becuase of the area of nerve damage in my spine being re- injured. but I try to take it slowly....


And ~*Fae_ in the_ Sacred*~ glad your feeling calmer and I hope things get better for you :hugz:

Thank you very much :)

Can your husband help? Can friends help? Or family? If they just do a load of laundry or dishes or bring a meal over sometimes it makes a big difference. Or even if you just get hubby to stay with the baby so you can go out for coffee for awhile, or just a walk. It's funny how even a little bit of time to ourselves can make a huge difference.

Mainly it's my DH being the lazy bum & not helping like I need him too. He is not used to me working full-time so he is still in the mindset that I'm a SAHM able to take care of everything. Lately (the past week) he has been a lot better with helping out.